How to make people love you

[Brahmanyan]

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Love cannot be infused to or bought from some one, it is an inner feeling brought out by nature. Cannot be described by words.

Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[Vaagmi]

Well said..could not agree more.

At the same time I cant resists saying this:
Different types of "Lovvu" is like the various schools of thoughts:
1)Unattached Love ----Advaita
2)Emotional Love---Vishishtadvaita
3)Women in control of Love -----Sakthaism
4)Raw Primal Love ----Tantraism.
What a Lovvu!LOL

Teacher: What are the different types of love?

Disciple: 1)Unattached love-advaita style. 2)Emotional love-Visishtadvaita style 3)Woman in control-Sakthaism style 4)Raw primeval Love-Tantric style.

Teacher: That is interesting. Now please explain each of these in just three sentences.

Disciple: Please wait. I am on tour. Let me get back. My smart phone's Edge plays hide and seek.

 

[sarang]

And google is down, cannot search! Facebook is down, cannot ask my social crowd! Twitter is down, cannot start a trend! All learning light gone!

Teacher: What are the different types of love?

Disciple: 1)Unattached love-advaita style. 2)Emotional love-Visishtadvaita style 3)Woman in control-Sakthaism style 4)Raw primeval Love-Tantric style.

Teacher: That is interesting. Now please explain each of these in just three sentences.

Disciple: Please wait. I am on tour. Let me get back. My smart phone's Edge plays hide and seek.

 

[vgane]

Teacher: What are the different types of love?

Disciple: 1)Unattached love-advaita style. 2)Emotional love-Visishtadvaita style 3)Woman in control-Sakthaism style 4)Raw primeval Love-Tantric style.

Teacher: That is interesting. Now please explain each of these in just three sentences.

Disciple: Please wait. I am on tour. Let me get back. My smart phone's Edge plays hide and seek.

Good one..I think what Renuka Madam has written may be to do with attachment (பற்று) and not lovvu?? Just a wild guess!

 

[vs_ramki1950]

hi..it is not possible for everyone to b lovable at all moments of life..v r not machines to do the same thing agn and agn always.so try to b good and try to love others as much as possible. thats all

 

[rnarayan]

More often than not, smiling, being polite is taken as a sign of a not so confident weak personality.

 

[rishikesan]

In my experience, I have found that, it is easy to welcome anyone coming to your house, than showing facets . The stranger should be able to feel your attitude then and there . Then you have succeeded.
I always compare the attitude of people frOm South and those from North. Ehen a South Indian seeks any help, the Norh Indian will spontaneously say. HoJayega. But our man will think of pros and cons even in the beginning, and avoid any comfortable words even. The person will sim
Y leave.
Rishikesan

 

[tbs]

In my experience, I have found that, it is easy to welcome anyone coming to your house, than showing facets . The stranger should be able to feel your attitude then and there . Then you have succeeded.
I always compare the attitude of people frOm South and those from North. Ehen a South Indian seeks any help, the Norh Indian will spontaneously say. HoJayega. But our man will think of pros and cons even in the beginning, and avoid any comfortable words even. The person will sim
Y leave.
Rishikesan

hi

i add some more.......HO JAYEGA...CHINTHA MAT KARO....we south never try to use these kind positive words....

 

[biswa]

Well you didnt write the full sentence.

Abey saaley, chinta mat kar. Ho jayega!


So for everything there is both positive and negative.

 

[tbs]

Well you didnt write the full sentence.

Abey saaley, chinta mat kar. Ho jayega!


So for everything there is both positive and negative.

hi

i didnt want some local indecent dilli jaatt words...so i didnt use..Abey saaley,....for the decorum of the forum...

 

[Raji Ram]

So........ The North Indians are more helpful or what?
Now, a good discussion or :fencing: can start! :lol:

 

[Raji Ram]

I am reminded of this ThirukkuraL:

'சொல்லுதல் யார்க்கும் எளிய அரியவாம்
சொல்லிய வண்ணம் செயல். '

#664

'solludhal yArkkum eLiya ariyavAm
solliya vaNNam seyal'

Meaning: To say (how an act is to be performed) is easy for anyone but it is difficult to do according to what has been said.

 

[biswa]

hi

i didnt want some local indecent dilli jaatt words...so i didnt use..Abey saaley,....for the decorum of the forum...

I understand, but that is part of the point. In real life such decorum may not exist. People may feel south Indians are more reserved, but they also seem more refined. Everything comes as a package. We cannot unilaterally say north Indians are better than south Indians or vice versa.

 

[biswa]

So........ The North Indians are more helpful or what?
Now, a good discussion or :fencing: can start! :lol:

Who's winning, RRji! There seem to be many same-side goals!

 

[auh]

This is how we make others love us ("look within" inverted commas)

 

[krish44]

So........ The North Indians are more helpful or what?
Now, a good discussion or :fencing: can start! :lol:

north and south have nothing to do about helping others
It is a personality trait
who is better -person offering help verbally and not helping really
person not even offering help.IMHO nothing to choose between them
.

what people should realise about helping is we need to help to make a person self sufficient that he does not come to you again for help

some repeatedly live off you and take advantage of your helpful tendency.it is difficult to discriminate while helping.

I always help without judging and expecting no reciprocity..I think of it as charity I am doing.

city bonding and mutual help is a must as life has got complex and complicated in metros.

 

[vgane]

In my experience, I have found that, it is easy to welcome anyone coming to your house, than showing facets . The stranger should be able to feel your attitude then and there . Then you have succeeded.
I always compare the attitude of people frOm South and those from North. Ehen a South Indian seeks any help, the Norh Indian will spontaneously say. HoJayega. But our man will think of pros and cons even in the beginning, and avoid any comfortable words even. The person will sim
Y leave.
Rishikesan

Ho Jayega may be just a lip service...Help is more forthcoming & spontaneous from a Gujarati or UPwallah than a Punjabi!

In TN most of the NB communities will be ready to help you in case you request for!

 

[vgane]

north and south have nothing to do about helping others
It is a personality trait
who is better -person offering help verbally and not helping really
person not even offering help.IMHO nothing to choose between them
.

what people should realise about helping is we need to help to make a person self sufficient that he does not come to you again for help

some repeatedly live off you and take advantage of your helpful tendency.it is difficult to discriminate while helping.

I always help without judging and expecting no reciprocity..I think of it as charity I am doing.

city bonding and mutual help is a must as life has got complex and complicated in metros.

That's great Krishji

When we offer unconditional help, support, the most important thing is the creation of positive vibrations in our inner self..

A mental satisfaction that cannot be explained in words...

Our conscience is elevated...

We will experience perfect bliss!!