Except when the hubby takes a vrs and offers his wife vrs as a gentlemanly gesture.
My classmate after a decent working life in many countries retired and settled in S.chennai. His children are married and settled all over. His wife about 60, an old time maths/science graduate has taken off to USA to do a doctoral programme. He is at loose ends and can't make up his mind to stay put in chennai and lead an astika life (his goal) or to follow her.
Well, if the wife follows her ambition,
he should follow his own and not disturb her
in her tough doctoral program.
No one know how many years it might take!!!
My elder sister suggested that I do PhD instead of wasting time in the forum.
I do not see any advantage except that I will be running after people
trying to please them in order to get my PhD.
We must do what we like to do / what we enjoy doing
and what we feel we are good in doing...
as long as they are NOT banned/ blacklisted/ illegal/ immoral/illogical.