Even now in South India, basically follow the arranged marriage procedure. As arranged marriage
practice is being adopted, someone other than the Couple getting married makes the selection of
the persons to be wed initially. In some families, only when the horoscope tally/match
etc is finalized, the boy or girl gets an opportunity to meet each other to know themselves. There
are places in some parts, where time has not moved forward. Above all, dowry system is still
in place, it has rather become more of a "bride-price" tag. These things affect some of the girls.
Hence now-a-days, because of many girls have started going for work as contrast
to yester years, marriages formed out of love AKA "love marriages" take place. In some places
the girls start looking for a person who would be suitable to them and give the suggestion to the
parents to go in for finalization. These could be seen easily by everyone of late.
Balasubramanian
Ambattur
dear bala,
i agree with you that our community, has the extremes. on one hand, just look at all the ads in the matrimonial sites.
every one of them has the jadhagam. even if one does not want to do jadhaga porutham, but go only on status/mana porutham, there is not much chance. we are deliberately weeding away compatible matches due to jadhagams non matching - and everyone agrees that no two josiyars agree
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when the community as a whole, is 50 years behind, in certain aspects of its activities, is it not but natural, that the younger generation finds it frustrating? just imagine the feelings of many of the boys, single here and elsewhere, who are pushing 30+ and still no chance of a bride.
could they not loosen up some of the filters, even within our own caste?