In Andal's thiruppaavai pasuram 17,18,19 there's a great psychology.
How do we wake up Krishna..?
In Pasuram 17, Andal wakes him up through the mother and brother (from whom Krishna was born and with whom he played together).
Then Andal wakes him up through his girlfriend. The pasuram 18, calling nappinnai as nadagopan's marumagal (which meant sister's daughter), where krishna is referred to as her 'maithunan' (which means mama paiyan in those days) depicts nappinnai as his girlfriend, not yet married.
Then comes the pasuram 19 which talks about krishna sleeping with nappinnai. Now Andal is waking up krishna through this wife.
Krishna is the govinda, the Adi Purusha, the avyaya puruSa sAski, the eternal witness, inside all.
Body is like the cart. Mind is the horse. Our self is the driver. If our self becomes one with cart or horse, vehicle runs amok. Our self has to detach from body and mind and witness them to control them. This witness is the manifestation of that Adi Purusha. Our 'self' has to be with this witness (Adi Purusha, the govinda) to control our body and mind. So we have to wake up that witness in us.
How do we wake that witness up..?
The witnessing self inside us is first woken up by our mother and siblings. We learn from them to introspect and control ourselves and awaken that witnessing conscience in us, through their interactions. A father makes our mind, our thought process. But he has less/no role awakening that witness inside us, which guides our mind. It is our Mother and siblings who stoke that conscience inside us.
Then our 'girlfriend' comes. (sorry 90's kids). They play a role in awakening that witnessing self inside us. Then wife plays that role of awakening that witness inside.
It's possible that all these don't do a good job, in which case we run with mind and may go amok.
2k kids should choose their spouse (wife or husband) such that they play a role in waking that witnessing self inside.
More important, either of the spouse should give the other, the handle to wake up that witness inside them. It means that spouse should be in a a position to challenge. Husband and wife should be able to challenge each other and yet collaborate.
How do we wake up Krishna..?
In Pasuram 17, Andal wakes him up through the mother and brother (from whom Krishna was born and with whom he played together).
Then Andal wakes him up through his girlfriend. The pasuram 18, calling nappinnai as nadagopan's marumagal (which meant sister's daughter), where krishna is referred to as her 'maithunan' (which means mama paiyan in those days) depicts nappinnai as his girlfriend, not yet married.
Then comes the pasuram 19 which talks about krishna sleeping with nappinnai. Now Andal is waking up krishna through this wife.
Krishna is the govinda, the Adi Purusha, the avyaya puruSa sAski, the eternal witness, inside all.
Body is like the cart. Mind is the horse. Our self is the driver. If our self becomes one with cart or horse, vehicle runs amok. Our self has to detach from body and mind and witness them to control them. This witness is the manifestation of that Adi Purusha. Our 'self' has to be with this witness (Adi Purusha, the govinda) to control our body and mind. So we have to wake up that witness in us.
How do we wake that witness up..?
The witnessing self inside us is first woken up by our mother and siblings. We learn from them to introspect and control ourselves and awaken that witnessing conscience in us, through their interactions. A father makes our mind, our thought process. But he has less/no role awakening that witness inside us, which guides our mind. It is our Mother and siblings who stoke that conscience inside us.
Then our 'girlfriend' comes. (sorry 90's kids). They play a role in awakening that witnessing self inside us. Then wife plays that role of awakening that witness inside.
It's possible that all these don't do a good job, in which case we run with mind and may go amok.
2k kids should choose their spouse (wife or husband) such that they play a role in waking that witnessing self inside.
More important, either of the spouse should give the other, the handle to wake up that witness inside them. It means that spouse should be in a a position to challenge. Husband and wife should be able to challenge each other and yet collaborate.
