Is ‘staying single’ is on the increase?

[Raji Ram]

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The above write up 'aRiveerE petrOre!' is the outcome of my thoughts, after

I heard the mental sufferings that their children gave to a few of my friends!

 

[Raji Ram]

I noticed a basic change in the 'calls' by microwave ovens when the cooking is over in India and the U S of A.

In India, the 'call' goes on and on and on at specific intervals, till the cooked stuff is taken out, where as in the

U S of A it 'calls' two / three times and then :tape: !

I thought till some work is done, nagging goes on and on by Indian parents whereas the parents in the U S of A

might advise the children once of twice and leave the decision to their will and wish! May be I am wrong? :noidea:


P.S: Once I took out my masala tea prepared at noon, only at 5 p.m from the microwave oven in Boston!

Reason: A phone call and no notifications form the microwave after two beeps!

 

[palindrome]

Dear Palindrome,

It is easier for me to type out Thanglish! So, here it goes... Hope it is OK!

aRiveerE petrOre!


pAsam kaatti vaLarththa magan mElai naadu sendra pin

nEsam kaatta maRandhaal ennadhaan seyvadhu?


"thennaiyai vechchaa iLaneeru; piLLaiyaip peththaa kaNNeeru"!

uNmaithaan uraiththuLLaar! athu migak kasappuththaan!


than vaazhkkaith thuNaiyaith thaanE thEdaNumaam - petrOr

than vElai vaLarththadhudan theerndhadhena eNNaNumaam!


"nam inaththil nalla peNNirundhaal kooRu", endraal

"evvinamaayin enna? un vElaiyaip paar", engindRaar!


thannaip pENiya petrOrai vidavum - thaan andha

maNNil kaNda madandhai uyarvaagap pOgindraaL!


innaaLil peNgalukkO amerikka maappiLLai vENum;

ennaLum maaman maami indhiyaavil irukka vENum!


peNgaL mattumthaan petrOraip pENugindraar - illai!

peNgaL than petrOrai mattum pENugindrAr!


saaN piLLai aaNaalum aaN piLLai endru eNNith

thaan magizhndha kaalamellaam malai ERip pOyitru!


piR kaalaththil than thEvaigaLai than piLLai gavanippaan ena

ekkaalaththilum kaRpanai vENdaam! aRiveerE petrOre!


than uzhaippaal serththa selvam dhaanam dharumam pOgath

thanakkendrE vaiththavarthaan kalinaaLil pizhaiththiduvar!

The above write up 'aRiveerE petrOre!' is the outcome of my thoughts, after

I heard the mental sufferings that their children gave to a few of my friends!

:clap2: its beautiful :hug:

like i always say in telugu ''jeevitham lo aydi shaswatham laydu'' (nothing is permanent in life) so too relationships...

as long as elders are physically capable of taking care of themselves, vanaprastha, travels, explorations, all seems fine....but once we start aging and get physically dependent on others, it becomes a very difficult equation...in such cases, i feel, no matter what, children must take care of parents and in-laws, if not out of love, then out of duty...karma ain't withering soon anyways, so, why add to the misery of the cycle.

 

[Raji Ram]

:clap2: its beautiful :hug: ..........

:yo:

 

[Raji Ram]

I am surprised to see a girl in our family circle who separated from the husband for some silly reasons and has come

to stay with her parents - forever!? Her (arranged) wedding expenses came to nearly 20 lakhs! Now..........

1. She is married but does not live with her husband!

2. She is married but lives with her parents!!

She doesn't want to stay alone because she will have to pay rent for her house / hostel. Cook / spend lot of money on food.

Her salary goes to her bank account directly and she doesn't share the household expenses with her parents! What is she

going to achieve in her life?? :noidea:

Sometimes I feel that the parents of such girls should NOT entertain her stay with them! Don't know if I am wrong?

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I am surprised to see a girl in our family circle who separated from the husband for some silly reasons and has come

to stay with her parents - forever!? Her (arranged) wedding expenses came to nearly 20 lakhs! Now..........

1. She is married but does not live with her husband!

2. She is married but lives with her parents!!

She doesn't want to stay alone because she will have to pay rent for her house / hostel. Cook / spend lot of money on food.

Her salary goes to her bank account directly and she doesn't share the household expenses with her parents! What is she

going to achieve in her life?? :noidea:

Sometimes I feel that the parents of such girls should NOT entertain her stay with them! Don't know if I am wrong?

Yes! She wants the best of all the THREE worlds.

1. The status of a married woman (minus her husband who is still alive)

2. The safety and comforts of a home (without troubling herself physically or financially)
from her parents

3. The financial security by saving her entire FAT salary for her future.

I do not think there can another girl more selfish than this one.

She must be promptly sent OUT to live either with her husband or on her own.

She may wake up to reality.

Also she must be made to repay the 20 lakhs spent in a marriage which served no purpose.

In any case she must have saved more than that by now!

I NOW know who or what is a CREEP!!! :mad2:

 

[kunjuppu]

I am surprised to see a girl in our family circle who separated from the husband for some silly reasons and has come

to stay with her parents - forever!? Her (arranged) wedding expenses came to nearly 20 lakhs! Now..........

1. She is married but does not live with her husband!

2. She is married but lives with her parents!!

She doesn't want to stay alone because she will have to pay rent for her house / hostel. Cook / spend lot of money on food.

Her salary goes to her bank account directly and she doesn't share the household expenses with her parents! What is she

going to achieve in her life?? :noidea:

Sometimes I feel that the parents of such girls should NOT entertain her stay with them! Don't know if I am wrong?

from what i hear here, she appears to be a spoilt pampered brat. only child? no children of her own?

that means, she is just lazy and free loader.

having said all the above, it might not be a bad idea, to take her to a psychiatrist. maybe some deep held animosity or sorrow. who knows!

 

[sarang]

In puranas and itihasas one can find a story for or against any idea or event. These are meant to teach and guide the gullible and the indecisives.

Such stories must teach one what to absorb and what to discard and guide in leading a meaningful and dharmic life.

I am sure for every such negative true story, one can quote two positive true stories.

I am surprised to see a girl in our family circle who separated from the husband for some silly reasons and has come

to stay with her parents - forever!? Her (arranged) wedding expenses came to nearly 20 lakhs! Now..........

1. She is married but does not live with her husband!

2. She is married but lives with her parents!!

She doesn't want to stay alone because she will have to pay rent for her house / hostel. Cook / spend lot of money on food.

Her salary goes to her bank account directly and she doesn't share the household expenses with her parents! What is she

going to achieve in her life?? :noidea:

Sometimes I feel that the parents of such girls should NOT entertain her stay with them! Don't know if I am wrong?

 

[Raji Ram]

from what i hear here, she appears to be a spoilt pampered brat. only child? no children of her own?........

No Sir! She has one younger sister. Now her marriage is a big '?'

This girl hardly stayed with her parent in-laws who are working in Sing. Chennai! She went to another city soon after her wedding

and later on came back to her parent's house here. Hubby is a single son. No siblings! He stays with his parents.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

She became a princess from a plain Jane.
It has gone straight into her head.
She hates her husband for NOT being glamorous guy.
She does not care for her younger sister nor her parents.
She must promptly sent away from home at least
to improve the marriage prospects of her younger sister.
As long as this girl lives in that house no offers will come.
I know another elder sister who did similar thing.
Her younger sister is a spinster nearing 60!
The elder one is neither separated nor a housewife.
She still wears the license plate.. I do not know what for???

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Remember the kings of the olden times.
Dharma is to be upheld no matter whether
a son or daughter is involved in the misdeed.

 

[Raji Ram]

Many of the guys and girls who have dependent parents find it difficult to find a partner! There are four unmarried guys

in my extended family / friend's circle - three of them 40+ and one 50 +.

The first one got bald head and in spite of independent parents and a handsome salary he did not get a match till he was

35 and chose to stay single! The second one did not get a match because his sister had a divorce and later his father got

a paralytic attack! He too chose to stay single. The third one is forced to stay single because of his dependent parents

and small income! The one who is 50 + is the only child of his family and hops from one job to the other! Hence no girl

is willing to marry him because she may have to earn for a constant income to support his parents! That is life! :sad:

 

[kunjuppu]

No Sir! She has one younger sister. Now her marriage is a big '?'

This girl hardly stayed with her parent in-laws who are working in Sing. Chennai! She went to another city soon after her wedding

and later on came back to her parent's house here. Hubby is a single son. No siblings! He stays with his parents.

if the family does not do the needful, the younger one, will make her a life of her own. why should she let her sister spoil her life?

if a single man offers her life and opportunities, is it not only fair, irrespective of caste or creed, she evaluates the offer and accepts it?

very sad. and the narrow mind of our community. punishing the innocents.

as a community, basically i find we are an unkind and selfish group, who praise our traditions when all things go well for us. and very quick to abandon it, when misfortunes are faced, and the way out is contradicting to our traditions.

 

[V.Balasubramani]

Many of the guys and girls who have dependent parents find it difficult to find a partner! There are four unmarried guys

in my extended family / friend's circle - three of them 40+ and one 50 +.

The first one got bald head and in spite of independent parents and a handsome salary he did not get a match till he was

35 and chose to stay single! The second one did not get a match because his sister had a divorce and later his father got

a paralytic attack! He too chose to stay single. The third one is forced to stay single because of his dependent parents

and small income! The one who is 50 + is the only child of his family and hops from one job to the other! Hence no girl

is willing to marry him because she may have to earn for a constant income to support his parents! That is life! :sad:

RR Mam,

It is believed that as per ones horoscope, if his/her planetary position attracts ‘Guru palan’ he/she has bright chances for Wedlock?

 

[Raji Ram]

...... It is believed that as per ones horoscope, if his/her planetary position attracts ‘Guru palan’ he/she has bright chances for Wedlock?

Dear Balu Sir,

It is said that during 'Guru palan' there is a possibility of wedding to happen. And Guru palan comes many times in one's life time!

If it is the marriageable age and the cupid shoots his arrows, the person will get a partner. Actually, Guru is the one who blesses

puthran / puthri and to get one of them one needs to get married, according to our custom! One of those guys told me sadly,

'akkA! Guru palan has come and gone at least four times till now!' :tsk: