Abandoned as a child bride, wife of India’s prime minister hopes he calls

[sarang]

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Dr. Randeri's interview contd:

Dr. Randeri is founder of SNDT women's university

Is Modi close to his family?
There is no discordant note within, but he is not close to them only because he left his family at the age of 17, 18. After that, he never ever got involved with them, nor met them socially unless they met accidentally.
In fact, the other day, I heard him say on TV that since 35 years he had not met any of his family members so he decided to meet them.
What we like is -- and we must give credit to his family also -- that they have never tried to impose themselves on him. That's called sanskar (culture).
Okay, you might be a big man, but that doesn't mean we have to follow you or even flaunt our connection.
This is something you observe when you meet his mother. She is transparent and she is so sure of the values that she has given him.
She told us that after he became chief minister he came to her for charansparsh (touch her feet) to seek her blessings. Mother Heeraben told him only one thing: 'I have to tell you, never take bribes.'
When we asked her, 'Don't you want to go and stay with him in the chief minister's bungalow?' She said, 'Me? Why should I go? I'll go mad.' She said, 'Mad'. She only speaks Gujarati. She said, 'What am I going to do there? He will be busy all day.'

 

[Raji Ram]

...........
His action was accepted by all - his family, the girl's family and the society. No one has accused him of desertion or ill treatment then or now. She is a pious hindu woman, does not want to renounce marriage nor hinder his life as a sevak. ...... .

Hinder his life as a sevak?

Does it mean that his spouse at home will not allow Sir Ji to do service?

 

[sarang]

Dr. Randeri's interview contd:

So they thought he would become a sadhu?
Yeah. He was already showing such an inclination. Everyday Narendra would do jaap (chanting of mantras), meditation. He would meditate for hours. So the family got very very worried, decided to take control of his life and get him married.
The family got together, found a bride for him, Jashodaben, image, left, took him to her village and got him married, then quickly brought him back.
Narendrabhai insisted that he didn't want to (marry). His elder brother was also married at a young age, so nobody listened to Narendrabhai.
That was the tradition in his family, like elsewhere in India some 50 years back. Nobody thought it was being done differently or awkwardly.


Then?
After marriage, Narendrabhai passed the matriculation exam and he was old enough. So the family said they would like to get the bride home (from her parents' house).
Narendrabhai said he was not interested. They said how can that be possible? He kept refusing. He told his mother, 'I want to go to the Himalayas. I want to become a sadhu, so you don't call her.'
It took some time and lots of effort on his part to convince his parents. He told his mother, 'Unless you give me your blessings I won't go either. But I am also very sure that I don't want to start sansar.'
Finally, his family gave him their nod to walk out of the marriage that they had forced upon the young boy.

"No, not at all. He came back home to Vadnagar after wandering in the Himalayas. His mother was home when he gave her a surprise. She was very very happy.
He told her, 'I have come only for a day, the next day I will be leaving for Ahmedabad to stay with my mama (maternal uncle).'
By that time, the family had reconciled that he doesn't want to lead a married life. In fact, they had already informed the girl that you please feel free, we are very sorry. They said we were extremely sorry for the girl, but he was so adamant about it.
As a matter of fact, Sheela, when I met Heeraben, she told me with tears in her eyes, 'This was a huge mistake of my life. His father, too, till he died, regretted very much that we forced the marriage upon Narendra.'
So, he did not come back from the Himalayas to start his married life.

 

[sarang]

They who belong to sanatana dharma or have a healthy respect for hindu culture and samskaras will not have any difficulty in seeing the issue of modi's marriage through hindu eyes and wisdom. Rest can go to hell, or shout expletives as dictated by their decayed moral values or google for more foul views.

 

[renuka]

They who belong to sanatana dharma or have a healthy respect for hindu culture and samskaras will not have any difficulty in seeing the issue of modi's marriage through hindu eyes and wisdom. Rest can go to hell, or shout expletives as dictated by their decayed moral values or google for more foul views.

Hell? We who follow Sanathana Dharma do not believe in existence of Hell...Sarang Ji are you still a Hindu?LOL

 

[prasad1]

No one said you have leave your wife at home, to be a sevak. Mind you he had political ambition. A true sevek does not have personal ambitions.
We all are sevek to some cause or other but we also responsible to our spouse.

AS Lata sings in Chitralekha
sansaar se bhaage phirte ho, bhagvaan ko tum kyaa paaoge?

is lok ko apnaa na sake, us lok me bhii pachataaoge.

 

[Vaagmi]

When a man becomes a Chief Executive of a Nation in the western Countries no one rummages through his school or college days to find out how many girls he flirted with or how many he took to bed and then ditched after promising tall. They do not do that because it is intrusion into the privacy of the individuals concerned. And that is rude behavior by world standards. We have here people who call a woman 17 years old as a child so that the PM of the country can be clubbed with one of those 5 yearold Yadav boys in one of those BIMARU states who married a girl of three years old. It is nauseating.

And I am not saying this because I am a Modi-fied citizen of this country. I will evaluate him on the basis of what he achieves in his full term. But this vambu(வம்பு) is like kuzhayadi(குழாயடி) gossip in which the flower seller woman the other day was bragging " my husband gives me stomachful of food, box full of sarees and ......full of pleasure" (என் வூட்டுக்காரன் எனக்கு ஒரு குறையும் வெக்கல. வவுரு நிறச்சு சோறு, பொட்டி நிறச்சு புடவ,........நிறச்சு ........).

 

[Vaagmi]

No one said you have leave your wife at home, to be a sevak. Mind you he had political ambition. A true sevek does not have personal ambitions.
We all are sevek to some cause or other but we also responsible to our spouse.

AS Lata sings in Chitralekha
sansaar se bhaage phirte ho, bhagvaan ko tum kyaa paaoge?

is lok ko apnaa na sake, us lok me bhii pachataaoge.

RSS as an organiZation has a right to have its own rules on how its various members should behave and what disciplines they should follow. When the organization asks our members for help we can offer our ideas liberally. LOL.

 

[prasad1]

RSS as an organiZation has a right to have its own rules on how its various members should behave and what disciplines they should follow. When the organization asks our members for help we can offer our ideas liberally. LOL.

Let us be clear here. RSS is not like sanyas from world. Even taking sanyas, I would have the same argument. You do not leave your duty.

I hope Krishna in Gita was not just blabbering.

Gita Chapter three establishes the fact by various points of view that the performance of prescribed duties is obligatory for everyone. Here Lord Krishna categorically and comprehensively explains how it is the duty of each and every member of society to carry out their functions and responsibilities in their respective stage of life according to the rules and regulations of the society in which one lives. Further the Lord explains why such duties must be performed, what benefit is gained by performing them, what harm is caused by not performing them. Plus what actions lead to bondage and what actions lead to salvation. All these points relating to duty have been described in great detail. Thus this chapter is entitled: The Eternal Duties of Human Beings.

Krishna explains:


Yadyadaacharathi shreshtasthath thadevetharO jana:
Sa yasthpramaaNam kuruthe lOkasssthadanuvarthathe -3.21


Whatever a great man does, the other men also do (imitate); whatever he sets up as the standard, that the world (people) follows.

Atal Bihari Vajpayee another RSS stalwart

He also joined the Rashtriya Swayamsevak Sangh (RSS) as a swayamsevak in 1939. Influenced by Babasaheb Apte, he attended the Officers Training Camp of the RSS during 1940-44 and became a "full-time worker" in 1947, technically a pracharak. He gave up studying law due to the partition riots. He was sent as a vistarak (probationary pracharak) to Uttar Pradesh and quickly began working for the newspapers of Deendayal Upadhyaya, Rashtradharma (a Hindi monthly), Panchjanya (a Hindi weekly) and the dailies Swadesh and Veer Arjun. Vajpayee never married and has remained a bachelor his entire life.

When you are a warrior you do not make excuses, you live within the confines of the social norms.

Vagaamiji let us accept that Modiji is human and made this terrible mistake in life. It may be too late the rectify this mistake, but please do not make excuses for his errors.

Now you think "dating" is same as "marriage"?

If child (under 14) marriage then it is illegal, may be that would have given a legal excuse. But Modiji was 18 Could he have refused marriage? He may have remained with his wife if she was "beautiful" (that is pure speculation).

 

[Raji Ram]

.......... But Modiji was 18 Could he have refused marriage? He may have remained with his wife if she was "beautiful" (that is pure speculation).

Dear Prasad Sir,

I too think so. May be, Modi Ji was forced to marry the girl whom he did not like!

 

[Vaagmi]

Prasadji
You asked for proof and it is here--please refer to the very first line of your op.

 

[prasad1]

Prasadji
You asked for proof and it is here--please refer to the very first line of your op.

You are right, i stand corrected the title did say Child. My mistake I apologize.
In the body of the article it said:

They were married in a small ceremony when she was 17 and he was 18.

 

[vbrahmani]

All said and done, it is still wrong in the part of Shri Modi to have done that. Neither as a traditional husband who is supposed to provide for his wife nor as a forward thinker who respects another person's life has he done his part.

It is something that India should not follow him on.

 

[kama]

"Aduthathu Ambujathe Partela------" song came to my mind I agree with Vaagami. Leader of largest democracy and gossip on his past does not sound cool. There is no evidence that he has been fooling around with other ladies either. After decades of separation may be he is happy serving the nation. Imposing on him to bring his wife back is unfair. Let us hope he does some good for our nation. Let God help him to succeed in this big effort of making India number one in the world!!

 

[krish44]

It is difficult to admire a leader who talks of beti bacho beti padao and refuses to support his wife.

 

[krish44]

"Aduthathu Ambujathe Partela------" song came to my mind I agree with Vaagami. Leader of largest democracy and gossip on his past does not sound cool. There is no evidence that he has been fooling around with other ladies either. After decades of separation may be he is happy serving the nation. Imposing on him to bring his wife back is unfair. Let us hope he does some good for our nation. Let God help him to succeed in this big effort of making India number one in the world!!

kamaji
which is the lesser evil -fooling around with ladies or abandoning wife?

 

[kama]

krish ji, they both are equally evil However, he left her after marriage and no other ladies in life indicate that he preferred to lead a "brhmacharya" life !! I have no clue as to what made him to marry ? If he is successful as a PM, I am all for it. His personal life will be overlooked by most of the "Janatha" JAI HIND !!

 

[Raji Ram]

It is difficult to admire a leader who talks of beti bacho beti padao and refuses to support his wife.

beewi is different from bEti, Krish Sir!

 

[krish44]

beewi is different from bEti, Krish Sir!

beewi is also somebody's beti. RRji