I am reading all the comments related to my post. Some of posts are really paining my heart/mind. After my careful analysis and observation for the post five years, I have written some qualities my hubby's friend. He is a very good person by heart, conduct, character and behavior . There is no doubt about. If any of the post members saw him definitely will understand my observation.
My hubby called his friend two days back. I have shared some of our thoughts to him. He explained that his wife is well educated and highly lucky (she has sheer luck in all ways). She does not have 0.1 percent of God fearing or good habits. Nobody in their family have conscience and good habit. His wife lived with him 12 years
She did not give a penny of her income to him. Further her brother/sister/mother collected all the money.
He is a hard working very pious person and strictly followed Dharma (as much as possible).
The lady did not like his quality of visiting temple or pious. She used to bring a Singaporean harijan fellow (tamilian) who came from singapore with Chinese lady. It all happened both of them studied in New York state
M.S . After that they went Singapore with a plan that work three years after that go back to Bangalore settle down. Unfortunately he did not get a job (most of the employer told him after interview that he is over qualified for position they are considering, some of them told him to go back to USA). So he left his wife 6 months (with her full consent) went to India and tried for a job. During the period he had affair with harijan
fellow (at that time harijan fellow did not married). She try to divorce him, but he fought with the help of his relatives and got her back. He came back to Singapore, to vacate the home. His past employer in USA called him back, so he went back. His wife father (who did all 'akramam') died due to cancer within three months after the incidence. Hubby's friend came to New Jersey and got a consulting job. He continue to work with
the employer. His wife came back and joined with him. Both of them lived another 5 years in USA .
When he came to California, his wife called the singaporean fellow for job. (without his hubby's knowledge
he arranged job for the harijan fellow and got a job with his husband's company) Her husband is workholic person did not know anything except his work. Harijan fellow's wife is a prostitute (chinese), she allowed harijan fellow to visit hubby's friend's house when he is out of home. This lady used to make dosa and serve him when he is out of home. Also she used to go walking with him. All this uncharacteristic activities, he contacted her brother/mother . They told him to keep silent, because she has sada sathi (71/2 sani etc).
The lady did so many things against hubby's knowledge. He is man of patience and prayed God for help.
In 2009, she had taken her things when hubby's friend went Temple, on Saturday. When he came back around 4 pm , he found that door was kept open some items were stolen. He went to neighbours house and called their help. Neighbouring telugu fellow told that this lady with the help of Harijan fellow taken items and gone
to live another apartment. Prior to moving out, she change the lease to her husband's name. After two weeks
she went to family court. My husband's friend never participated any court trial in USA. It is very expensive to hire an attorney here. So he went to Bangalore and contacted four diff. lawyers. All of them told him that the divorce judgement is null and void and it is not enforceable in India. Because this particular trial is properly conducted further he never participated and it is similar expartee judgement. He did not have job in India, all lawyer's gave him a good advice that do not go to court. Go to astrologer/temple and find a solution for this.
My hubby's friend told us both of them have many similar qualities, but her wife did not like temple/dharma etc.
He further told us that, the lady's character can be correctable/change able, but her brother/sister/mother all
are conspiring in her life. Even though she is educated, she does not lack analytical ability and trust bad people. Her brother/sister/mother/father (when he is alive) all of them sucking her money. Her brother's want to sell this lady for the sake money and make money out of her. Her brother/sister/mother did not bother about
her life.
After the separation, harijan fellow's wife told hubby's wife not to come to their home. She had one blackish kid from the harijan fellow. She was afraid that if this lady may break her life and she does not have any job , she may be in the road. So their friendship broken. This lady tried to lure another north indian fellow for few months which did not work out. Later she tried with another chinese fellow , he cheated her after having affair with her. Later she was running behind an american.... My hubby's friend wept...relentlessly after pouring his
heart...
I cannot write more than this. I will say God does not exists in this world. As a woman, i will say no word
will describe his sufferings. Once again, no kind hearted woman will justify this lady's action/character correct.
Due to his age, family tradition and good qualities (Dharma) he feels that God should correct her and back her to his life.
I will say finally ' My hubby's friend is a great personality and good person, no doubt about'. God punishes good
people...that's what hub...friend says...
Sujatha
