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Children of such marriages follow traditions of both or none or choose something of their own liking
This is the problem. Generally, the loser is Hinduism.
Children of such marriages follow traditions of both or none or choose something of their own liking
dear kumarjiDear Krish44,
Luck or geographic location has nothing to with it.
If you look at the comments in this forum in the year 2015, you can imagine how conservative the comments / opinions would have been in the mid 1970s. Though the TBs of Delhi were progressive in the 70s when it came to marriage they were quite conservative. Syrian Christians were equally conservative.
My wife and I worked at it to overcome every problem that is being discussed here. To our way of thinking it was no different than any other marriage. You have to make compromises to make it work.
I look at a lot of arranged marriages in my family and amongst friends, and they are no different. The successful ones have made compromises (though in most cases it is the woman who makes all the adjustments )
It all depends on how you approach the problem and the steps you take to solve the problems. In our case we were both secure in our religious beliefs to be bold enough to respect the other one's beliefs. We faced the society as a united team and both the families accepted us for what we are. The rest was easy.
K. Kumar
My friend A hindu Doctor was married to this wonderful Christian for 42 years. She passed away last year. He has 2 adult children, and lot of grandkids. He spends his time with both of them.
Dear Sir,......My wife and I worked at it to overcome every problem that is being discussed here. To our way of thinking it was no different than any other marriage. You have to make compromises to make it work. ............
We faced the society as a united team and both the families accepted us for what we are. The rest was easy.
It always amuses me to read the comments here by the members regarding this topic. Majority of them quote experiences of their friends, relatives. The posts are made as though they are the ultimate authority on the subject though nobody seems to be in an inter caste/ interfaith marriage. I have been married for more than 35 years to a Syrian Christian woman and I have not faced even one of the problems mentioned by these posts in my life.
I guess it is the fear of the unknown.
When I was little the elders in the family used an expression "பூச்சாண்டி பிடிச்சிண்டு போயிடும்". I am reminded of that reading all these "ஹேஷ்யம்"s.
LOL
K. Kumar
What is the generalization that is offending you? If the shoe does not fit, it is not for you. If it fits you wear it. I did not post with you in my mind. Then it does not right for you to lecture others. Don't go looking for a fight, when it was not there.
very nice naina marbusji.As a diversion, here is a story:
Lauren is white, from England, studying pharmacy. Abhiram is from India who lived and worked in New Jersey for sometime.
In December 2012 they connected through a vegetarian forum online. As they chatted, something clicked, they fell in love, and within days of that first online conversation decided they wanted to be together. Just a few weeks later Lauren moved to India and they got married. They now live in Nagpur with Abhiram's family.
This video describes how Lauren is adjusting to life as a traditional Indian wife.
BBC News - 'My new life as an Indian wife'
zebra16,
It is obvious that you seem to get all riled up whenever you see a post from me and make statements without either reading my post properly or not comprehending what is posted by me. You made a similar post when I posted about Australia and asked me why I don't comment on happenings in India.
In my post I did not make any comments about arranged marriages or same caste marriages. My post was targeted at posts by members who were talking about perceived problems in IR marriages without experiencing it themselves.
But then I am wasting my time explaining to you, who seems to have no ability to comprehend the written word.
K. Kumar
hiAs a diversion, here is a story:
Lauren is white, from England, studying pharmacy. Abhiram is from India who lived and worked in New Jersey for sometime.
In December 2012 they connected through a vegetarian forum online. As they chatted, something clicked, they fell in love, and within days of that first online conversation decided they wanted to be together. Just a few weeks later Lauren moved to India and they got married. They now live in Nagpur with Abhiram's family.
This video describes how Lauren is adjusting to life as a traditional Indian wife.
BBC News - 'My new life as an Indian wife'
Dear Sir,
You accept that you had to overcome every problem that is being discussed here, which means that there ARE problems.
These are the பூச்சாண்டி-s!
Your families have accepted and so your problems were less! God / Gods bless your family.
I R couples have no problems if they live far away from India! eace:
If in India, they have to attend several religious functions in the family and extended families. Not all families will be happy to have
persons from other faith on such occasions. A chinese girl felt like fish out of water while attending a Homam in my friend' house, as
she unable to follow any of our customs and traditions! She also feared to come near the Homam, fearing the wrath of Indian Gods!
Can't stop laughing, Sir! :lol:........ You will know about these things only if you have had personal IR marriage, otherwise you know a zilch about such thngs.
. As an example, we got married in a Church, got married the TB way and got married in the Registrar's office to keep the GOI happy.
Dear Prasad Sir,Why is marriage a "religious" ritual?...........All other animals procreate without this "religious" ceremony called marriage.