Growing Old

[Brahmanyan]

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I got a wonderful Power Point Presentation on "Growing Old" forward to me. As I could not transfer the Power Point Presentation properly I give only the message here under:


Water-colours of
Marcel Reynaert

Getting older is the only way to live long.

The age of maturity is that age at which one is still young but is much more resourceful.

What most torments me about the foolishness of my youth, is not the crazy things I have done...but the fact that I can’t go back and do them again.

To get old is to go from passion to compassion.

Many people never reach eighty because they waste time trying to stay at forty forever.

At twenty, desire rules, at thirty, reason rules, and at forty, it’s time for good sense and judgement.

Whoever is not beautiful at twenty, strong at thirty, rich at forty, nor wise at fifty, will never be beautiful or strong or rich or wise.

When we pass sixty, there are fewer things that we think are absurd.

Young people think the old are ridiculous.

The old know that the young are ridiculous.

A mature person goes back to find the serenity once enjoyed as a child

Nothing passes by as quickly as the years.

When I was young I was told “You’ll see when you’re fifty”. I’ve passed fifty but I don’t see anything .

In the eyes of youth there burns a flame. In the eyes of the old there shines a light.

The initiative of youth and the experience of the older each have equal value.

There is a small child inside each one of us.

Each age calls for it’s own appropriate behavior.

Young people travel in groups, adults travel in pairs, and old people walk alone.

Happy the one who was young as a youth, and happy the one who is wise in old age.

We all want to grow old, and we all want to deny we have arrived there.

WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT THE PASSING YEARS - HOW TO LIVE THEM, AND NOT JUST ACCUMULATE THEM,

Musica: Roger Williams
THE END
ray2:
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[renuka]

Dear Brahmanayan ji,

Nice..the like option seems to be missing these days..so could not click like.


Actually I feel that most humans fear old age hence try to remind themselves of youth somehow..and try to compare and contrast old age with youth to make themselves feel better.

Old age is somehow linked with wisdom but in reality the old age can mimic the infantile period.

I am sure some of us would have seen some fussy old people who behave like little kids.

All I can say is as we age the human mind tends to hold on to some aspects of youth and when the body is all worn out all and too weak to be physically capable all an old person can do is throw tantrums like a little kid. That is the only "youth" left that the mind still knows.


So is old age all that different from childhood?

Childhood is when we are have curtailed freedom and live under the care of parents..old age is also when we have curtailed freedom living under the care of family or caretakers.

So aging is a stark reminder that the only place you have to be free is your mind cos your body is never 100% free from its environment and the dictates of health.

As long as one is in prefect control of his/her mind time literally stands still.

 

[Naina_Marbus]

Brahmanyan Sir: Here is the link to your original post.
1) With Music:
http://squadrons-shipmates-of-the-f...quarelas-Water-colours-of-Marcel-Reynaert.pps
After looking at each slide, click to go to the next slide.

2) Without Music
Geniet Enjoy

 

[Raji Ram]

Thank you Brahmanyan Sir and Naina Sir for the lovely link!

Enjoyed the music, paintings and the messages.

 

[Raji Ram]

There is a specific time for doing various duties in our lives.

This song explains: Ra Ra Ramaiya

 

[dhikshita]

I got a wonderful Power Point Presentation on "Growing Old" forward to me. As I could not transfer the Power Point Presentation properly I give only the message here under:


Water-colours of
Marcel Reynaert

Getting older is the only way to live long.

The age of maturity is that age at which one is still young but is much more resourceful.

What most torments me about the foolishness of my youth, is not the crazy things I have done...but the fact that I can’t go back and do them again.

To get old is to go from passion to compassion.

Many people never reach eighty because they waste time trying to stay at forty forever.

At twenty, desire rules, at thirty, reason rules, and at forty, it’s time for good sense and judgement.

Whoever is not beautiful at twenty, strong at thirty, rich at forty, nor wise at fifty, will never be beautiful or strong or rich or wise.

When we pass sixty, there are fewer things that we think are absurd.

Young people think the old are ridiculous.

The old know that the young are ridiculous.

A mature person goes back to find the serenity once enjoyed as a child

Nothing passes by as quickly as the years.

When I was young I was told “You’ll see when you’re fifty”. I’ve passed fifty but I don’t see anything .

In the eyes of youth there burns a flame. In the eyes of the old there shines a light.

The initiative of youth and the experience of the older each have equal value.

There is a small child inside each one of us.

Each age calls for it’s own appropriate behavior.

Young people travel in groups, adults travel in pairs, and old people walk alone.

Happy the one who was young as a youth, and happy the one who is wise in old age.

We all want to grow old, and we all want to deny we have arrived there.

WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND ABOUT THE PASSING YEARS - HOW TO LIVE THEM, AND NOT JUST ACCUMULATE THEM,

Musica: Roger Williams
THE END
ray2:
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

Sir,
I like it. A practical realization of missing and forgotten things in the early years of one's life could not come again. Once lost is always lost. One should be lucky enough to have good company and a companion (life partner) till his last breath. One should be blessed to enjoy his old age days comfortably, and peacefully . Everything is an Act of God,either good or bad take it in its way try to digest with good spirit.Preach & practice tolerance in the society in order to set an example to others at that old age.

 

[krish44]

brahmanyan ji
thank you for a good post
1 to get old is going from passion to compassion- old can have both passion and compassion . why not?
2nothing passes by quickly as the years- how true. so let us make the best of each passing day and add to our achievements. we are still mentally active
3 in the eyes of the old shines a light- only the youngsters are not able to see the light .lol
4 old people walk alone- not necessarily .nothing prevents one to add people to our circle inspite of age. only need to try and cultivate relationships
5 each age calls for appropriate behaviour- which people of all ages including old do not conform to.
6live passing years not accumulate them- life is a god given gift .live as long as possible savouring what life has to offer

 

[Brahmanyan]

Dear Brahmanayan ji,

Nice..the like option seems to be missing these days..so could not click like.

So aging is a stark reminder that the only place you have to be free is your mind cos your body is never 100% free from its environment and the dictates of health.

As long as one is in prefect control of his/her mind time literally stands still.

Dear Doctor,

I appreciate your reply. As an old person my self, I know what old age is.
Yes, only place I feel free is my mind, which never ages like body. Out thoughts hover around and focus on our mistakes and missing opportunities of the past. Fear is always in the unexplored future, never in the past or in the present.
"Young people travel in groups, adults travel in pairs, and old people walk alone." How true it is.

Warm Regards,
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[Brahmanyan]

Many thanks to Sri"Naina_Marbus" for giving the Power Point Link and to Mrs Raji Ram,
"Dhikshita" and "Krish44" for their followup messages.
Warm Regards,
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

(PS: My "Like" option is not working, hence this message of thanks)

 

[Raji Ram]

...........
"Young people travel in groups, adults travel in pairs, and old people walk alone." How true it is. ...........

Dear Sir,

That is why many elders choose retirement resorts to get some friends to walk with!!

 

[Raji Ram]

'Like' option is disabled in our forum! The unruly usage might have been the reason!

 

[krish44]

'Like' option is disabled in our forum! The unruly usage might have been the reason!

really missing it.one felt wanted because of the same. also got to know who read your post

 

[Brahmanyan]

really missing it.one felt wanted because of the same. also got to know who read your post

Yes. I too miss the same. "Like" option indicates the value of our posts for others.
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[indianassault]

For all those respected elders, how did it feel when you passed 30 , 40 etc? what are the physical, psychological changes that take place in men after 30? For me, I used to travel every weekend between Bang-Mys-Chennai etc, but never felt tired or fatigued. Worked full day, played cricket matches and ran like a hero to catch the train, almost never slept on weekends etc. How can I do all that back now? Is my mind stopping me to do all those or my body is changing?

 

[renuka]

For all those respected elders, how did it feel when you passed 30 , 40 etc? what are the physical, psychological changes that take place in men after 30? For me, I used to travel every weekend between Bang-Mys-Chennai etc, but never felt tired or fatigued. Worked full day, played cricket matches and ran like a hero to catch the train, almost never slept on weekends etc. How can I do all that back now? Is my mind stopping me to do all those or my body is changing?

Dear Assault ji,


Ok let me tell you my journey from 20's to mid 40's.

At 20 I was still sort of innocent...was a bit scared too but in 30's I was more bold and brave...was not scared of anything as much..now I am in mid 40's and not at all scared of anything besides Cockroaches.

I seem more energetic now compared to when I was younger cos when you are young you take life for granted as you grow older you know that life is not to be taken for granted and you make sure you do what you want to do...so I am physically more active now when I was in my 20's.

I exercise 5 x a week real hard core workouts without fail..keep myself alert and active.

After I entered 30's I started reading much more than when I was in my 20's.

It was only after the age of 30 I started using internet more and my knowledge in most subjects improved and still improving!LOL

Now I am in mid 40's and nothing can stop my mind unless I drop dead.

But the fact remains that I never feel I age cos my mind is still the same that is the mind does not age but its just that as we age we shed some amount of inhibitions ..when I was in my 20's when I used to drive and some driver drives dangerously I would wonder why is he/she driving like that and feel bad but now I just simply swear all Gaalis I know (if I am driving alone!).

So you see I am like wine..I get better as I age!LOL

 

[krish44]

Dear Assault ji,


Ok let me tell you my journey from 20's to mid 40's.

At 20 I was still sort of innocent...was a bit scared too but in 30's I was more bold and brave...was not scared of anything as much..now I am in mid 40's and not at all scared of anything besides Cockroaches.

I seem more energetic now compared to when I was younger cos when you are young you take life for granted as you grow older you know that life is not to be taken for granted and you make sure you do what you want to do...so I am physically more active now when I was in my 20's.

I exercise 5 x a week real hard core workouts without fail..keep myself alert and active.

After I entered 30's I started reading much more than when I was in my 20's.

It was only after the age of 30 I started using internet more and my knowledge in most subjects improved and still improving!LOL

Now I am in mid 40's and nothing can stop my mind unless I drop dead.

But the fact remains that I never feel I age cos my mind is still the same that is the mind does not age but its just that as we age we shed some amount of inhibitions ..when I was in my 20's when I used to drive and some driver drives dangerously I would wonder why is he/she driving like that and feel bad but now I just simply swear all Gaalis I know (if I am driving alone!).

So you see I am like wine..I get better as I age!LOL

when I was young, I used to analyse a lot and invariably came to the wrong conclusions and made bad decisions which I acted on.mostly others then decided that I could not be trusted to do anything right
Afterwards I got married, my wife reinforced the above conclusions and decided to be boss. then I became a great delegater and handed over every issue to someone or other to decide and implement . I found this paid rich dividends . I learnt to trust everyone like mad .when you trust people you are bound to do well in life.
Now as senior citizen I have become smart. I act first and analyse later. I find it is a brilliant strategy . it keeps everyone around me on their toes . they all the times are tense figuring out what I am upto. lol

 

[sundari.kannan]

when young in 20 and 30 different perspective of life and slogging to meet the projects never allows u to relax and enjoy the moments as they flit by in seconds only when u reach the back seat age u get to be ignored and slowly realise the time has passed and nothing to worry, mind keeps reminding now u r a spectator and in audience so u spend more time in with your hobby like now i enjoy my terrace garden more and worry less about how they are going to conduct their affairs

 

[drakey]

Hope I can grow old healthy :s

 

[krish44]

when young in 20 and 30 different perspective of life and slogging to meet the projects never allows u to relax and enjoy the moments as they flit by in seconds only when u reach the back seat age u get to be ignored and slowly realise the time has passed and nothing to worry, mind keeps reminding now u r a spectator and in audience so u spend more time in with your hobby like now i enjoy my terrace garden more and worry less about how they are going to conduct their affairs

as one grows old,one gets better like wine as one member put it. the trick is not to feel the age and not totake a backseat in anything and be not part of the audience. unnecessary detachments are not good . more one gets involved ,more one feels young . it is all in the mind . life is a drama . be the lead and do not be a sidey or the audience .people will be forced to take notice. I have achieved more as a senior citizen than as a youngster.

 

[krish44]

Hope I can grow old healthy :s

once one does not think about health often and live life fully as it comes and enjoying its various colours ,one is bound to be healthy for long years

 

[vaithehi]

Dear Brahmanyan Ji

Many people never reach eighty because they waste time trying to stay at forty forever.

At twenty, desire rules, at thirty, reason rules, and at forty, it’s time for good sense and judgement.

Whoever is not beautiful at twenty, strong at thirty, rich at forty, nor wise at fifty, will never be beautiful or strong or rich or wise.

When we pass sixty, there are fewer things that we think are absurd.

Young people think the old are ridiculous.

The old know that the young are ridiculous.
Dear Renukaji

Old age is somehow linked with wisdom but in reality the old age can mimic the infantile period.

I am sure some of us would have seen some fussy old people who behave like little kids.

All I can say is as we age the human mind tends to hold on to some aspects of youth and when the body is all worn out all and too weak to be physically capable all an old person can do is throw tantrums like a little kid. That is the only "youth" left that the mind still knows.


So is old age all that different from childhood?

Childhood is when we are have curtailed freedom and live under the care of parents..old age is also when we have curtailed freedom living under the care of family or caretakers.

So aging is a stark reminder that the only place you have to be free is your mind cos your body is never 100% free from its environment and the dictates of health.

Both of your words are reflecting eternal wisdom and full of practical and difficult things related to old age nicely etched in fine words

rv:faint2:

 

[vgane]

As we grow old we want to see more places and have more fun..But body limits this freedom..I have been traveling a lot for business reasons but I never fail to take my family out at least 2 -3 times in a year...That energizes me and it makes me young and vivacious ready for the next bout!

 

[krish44]

As we grow old we want to see more places and have more fun..But body limits this freedom..I have been traveling a lot for business reasons but I never fail to take my family out at least 2 -3 times in a year...That energizes me and it makes me young and vivacious ready for the next bout!

Vganeji
Great idea. I feel restless if I do not travel every six to eight weeks .Also I make it extended 5-6 weeks in delhi summer in may -june and 5-6weeks in delhi winter dec third week to jan. middle.I do not relish travelling alone. so better half is dragged along in variably . I do not know who feels young after these journeys LOL

 

[Brahmanyan]

Dear Brahmanyan Ji

Many people never reach eighty because they waste time trying to stay at forty forever.

At twenty, desire rules, at thirty, reason rules, and at forty, it’s time for good sense and judgement.

Whoever is not beautiful at twenty, strong at thirty, rich at forty, nor wise at fifty, will never be beautiful or strong or rich or wise.

When we pass sixty, there are fewer things that we think are absurd.

Young people think the old are ridiculous.

The old know that the young are ridiculous.

Dear Ms. Vaithehi,

Good thinking.
As an octogenarian I wish to share few simple facts of life that I learnt during my journey. Life is a chain of experiences. It varies according to the social circumstances of individual's birth. But, it is in the hands of the individual to make it or break it.Every thing in life "happens", it is wise to accept the happenings and turn the opportunities to our favour. When we face failures, we should stop for a minute and ponder over the the circumstances and effect course correction. Age is related to time. Time never stops, it consumes our life or we consume time. How we use it is for us to decide. Maintaining good health is very important for the individual to shape-up life. Contentment makes us to maintain mental equanimity, which is related to good health.
Let us be what "we are". "Life is beautiful" if we do not compare the same with others.
Never keep the mind empty, which will invite devil to occupy and make our life miserable.

Never Procrastinate.
It was the mighty Ravana who said to have commented in his deathbed to Lakshmana, “Never assume that you have all the time in the world and take nothing for granted. Never procrastinate. I conquered the Heavens and imprisoned Yama, the lord of Death to my bedstead and Shani, the ninth planet under my throne. I told myself that I will always have time to finish them later. What good did this procrastination do? They prevailed anyway.”

Regards,
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[krish44]

Dear Brahmanyan Ji

Many people never reach eighty because they waste time trying to stay at forty forever.

At twenty, desire rules, at thirty, reason rules, and at forty, it’s time for good sense and judgement.

Whoever is not beautiful at twenty, strong at thirty, rich at forty, nor wise at fifty, will never be beautiful or strong or rich or wise.

When we pass sixty, there are fewer things that we think are absurd.

Young people think the old are ridiculous.

The old know that the young are ridiculous.

Dear Ms. Vaithehi,

Good thinking.
As an octogenarian I wish to share few simple facts of life that I learnt during my journey. Life is a chain of experiences. It varies according to the social circumstances of individual's birth. But, it is in the hands of the individual to make it or break it.Every thing in life "happens", it is wise to accept the happenings and turn the opportunities to our favour. When we face failures, we should stop for a minute and ponder over the the circumstances and effect course correction. Age is related to time. Time never stops, it consumes our life or we consume time. How we use it is for us to decide. Maintaining good health is very important for the individual to shape-up life. Contentment makes us to maintain mental equanimity, which is related to good health.
Let us be what "we are". "Life is beautiful" if we do not compare the same with others.
Never keep the mind empty, which will invite devil to occupy and make our life miserable.

Never Procrastinate.
It was the mighty Ravana who said to have commented in his deathbed to Lakshmana, “Never assume that you have all the time in the world and take nothing for granted. Never procrastinate. I conquered the Heavens and imprisoned Yama, the lord of Death to my bedstead and Shani, the ninth planet under my throne. I told myself that I will always have time to finish them later. What good did this procrastination do? They prevailed anyway.”

Regards,
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

Brahmanyan ji
An excellent post with worldly wisdom for the young and the old
!.As events happen,responses have to be finely tuned for good results based on experience which comes with age

2. contentment and acceptance of self and enjoying this beautiful life is a good philosophy

3. time -it passes so fast . if we can contribute to society good in some way in our short life span ,we can leave a good legacy behind for our our children to emulate

4health - we can do what we can to remain healthy . what happens who knows?

5mind cannot all the time be kept occupied with positive thoughts. have you not seen many elderly talking to themselves ?. some require guardian angels to protect them as I have said in another thread

6. you have referred to ravana regarding importance of time . one good way is to act if there is a choice between action and no action . even sometimes action sometimes lead to not so good results overall a man of action is preferable to status quo ist