Dear TKS ji,
There is no triggering event..no Eureka moment too..it is just that some questions and thoughts come to our mind as we read and explore.
I do find some contradictions most of the time.
When I read some works..mostly females are thought as an "enemy" of a man who wants to progress spiritually..the famous Kamini and Kanchana advise to Brahmacharins....this makes me wonder..the very word nArI itself denoting a female means na(not) ari(enemy)..which translates as Not an Enemy(a friend)..so why choose to call her enemy when nArI means friend?
Couldn't ancients decide what they really wanted to say?? Why was everyone so bipolar?
Brahmacharins should be taught that desire is our own enemy and the sexual instinct is one of the most difficult desire to get over..and they should be taught how to handle it and not taught to view a woman with contempt..when we have contempt or hatred for anything we only create another stumbling block for ourselves..that is after getting over sexual desire..now we have to get over hatred.
The blame game seems the name of the game everywhere..very few text ask us to rectify ourselves..remember the story where the sage steals from a house he ate in and the next day the servant is blamed for it cos the servant used to be a thief before and since she had cooked the food for the sage...the sage got influenced by her bad thoughts...why didnt the sage blame himself for the theft when it was him who stole at that time and not the servant?
If that theory of bad thoughts holds good that the servant being an ex thief could influence a sage by just preparing his food..then why no one becomes a highway robber after reading Ramayan? After all Sage Valmiki was once upon a time the infamous highway robber Ratnakara.
So you see there is a lot of discrepancy and contradictions and very less emphasis on self introspection and only the blame game is played..now if this is truth..I really do not know how to even spell untruth.
If anyone sees contradictions then they could resolve them by rejecting the notions that cause contradictions in the mind. Or it may be that one may be trying to see consistency when it is not really there or because the context under which a notion is presented is missing or confused.
One cannot take Puranic stories literally as some do .
One may think there is really a Mahavishnu 'hanging around' under the head of a special Pambu in an ocean of milk etc. with Mahalakshmi by his side. Or there is a Siva roaming around over Mt Kailash. The people who hold such literal image to be the reality tend to view objective in life to be not the life here but an afterlife wherein they want to mingle with their God after death.
Many Puranic stories will appeal to such a person. For a person not causing any harm to anyone (by 'my way or highway' kind of exclusivity) a simple model of pantheon of Gods is fine in my view.
Depending on how many contradictions such a person want to *sense and resolve * (and they will invariably run into contradictions sooner or later if they begin to ask question ) then they may want to make more inquiries.
In this unorganized umbrella religion called Hinduism there are many ways of being included and the web of contradictions are tied together by a few concrete notions.
If one wants to start asking questions then achieving an intermediate goal of a reasonable model of truth/reality will require two things.
1. A genuine quest to find the truth (without prejudice and beliefs) suspending our desire to be right - this is an attitude and one not easily achieved
2. A willingness to put effort to learn - I have not come across many who are willing to go the extra mile to learn and learn properly. What is found often in people is a Tamasic sense of not putting genuine effort justified by the idea that such topics are easy and that anyone can just understand them by just using our life experience. Often such people will take strong position in the name of logic but not having made the right effort. It is a waste of time seeking their input or feedback if the quest is real.
You mentioned a few ideas - here let me present some other context as well.
Female form is given equal status in both philosophical ideas (be it Vedanta or even atheism based Sankaya notions); Even in religion there are forms like Ardhanareeshvara. There are as many forms of worship of female forms as male forms. This is unique to Hindu tradition.
Desire is not really taught as an enemy. In fact it is a privilege. Pursuit of Desire (Kama) and Security (Artha) are perfectly valid Purshartha. But a desire that takes control of a person seizes to be a privilege and can be considered an enemy of self growth.