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"When you become comfortable with uncertainty, infinite possibilities open up in your life." ~ ​

Eckhart Tolle

 

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Once a poor boy fell in love with a rich man daughter. Boy loved her a lot so one day he proposed to her.

Girl rejected him by saying, “Listen, your monthly salary is even less than my daily expenses. How can i live with you? How could you even think of coming to me and ask me?? I can never ever love you. Forget about me and go find someone of your level to get engaged.”






10 years later they stumbled into each other in a shopping mall.

Girl recognized him and said, “Hey!! You.. how are you?? I am married now. He is very smart and do you know how much my husband’s salary..!! it’s 20,000$ per month. Can you beat that??

Boy's eyes got wet hearing those words from same person. A few seconds later her husband came around.

Before the girl could say a word, seeing the guy, her husband said, “Sir, you are here! Have you met my wife?"

“This is my boss. I am one those working for his 100 million $ project.” husband said looking at his wife.

Husband continued, “He is a very good person and do you know my dear, My boss loved a girl but he couldn’t win her heart that’s why he remained unmarried. How lucky would that girl have been, if she married my boss now..!! What an unlucky girl she us".

Girl got totally shocked but couldn’t say a word after that.

Moral:

Life is too short, so don’t be too arrogant and proud of yourself and look down on others. Things change, times change. Don’t under estimate anyone because everyone can have a great future.

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Guru Ji,

Ten years can make such a change? Great! :thumb:

Anyway, now, girls are very smart! They wait till they turn 30 and then find a successful guy to marry! :hug:

The above story might never happen in real life!

 

[rgurus]

Have we not seen people who were nonentities who became millionaires within five years. Probably, he was one such person.
you have said that the story narrated above can never happen in real life. But you will agree that real life can at times be stranger than fiction. This probably is one such case.
some stories are factual and some others are suggestive trying to explain some underlying morals. This may be viewed as one such. At this point of time, ler me tell another story that is funny. Once President of America was going along with his wife in his car. As they were slowing down due to traffic, the first lady who was sitting by his side pointed out a poor man walking in the street and told the president that he was her ex lover. Immediately president stated " Had you married that man, by now you will be walking with him begging for alms". Immediately the first lady quipped " had I married that man, he would have become American President". Eventhough it is a joke, in real life, anything may happen.
I agree with you that todays girls are too smart and so men have to be very careful in the selection of their spouse.
let me thank you for your comments. From some of your writings , I find that you are a keen observer of details to the last and I commend you for that.

 

[Raji Ram]

Thank you very much, Guru Ji!

 

[rgurus]

Sad Heart Touching Story - Losing Everything in Anger

A couple had been married for 10 years but they didn’t have any child. They stayed with each other and really hoped that they will have a child before their 11th anniversary. Their family and friends were pursuing them to get a divorce but they didn’t want to get separated because of strong love between them.



One day while husband was returning home from work, he saw his wife walking down street with a man. They were looking very happy. After a week again husband saw his wife with same man again. Husband saw them many times roaming places with each other. Hugging each other.




One evening while husband was returning home, he saw that man dropping her off with a good bye kiss on her cheek. Husband got angry and sad.

After a hectic day at work, Husband was at home. While he was holding a glass jug to get water, phone rang. He received the call. As soon as he picked the call, a voice came form other side saying, “Hello dear, I will be coming to your home this evening to see you as i promise, I hope..”

Husband hung up call before hearing any further and thought to himself, “It was a male voice and i am sure it’s same person i have seen with my wife many times.” He thought he had lost his wife to another man. The glass jug which he held in his hand slipped and got shattered into pieces.

Listening to noise, his wife came running to him and asked, “Is everything okay??”

In anger he pushed his wife. She fell down and wasn’t moving. Few seconds later husband realized that she fell on the broken jug pieces and a large piece has pierced her. Husband tried to feel her breath, heartbeat but there wasn’t any.

His wife was dead. He saw an envelope in her hand. He took it and read it. He was shocked by what was written in it.

It reads :

“My loving husband, words can’t express how i feel so… I had to write down this letter. I have been seeing a doctor for over a week and i wanted to be sure before giving you the big news.

Doctor has confirmed that I am pregnant. Our baby is due 5 months from now. The doctor whom i have been seeing is my long lost brother whom i contacted for the first time after our marriage. He promised me to take care of me and baby and will give us best care without any fee. Since I wanted to give a surprise to you, I didn't reveal it to you and kept it as a secret.

He promised to have dinner with us tonight. I had to write to you because i am so happy. Thanks for staying by my side.

Your loving wife.”

Letter fell from his hands. At same time he heard knock on the door it was same man he had been seeing with his wife. He came in and said, “Hello, I am John, your wife’s brother…….” Suddenly he noticed his sister lying in pool of blood. He rushed her to hospital where she was confirmed dead.

 

[rgurus]

"Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change." ~ ​

Jim Rohn

 

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"In our culture, we grow up thinking that failure is a terrible thing, that it’s a setback, or worse, the end. Often it turns out to be the beginning of something better." ~ ​

Katherine Schwarzenegger

 

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“It is a simple law of human psychology that your thoughts will tend to revolve around what you value most. If it is money, you will choose a place for your apprenticeship that offers the biggest paycheck. Inevitably, in such a place you will feel greater pressures to prove yourself worthy of such pay, often before you are really ready. You will be focused on yourself, your insecurities, the need to please and impress the right people, and not on acquiring skills. It will be too costly for you to make mistakes and learn from them, so you will develop a cautious, conservative approach. As you progress in life, you will become addicted to the fat paycheck and it will determine where you go, how you think, and what you do. Eventually, the time that was not spent on learning skills will catch up with you, and the fall will be painful.” ~ Robert Greene, Mastery

 

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“In essence, when you practice and develop any skill you transform yourself in the process. You reveal to yourself new capabilities that were previously latent, that are exposed as you progress. You develop emotionally. Your sense of pleasure becomes redefined. What offers immediate pleasure comes to seem like a distraction, an empty entertainment to help pass the time. Real pleasure comes from overcoming challenges, feeling confidence in your abilities, gaining fluency in skills, and experiencing the power this brings. You develop patience. Boredom no longer signals the need for distraction, but rather the need for new challenges to conquer.” ~ Robert Greene, Mastery

 

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wonder if this is how people always get close: They heal each other’s wounds; they repair the broken skin.” ~ Lauren Oliver, Pandemonium

 

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It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ~ John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

 

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The miracle that happened

Like any good mother, when Karen found out that another baby was on the way, she did what she could to help her 3-year-old son, Michael prepare for a new sibling.



The pregnancy progressed normally for Karen, an active member of the the Creek United Methodist Church in Morristown, Tennessee, USA.

In time, the labor pains came. Soon it was every five minutes, every three, every minute. But serious complications arose during delivery and Karen found herself in hours of labor.

Finally, after a long struggle, Michael’s little sister was born. But she was in very serious condition. With a siren howling in the night, the ambulance rushed the infant to the neonatal intensive care unit at St. Mary’s Hospital, Knoxville, Tennessee.

The days inched by. The little girl got worse. The pediatrician had to tell the parents there was very little hope. Be prepared for the worst. Karen and her husband contacted a local cemetery about a burial plot. They had fixed up a special room in their house for their new baby they found themselves having to plan for a funeral.

Michael, however, kept begging his parents to let him see his sister. “I want to sing to her,” he kept saying.

Week two in intensive care looked as if a funeral would come before the week was over. Michael kept nagging about singing to his sister, but kids are never allowed in Intensive Care.

Karen decided to take Michael whether they liked it or not. If he didn’t see his sister right then, he may never see her alive. She dressed him in an oversized scrub suit and marched him into ICU. He looked like a walking laundry basket.

The head nurse recognized him as a child and bellowed, “Get that kid out of here now. No children are allowed.”

The mother rose up strong in Karen and the usually mild-mannered lady glared steel-eyed right into the head nurse’s eyes, her lips a firm line, “He is not leaving until he sings to his sister.”

Then Karen towed Michael to his sister’s bedside. He gazed at the tiny infant losing the battle to live. After a moment, he began tossing. In the pure-hearted voice of a 3-year-old, Michael sang:

“You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy when skies are gray.”

Instantly the baby girl seemed to respond. The pulse rate began to calm down and became steady.

“Keep on singing, Michael,” encouraged Karen with tears in her eyes.

“You never know, dear, how much I love you, please don’t take my sunshine away.”

As Michael sang to his sister, the baby’s ragged, strained breathing became as smooth as a kitten’s purr. “Keep on singing, sweetheart.”

“The other night, dear, as I lay sleeping, I dreamed I held you in my arms”.

Michael’s little sister began to relax as rest, healing rest, seemed to sweep over her. “Keep singing, Michael.” Tears had now conquered the face of the bossy head nurse. Karen glowed.

“You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. Please don’t take my sunshine away…”

The next day,…the very next day…the little girl was well enough to go home.

Author Unknown

Story submitted by Cindy.




Never give up on the people you love. Love is so incredibly powerful.




– The Woman’s Day Magazine called it, “the miracle of a brother’s song”.

– The medical staff called it a miracle.

– Karen called it a miracle of God’s love.




This is a true story happened in 1992 in Tennessee, USA. The baby girl’s name is Marlee. As of 2012, Marlee is 20 years old and she thinks she is normal like any other girl.

 

[rgurus]

Hi all, I would like to share a story with you, a person who has been a source of inspiration to each and everyone of our family member.









She was the eldest of a family of 7 girls and 1 boy. Of these, 2 children died shortly after birth. Right now, only 2 of them are alive.




At the age of 16, my grandma got married as a second wife to a 40 year old man. She lost her husband 1 year after her wedding. By God’s grace she had a son whom she considered a solace. But that didn’t last, as the son passed away shortly too! Ultimately, by the age of 25 she lost her entire family! Nevertheless, she then dedicated her life towards the upbringing of each and every child in the family. This was the reason she was loved and respected by everyone in our family.




Last year, by this same time, my marriage was fixed. Being the oldest grandchild in my family, she was very happy and said she would bring up my kid too! I was in tears and said of course you will have to! Shortly before my engagement, she had a fall one night when sleeping. It left her right hand fractured. There began all the trouble. She was 83 years old by then.




At my engagement function, all she could do was sit quietly in one place. It was a hard hitting reality for all of us since we got used to seeing her doing the entire household chores all by herself!




There was hardly a month left for my wedding. She developed a strange mental depression since that time, imagining things, fearing death, longing to see my wedding and the like. All of us assured her that she would be the first person to bless me at my wedding. But nature is inevitable as we all know.




She was admitted in the ICU for nearly 20 days. All day we would stay at the hospital, praying for her. One fine day it happened-what we all feared. She was no more, and left all of us teary-eyed.




My dad was the eldest child in the family, so naturally he had to do the rites. But our family stopped him since I had my wedding the next month. We (me, dad, mum and sis) weren’t allowed to even see her face! Imagine our plight!




At my wedding, her garlanded photo was in front of me and my husband. I was speechless, moved to tears. I knew, my dearest grandmama will bless me as ever!




Even today, we don’t feel her loss, I only feel why she isn’t around to share our joys and sorrows.




I’d like to conclude by saying not only parents, grandparents need our affection and care! They are precious, do not lose them at any cost!!

By visitor Shenba Srinivasan

 

[rgurus]

A true story, happened in 1892 at Stanford University:









They reached out to the great pianist Ignacy J. Paderewski. His manager demanded a guaranteed fee of $2000 for the piano recital. A deal was struck and the boys began to work to make the concert a success.






The big day arrived. But unfortunately, they had not managed to sell enough tickets. The total collection was only $1600. Disappointed, they went to Paderewski and explained their plight. They gave him the entire $1600, plus a cheque for the balance $400. They promised to honour the cheque at the soonest possible.




“No,” said Paderewski. “This is not acceptable.” He tore up the cheque, returned the $1600 and told the two boys: “Here’s the $1600. Please deduct whatever expenses you have incurred. Keep the money you need for your fees. And just give me whatever is left”. The boys were surprised, and thanked him profusely.




It was a small act of kindness. But it clearly marked out Paderewski as a great human being.




Why should he help two people he did not even know? We all come across situations like these in our lives. And most of us only think “If I help them, what would happen to me?” The truly great people think, “If I don’t help them, what will happen to them?” They don’t do it expecting something in return. They do it because they feel it’s the right thing to do.




Paderewski later went on to become the Prime Minister of Poland. He was a great leader, but unfortunately when the World War began, Poland was ravaged. There were more than 1.5 million people starving in his country, and no money to feed them. Paderewski did not know where to turn for help. He reached out to the US Food and Relief Administration for help.




The head there was a man called Herbert Hoover — who later went on to become the US President. Hoover agreed to help and quickly shipped tons of foodgrains to feed the starving Polish people.




A calamity was averted. Paderewski was relieved. He decided to go across to meet Hoover and personally thank him. When Paderewski began to thank Hoover for his noble gesture, Hoover quickly interjected and said, “You shouldn’t be thanking me Mr. Prime Minister. You may not remember this, but several years ago, you helped two young students go through college. I was one of them.”




The world is a wonderful place. What goes around comes around!

 

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“‘Let us pick up our books and our pens,’ I said. ‘They are our most powerful weapons. One child, one teacher, one book and one pen can change the world.'” Malala
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“Peace in every home, every street, every village, every country – this is my dream. Education for every boy and every girl in the world. To sit down on a chair and read my books with all my friends at school is my right. To see each and every human being with a smile of happiness is my wish.”
Malala
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[rgurus]

The whole point of an intimacy is to serve each other in growth and love, hopefully in better ways than we can serve ourselves. Otherwise, why engage in intimacy if your growth and love are served more by living alone? Intimacy is about growing more than you could by yourself, through the art of mutual gifting.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

 

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“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ~ John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

 

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Black or White?

by STEPHEN




When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson I learned that day.




I was convinced that “I” was right and “he” was wrong – and he was just as convinced that “I” was wrong and “he” was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson.




She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other. In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. “White,” he answered.






I couldn’t believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.




The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, “White.”




It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side it was black.




Sometimes we need to look at the problem from the other person’s view in order to truly understand his/her perspective.

 

[rgurus]

“The whole point of an intimacy is to serve each other in growth and love, hopefully in better ways than we can serve ourselves. Otherwise, why engage in intimacy if your growth and love are served more by living alone? Intimacy is about growing more than you could by yourself, through the art of mutual gifting.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man

 

[rgurus]

“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ~ John Joseph Powell, The Secret of Staying in Love

 

[rgurus]

Think of it this way: There are two kinds of failure. The first comes from never trying out your ideas because you are afraid, or because you are waiting for the perfect time. This kind of failure you can never learn from, and such timidity will destroy you. The second kind comes from a bold venturesome spirit. If you fail in this way, the hit that you take to your reputation is greatly outweighed by what you learn. Repeated failure will toughen your spirit and show you with absolute clarity how things must be done. In fact, it is a curse to have everything go right on your first attempt. You will fail to question the element of luck, making you think that you have the golden touch. When you do inevitably fail, it will confuse and demoralize you past the point of learning. You have everything to gain.” ~ Robert Greene, Mastery

 

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The only real impediment to [mastering a skill] is yourself and your emotions—boredom, panic, frustration, insecurity. You cannot suppress such emotions—they are normal to the process and are experienced by everyone, including Masters. What you can do is have faith in the process. The boredom will go away once you enter the cycle. The panic disappears after repeated exposure. The frustration is a sign of progress—a signal that your mind is processing complexity and requires more practice. The insecurities will transform into their opposites when you gain mastery. Trusting this will all happen, you will allow the natural learning process to move forward, and everything else will fall into place.” ~ Robert Greene, Mastery

 

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It was the coldest winter ever. Many animals died because of the cold.
The hedgehogs, realizing the situation, decided to group together to keep warm. This way they covered and protected themselves; but the quills of each one wounded their closest companions.
After awhile, they decided to distance themselves one from the other and they began to die, alone and frozen. So they had to make a choice: either accept the quills of their companions or disappear from the Earth.

Wisely, they decided to go back to being together. They learned to live with the little wounds caused by the close relationship with their companions in order to receive the heat that came from the others. This way they were able to survive.
Author Unknown
The best relationship is not the one that brings together perfect people, but when each individual learns to live with the imperfections of others and can admire the other person’s good qualities.