Dear Renuka,
Not always I agree, but you can make out the difference between "gentle" and "cool". Also there is the factor of the period we are in. For example in satya yuga which is the purest yuga everything is in its pristine nature. So the outward look correlates well with your mind. But in kali yuga, that correlation may well come down
and what you see may not be what it really is. Here it may be a matter of degree.
Gentleness due to Sattva Guna and apparent Gentleness due to Tamas Guna might outwardly appear to be the same.
I have observed this many times while interviewing staff.
The most gentle ones usually are dull in the brain and the less outwardly gentle ones are pro active.
I have one question that I always ask any staff for interviews.."Do you like to enjoy sipping a hot drink or a cold drink?"
If they reply they enjoy sipping hot drinks I do not employ them.
I have noted that those who like sipping hot drinks..take their own time to drink and not attend to patients in an emergency!
So you see Sravna..we can only know a little about a person's nature by some Q and A.
It's not easy to judge a book by its cover.
Ok for example..just now a shy looking girl with a black pottu and vibuthi on her head and dressed in a salwar kameez came to see me.
She was really gentle in talking and she asked me if I did abortions.
I said No and she told me she was pregnant and wanted to abort her child.
I told her I do not do abortions.Then she told me "doc I am only some 1 month pregnant..usually for 1 month pregnancy most doctors give a pill to induce abortion..do you at least have that?"
I said "No I do not keep such pills"
I was thinking "wow so innocent looking..pregnant before marriage and well informed too"
I told her practice save sex in the future and keep the baby if possible.
So never judge a book by its cover.!!LOL