Dear PJ sir,
Sometimes I wish home management was like an auto pilot machine where we stuff kids and spouse inside and let the machine handle them ..it will be much easier for us females.
In my next birth I want to be a snail..cos I can stay in my shell all alone..others need not bother me..snails dont have to look after spouse,kids,mama,machans..snails dont have to see patients....and snails can even gun themselves if they cant find a mate!LOL
what makes you think home management is of ladies alone?
spouse can be a great resource
extended families are boons
kids require you for a few years ,then become self sufficient and think you are a nuisance
if you decide to be a snail, you could be one easily . others will fill roles which you consider yours alone
for those who want to be responsible there are many who would thrust themselves on them for a free ride on their shoulders
there is an emotional hook to every relationship.
in life it has to be a judicious cocktail of emotion and cold action based on real requirements
high time you delegated even if alternatives are not as perfect as you prefer them to be.
I can see you are stressed in quest of perfection
if you want the best for all without compromising where required , you will be a wreck in no time
no religion can help . you can only help yourself
as a person who has nurtured and promoted working ladies all my life , my suggestion is distribute your load to those around you who can take it
it is difficult to give up control like this . once you hang up a bit and start transferring your load slowly others will take it and rise to your expectations. all are humans .
they will relate to you and care enough to satisfy your needs.
with best wishes
