Are We As Good as We Think We Are?

[Raji Ram]

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Dear Renu,

Good question. But no one approaches me for such helps! :lol:

 

[Raji Ram]

........... So now no one asks me anything cos they know I dont bend rules.

Oh Renu! Then you are as good as you think you are!

 

[Raji Ram]

But............ I am NOT sure whether I am as good as I think I am!! :decision:

 

[krish44]

Dear Krish ji,


That way I can be blunt..I only render help for those I feel are deserving and not trying to take advantage of my kindness and position.

This extends even to relatives..sometimes some relatives call to ask me if I could give them a day off sick leave cos they have to attend some function etc.. I wont mince my words..I will just tell them 'sick leave is only for sick individuals..if you want to go for a function..use your annual leave..if you have used up your annual leave..take no pay leave..if that is still not possible..just go to work"

So now no one asks me anything cos they know I dont bend rules.

aeyo , renukaji
thank God not your relation.lol

it is stupid of organisations to have sick leave for cases not requiring hospitalisation.

they could very well add them to casual leave for employees . in my organisation , sick leave of 1 or 2 days do not require any doctors certificate .certification puts both the employees and doctors in embarrassing situations ., the former having to lie and the latter to having certify it .

similarly my company has stopped asking for medical consultation with doctors or prescription for over the counter medicines upto 100 rs . It puts pressure on doctors besides huge consultation fees to be born by patients

IMA is trying to put a stop on indiscriminate recommendation of anti biotics by doctors .

Doctors are becoming a law into themselves and add to the misery of overworked employees .

then there is something called group medical insurance for employees . once I had got a little hurt in a bike accident after a late night jaunt and Doctor made me stay home for three days . Wonder of wonders , the HR collected my doctors certificate and medical bills to submit to insurance company and paid me three days additional salary claimed from insurance for getting hurt and staying home

moral of the story . get hurt in accidents and get paid for it.I thanked the stray bull which roam around freely in delhi roads which I knocked over in the accident for the bounty

then this car insurance business . if one buys a car on loan which most do ,insistence on comprehensive insurance instead of third party costing a huge amount in thousands every year .If your car gets
a scratch , you are immoblised until the insurance fellow comes besides greasing palms to getting your claim processed quickly .

many low level employees in summer , to escape the heat , get admitted to friendly hospitals for unknown ailments requiring tests and stay in AC rooms with good food and take rest for a week or so. . company just keeps quiet and takes it as a welfare measure.

 

[renuka]

Oh Renu! Then you are as good as you think you are!

Dear RR ji,

When it comes to work I never bend rules cos that could land me in serious trouble...so its not as if I am good but I dont want to land myself in trouble.

But I know some doctors who are actually kind hearted and go a long way helping people by even breaking rules.

Once a soft spoken female doctor in the government hospital landed herself in trouble cos one patient came to see her with an asthma attack and he said he could not go to work the for today and also yesterday and he begged her for a back dated leave cert..she felt very sad for him and she gave him the leave cert.
We doctors are NOT supposed to back date any sick leave cert..but some doctors dont mind cos they feel pity when the patient begs them.

Now this patient had actually committed a crime on the date of the back dated sick leave cert and he used that back dated sick leave as an alibi to say he was actually in the hospital!

So the doctor had to explain why she actually gave the patient a back dated sick leave cert.

For me I never fall for tears..no matter how much a person begs me to give them a back dated leave cert..all I tell them is NO with a straight face.

Some of my friends dont mind back dating for school kids who are sick but even that I do not do cos the parents can use that as an alibi to state that they were in the clinic with their child.

So for me..tears dont work at all even for Mama or Machans!LOL

 

[krish44]

Dear Renu,

Good question. But no one approaches me for such helps! :lol:

RRji
we will approach ,but become a doctor or legislator or corporator , . there will be a huge crowd of favour seekers .

when I started my career , I was a centrl govt gazetted officer in a small town for couple of years . there were very few like me who had powers to attest documents . Every day at 4pm , A huge crowd would collect outside my office . My peon would line them up and collect his cut for stamping the document copies and let them into my room to collect my autograph. liked the experience since I was very young only 25 yrs and felt like a mini maharaja distributing favours .

 

[renuka]

My peon would line them up and collect his cut for stamping the document copies and let them into my room to collect my autograph. liked the experience since I was very young only 25 yrs and felt like a mini maharaja distributing favours .

Ha Ha..you have felt like a Maharaja and I have felt like Yama Dharmaraj!LOL

When we are on call at a government hospital the burial/cremation permit needs to be signed by the medical officer on duty.

So that time the morgue attendant will be coming to us several times a day to get our signature.

So Krish ji..that time you feel like Yama Dharmaraj!

 

[krish44]

Dear RR ji,

When it comes to work I never bend rules cos that could land me in serious trouble...so its not as if I am good but I dont want to land myself in trouble.

But I know some doctors who are actually kind hearted and go a long way helping people by even breaking rules.

Once a soft spoken female doctor in the government hospital landed herself in trouble cos one patient came to see her with an asthma attack and he said he could not go to work the for today and also yesterday and he begged her for a back dated leave cert..she felt very sad for him and she gave him the leave cert.
We doctors are NOT supposed to back date any sick leave cert..but some doctors dont mind cos they feel pity when the patient begs them.

Now this patient had actually committed a crime on the date of the back dated sick leave cert and he used that back dated sick leave as an alibi to say he was actually in the hospital!

So the doctor had to explain why she actually gave the patient a back dated sick leave cert.

For me I never fall for tears..no matter how much a person begs me to give them a back dated leave cert..all I tell them is NO with a straight face.

Some of my friends dont mind back dating for school kids who are sick but even that I do not do cos the parents can use that as an alibi to state that they were in the clinic with their child.

So for me..tears dont work at all even for Mama or Machans!LOL

well known politicians and corporates get admitted to hospitals in delhi for imaginary ailments in case the arrest is imminent and anticipatory bail fails in court .It is in fact very common.

giving any cetificate or attestation is hazardous . all face it . I faced it as a gazetted officer in early stages of career . [see another post of mine]. things like passport , birth/death ,caste etc require certification by appropriate people . Many times affadavites certified by notary or oath commissioner are needed

Once I got into difficulty , when govt college of engg in chennai wanted attestation of deputy secretary and above only of central govt for domicile certicate in delhi when i had a birth certificate that my son was from delhi .They insisted on it and I had to locate one to oblige me

I understand your predicament

 

[Raji Ram]

RRji
we will approach ,but become a doctor or legislator or corporator . .........

NO WAY! I am 'arai ticket' traveler in Indian Railways! :lol:

 

[krish44]

NO WAY! I am 'arai ticket' traveler in Indian Railways! :lol:

RRJI
pl do not be proud . we are also only arai ticket .

I never get tatkal on account of that where arai ticket rules do not apply .

 

[Raji Ram]

OMG! What I meant was this:

At 'arai ticket' age, I can never dream of becoming a doctor, gazetted officer or a lawyer!! :nono:

 

[krish44]

OMG! What I meant was this:

At 'arai ticket' age, I can never dream of becoming a doctor, gazetted officer or a lawyer!! :nono:

with your knowledge of in tamil , music ,literature and capacity to write travelogues and poems
you are being modest ' you translation prowess for translating tamil into good engilsh and IT is a deadly combination .

when my wife went to argentina, I required spanish translation of all documents for visa . I located a small agency with a dozen online computer terminals in a three BHK all staffed by young girls knowing different indian languages for translation.besides ,they were sending documents abroad and getting translations into foreign languages done with 24 hrs committed delivery . translations are a multi crore business in delhi.

you are a potential gold mine .you do not know it

 

[vaithehi]

Actually now a days individual interests take more precedence over society's interests..Even though individual voice is not given notice now individual freedom is now admired and eulogised..This leads to decay of society..No one will agree..But that is the bitter truth..we are now living in a concrete jungle or individual island..having only face book, internet social media contacts rather than real contact and we feel very safe because if we want to get separated we can do it easily...we live more for freedom than social norms

 

[krish44]

Actually now a days individual interests take more precedence over society's interests..Even though individual voice is not given notice now individual freedom is now admired and eulogised..This leads to decay of society..No one will agree..But that is the bitter truth..we are now living in a concrete jungle or individual island..having only face book, internet social media contacts rather than real contact and we feel very safe because if we want to get separated we can do it easily...we live more for freedom than social norms

you know vaithehi ji
Individual freedom may not conflict with needs of society .there is no reason why individual freedom should not be cherished .

facebook , internet media contacts are not made with the idea of making or breaking at will .
they are made for sharing ideas , knowledge of mutual interest .these relationships also end when there is nothing left to share and not for any other reason

all of us to a certain extent selfish .we live for our self not to please anyone else

 

[renuka]

Actually now a days individual interests take more precedence over society's interests..Even though individual voice is not given notice now individual freedom is now admired and eulogised..This leads to decay of society..No one will agree..But that is the bitter truth..we are now living in a concrete jungle or individual island..having only face book, internet social media contacts rather than real contact and we feel very safe because if we want to get separated we can do it easily...we live more for freedom than social norms

Hi Vaithehi...where were you yaar..I was missing you!

You missed lots of nice posts here...we had thread on Padma Lakshmi too..

Good to see you again. I only have TB forum as a social media contact.

Facebook I dont like it.

 

[Raji Ram]

........... you are a potential gold mine .you do not know it

​May be because of my horoscope!! :lol:

 

[vgane]

RRji
we will approach ,but become a doctor or legislator or corporator , . there will be a huge crowd of favour seekers .

when I started my career , I was a centrl govt gazetted officer in a small town for couple of years . there were very few like me who had powers to attest documents . Every day at 4pm , A huge crowd would collect outside my office . My peon would line them up and collect his cut for stamping the document copies and let them into my room to collect my autograph. liked the experience since I was very young only 25 yrs and felt like a mini maharaja distributing favours .

Krishji,

Was it Indian Administrative service?

 

[krish44]

Krishji,

Was it Indian Administrative service?

no vgane ji . was a scientist in central govt Rand D in bhopal / MP selected thru UPSC . I walked off after two years since I was doing nothing substantial than attesting certificates .

 

[krish44]

​May be because of my horoscope!! :lol:

you believe in horoscopes. . horoscopes can be changed in minutes . approach me . I have expertise related to that . you do not know some of my talents .I can change not so good ones to excellent ones in minutes . I have done that for quite a few parents absolutely free as social service .lol

 

[Raji Ram]

No thanks, Krish Sir! I am a believer of 'avan indri OraNuvum asaiyAdhu'! I know some astrologers who can give exact predictions

but I don't approach them to know my future!

BTW, one mAmi changed the horoscope of her daughter by just moving the lagnam to the adjacent house to avoid kEthu in the

fifth place from the lagnam but forgot to change the time of birth. Even I could find the error in horoscope within minutes!! :spy:

 

[krish44]

No thanks, Krish Sir! I am a believer of 'avan indri OraNuvum asaiyAdhu'! I know some astrologers who can give exact predictions

but I don't approach them to know my future!

BTW, one mAmi changed the horoscope of her daughter by just moving the lagnam to the adjacent house to avoid kEthu in the

fifth place from the lagnam but forgot to change the time of birth. Even I could find the error in horoscope within minutes!! :spy:

there are many incompetent people who do not know how to go about it
see what happens in most horos .made in olden days they are hand cast .

consulting some panjangam . if we use the computer ,different panjangam , minor changes in place , time of birth . any of them could give a different horoscope with a different star also in some cases .

time of birth, place of birth minor changes are possible . for ex it is difficult to know exactly when you were born the margin of error could be 30 minutes to an hour within the delivery room . place of birth , lat and long within a city vary for ex in chennai , we never ask whether you were born in tambaram or mylapore . these gives a margin for recast . computer gives higher accuracy in casting .. you can use rules and books of famous fellows raman or lahiri to cast. see you need to be professional in recasting. there needs to be no cooking up . if you know what you are doing you might do a decent job of it .you can cast a number of times using a computer. to get good results . Each casting with one set of time ,place parameters will take a few minutes.keep iterating for best results using the computer

I have not wasted away my retirement . i have become a professional in many fields like this .I have got people married with my horos recast. they are all extra happy .I follow strict rules given in panchangams for casting . no cheating of any sort. I do not allow girls with ayilyum ,kettai and such stars to suffer unnecessarily due to horos. there may be casting errors due to reasons mentioned . I only repair them . . horos I cast have no doshams of any sort including chevvai. .What more can any TB girl want in horos .I can boast that I am doing a great service to tamil community .lol

I do not predict anybodys future . I do not know my own . I would not try even such a thing . when I see some parents weep about horos and stars , doshams etc , I give a helping hand

Also I compare horos also for ten poruthams , dasa , dosham if any and also papa samya which kerala iyers believe in strongly .

frankly I do not believe in horos . I learnt about it out of sheer curiosity and found people spend months matching horos and keep rejecting good girls on the basis of horos .match .many marriages of girls get delayed because of stupid beliefs. why should a person suffer because , he/she is born at a particuler time or place[ place is used for long. and lat. in horos] when they do not use the exact info. for casting and not use accurate calculater.we should not condemn a person on that account . if people are rejecting matches on that basis , it is without any foundation .

even my own children , I did not match horoscopes. If they have been dating and made a commitment, they need to keep their word .This is morality .I do not think I have lost anything on this account.

If you think I am talking thru my hat . you try recasting your own horoscope using any horos casting software and see the results .you are IT savvy . you can get the result in minutes. it might in all probability be different from what has been cast manually years back . you might even end up with a next or previous star due to use of computer for casting with different position of grahams also.

 

[indianassault]

Agreed..but as long as these tendencies are latent in us and even if we do not "misbehave" due to Viveka and cultural conditioning we still cant call ourselves as "good" isnt it?

None of us have really tested ourselves in the true sense...what lies hidden deep beneath our subconscious we ourselves do not know....so from where do we actually get the confidence to think that we are better than anyone else or we are so called "good"?

If we keep this in mind that we really do not even know ourselves we wont dare think of judging another and rather live and let live

Right madam. We dont test ourselves in the true sense. I read somewhere, in a person we need to look out for 2 things - his patience while he has nothing and attitude when he has everything.

I see FB going viral over Diggy s relationship and Chiranjeevi s queue matter, but I appreciate DIggy for admitting it and Chiranjeevi for joining the queue. I am not sure if I would have done the same thing . So as you said, we need to give each one their "space" rather than judging.

One thing i learned by experience is , you can still think your selves good, but since you are good, don not expect others to be also similar. People are waiting to take advantage.