How to make people love you

[vgane]

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This is an utopian dream of most of us..How can we satisfy aspirations of all and be the good Samaritan, helping others, being compassionate...It seems to be a difficult task..We have our own likes and dislikes and putting on a smile as a mask looks unreal..But whenever we are in a low, following these simple steps will help us to gain confidence and face issues squarely..We will also be able to get the desired support from others..May be even from unknown sources

How to Make People Love You: 9 Steps (with Pictures) - wikiHow

1. [FONT=&quot]Have an open, loving attitude.[/FONT][FONT=&quot] If you want to be loved, love everyone. Be nice, gentle and friendly toward everyone. No one can find fault with the kindest person. 'Espoir Smart English through Love & Romance' is a fantastic guide to develop an attitude towards compassion & inter-personal skills. Speak in a gracious way. Be respectful to all.[/FONT]
2. [FONT=&quot]Do the basics.[/FONT][FONT=&quot] Personal hygiene. Dress appropriately. If you respect yourself and take pride, people will notice. [/FONT]
3. [FONT=&quot] Speak up! Live by your morals and ideals. Do what you say. Always be learning. [/FONT]
4. [FONT=&quot] Smile, and be approachable. Be full of compassion. [/FONT]
5. [FONT=&quot] Surround yourself with what makes you happy. Consider your body a sponge absorbing everything around you. You can only have so much happiness before you will start to give it off to those around you. Same with anger, sadness, jealousy. It is a way to keep our emotions balanced. [/FONT]
6. [FONT=&quot] Have time for others. The greatest thing you can give is your time and energy. [/FONT]
7. [FONT=&quot] Always be yourself. You want people to like you for who you are- not for who they THINK you are. [/FONT]
8. [FONT=&quot] Have fun and relax. When you are around others, don't be uptight or nervous. Make sure other people around you see that you are relaxed and happy, not stressed out and upset. If people think you are carefree they will want to be around you more than if they think you are nervous about everything. [/FONT]
9. [FONT=&quot] [/FONT][FONT=&quot]Be confident.[/FONT][FONT=&quot] When someone has low self-esteem, people usually don't want to be around them. If people realize that you are confident, while at the same time being selfless they will want to be around you. [/FONT]

 

[Raji Ram]

Sometimes if you are too good, people just take you for granted!

We should also know 'where to draw the line'!

 

[vgane]

Sometimes if you are too good, people just take you for granted!

We should also know 'where to draw the line'!

How true Madam! We cannot be goody goody at all times!

But in office we expect our bosses to be always compassionate, always smiling and kind to us!

We do not want a boss like this image below, who gets very easily irritated!

 

[renuka]

I feel if we have to make others love us that means its fake and forced upon and having great expectations from others..when expectations are not met one may become depressed.

Frankly I feel its not too hard to show love to others..whether they care to reciprocate is a different matter all together.

Love is technically hard to define and hard to proof so mutual respect is still the safest bet.

To me I prefer doing my duty right..if others feel that equals to love..then its well and good if they do not feel its love than its their problem and not mine!LOL

 

[vgane]

I feel if we have to make others love us that means its fake and forced upon and having great expectations from others..when expectations are not met one may become depressed.

Frankly I feel its not too hard to show love to others..whether they care to reciprocate is a different matter all together.

Love is technically hard to define and hard to proof so mutual respect is still the safest bet.

To me I prefer doing my duty right..if others feel that equals to love..then its well and good if they do not feel its love than its their problem and not mine!LOL

Respect is OK when the other person does not have a need..

In case the other person has a strong need he expects true love

As per a Swedish proverb " Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it"...Unconditional love, love without any strings attached may be required..We ourselves may require at some point in our lives...

 

[prasad1]

This is an utopian dream of most of us..

How very smart of you to describe me so perfectly. You have known me only through my post, but still you have done a remarkable job.
Thanks. :loco:

 

[Raji Ram]

I have come across a few people who praise me and send millions and trillions of thanks by e- mails till I am of help to them and

never bother even to call on phone later on! I always think of what my dad used to say: 'Be happy if people take your for granted;

It means that they trust you so much!' It is good to be trust worthy, right?

Conclusion: If we help others, we will at least get temporary love!! :lol:

 

[mkrishna100]

speak in such a way that others love to listen to you .
listen in such a way that others love to speak to you

 

[biswa]

Are you able to love a person who is pinching you? Unless of course they are your own child.

 

[Raji Ram]

Are you able to love a person who is pinching you? Unless of course they are your own child.

I have heard of biting spouses! :shocked:

This action is added in Tamil duet songs too! :lol:

 

[Raji Ram]

speak in such a way that others love to listen to you .
listen in such a way that others love to speak to you

Wow! This is exactly 'jAlrA fundA'! :decision:

P.S: In our forum some people used to write in such a way that others will click a 'like' for that post!! :typing:

 

[vgane]

I know one office mate who is very sweet in his communication...He displays very pleasant manners

He is able to get things done from all....

There is hardly anyone who has a grouse with him..

I really envy him..

But how is he able to control his emotions..I have hardly ever seen him get angry...

I think his wife is lucky to have a person like him

 

[biswa]

Wow! This is exactly 'jAlrA fundA'! :decision:

P.S: In our forum some people used to write in such a way that others will click a 'like' for that post!! :typing:

RRji, I would have clicked "Like" for your post, but unfortunately that button has been taken away.

 

[krish44]

I feel if we have to make others love us that means its fake and forced upon and having great expectations from others..when expectations are not met one may become depressed.

Frankly I feel its not too hard to show love to others..whether they care to reciprocate is a different matter all together.

Love is technically hard to define and hard to proof so mutual respect is still the safest bet.

To me I prefer doing my duty right..if others feel that equals to love..then its well and good if they do not feel its love than its their problem and not mine!LOL

renukaji

you are getting mixed up equating duty with love.

one does not love as part of ones duty.
I trust I have confused you for the day besides getting confused myself
you have broken your rule you posted on saturday
try demanding love on reciprocity basis . it might even work out.you are also justified in pulling the ears of the person who do not reciprocate
one sided love is stupid . you are demeaning and cheating yourself.

 

[krish44]

I know one office mate who is very sweet in his communication...He displays very pleasant manners

He is able to get things done from all....

There is hardly anyone who has a grouse with him..

I really envy him..

But how is he able to control his emotions..I have hardly ever seen him get angry...

I think his wife is lucky to have a person like him

fellows like this are normally beasts as far as home front is concerned
these kind of characters put up a show in office and go home and beat up their wife

 

[krish44]

Sometimes if you are too good, people just take you for granted!

We should also know 'where to draw the line'!

do not be so harsh madam . sometimes people forget to reciprocate if they are close to you
I get slammed many times when I thank a relative for a good act. they think it is abnormal

 

[Raji Ram]

I know one office mate who is very sweet in his communication...He displays very pleasant manners

He is able to get things done from all....

There is hardly anyone who has a grouse with him..

I really envy him..

But how is he able to control his emotions..I have hardly ever seen him get angry...

I think his wife is lucky to have a person like him

Dear Ganesh,

Sorry to say this!

I have met a gentlest of gentlemen, who behaves chooooo chweeeet to everyone outside home and yet yells at his spouse! :rant:

 

[Raji Ram]

do not be so harsh madam . sometimes people forget to reciprocate if they are close to you
I get slammed many times when I thank a relative for a good act. they think it is abnormal

Your relatives are so different!

Even if my relative asks me, in a similar situation, 'Thanks ellAm namakkuLLE enthukku?',

I can still see a hidden smile of satisfaction in the face showing 'poi kObam'! :spy:

 

[tbs]

I know one office mate who is very sweet in his communication...He displays very pleasant manners

He is able to get things done from all....

There is hardly anyone who has a grouse with him..

I really envy him..

But how is he able to control his emotions..I have hardly ever seen him get angry...

I think his wife is lucky to have a person like him

hi

i think..many ppl live 2 kinds of faces....real expression can not judge,...mind is deeper than ocean bed....ULLONTRU VAITHU

PURAM ONTRU PESUVAARGAL.....ALWAYS SACHH KACUVA HOTE HAI....

 

[Raji Ram]

RRji, I would have clicked "Like" for your post, but unfortunately that button has been taken away.

:becky:

 

[Raji Ram]

Situation song:

kadavul pathi mirugam pathi

 

[sravna]

You cannot make people love you. A love that lasts is the one you get automatically without worrying whether people will love you or not. The best possible advice in my opinion is, be yourself by keeping your emotions balanced.

 

[biswa]

Quite agree with Sravnaji. Focussing on getting loved is the wrong goal. If people do the right things, everything follows.

 

[tks]

All anyone needs is Self love !

 

[renuka]

You cannot make people love you. A love that lasts is the one you get automatically without worrying whether people will love you or not. The best possible advice in my opinion is, be yourself by keeping your emotions balanced.

Well said..could not agree more.

At the same time I cant resists saying this:


Different types of "Lovvu" is like the various schools of thoughts:


1)Unattached Love ----Advaita

2)Emotional Love---Vishishtadvaita

3)Women in control of Love -----Sakthaism

4)Raw Primal Love ----Tantraism.


What a Lovvu!LOL