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[nicemcm]

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we hve affected in poorva janma dosam.my brother & me life is most bad condition . my brother also married but this marry life continue 15days only . bcoz wife escape to her lover. after we hve try marry to him so many time but all matter failure. so we hve find the problems from JOSIYAR. he told us poorva janma dosam tell parikaram. we have finished the all prikaram especially suyamvara kalyana parikaram, although the partner is not set. he was worked in temporally. there is no give heavy salary.
No house (only rent house) Rasi : Kumbam Star : Avittam .
i m not married for brother marriage wait...plz help us.

i m waiting for Ur reply...



by
mani



sorry any mistake typying this letter plz leave the mistakes

 

[tks]

There are no Pariharams for silliness.

Learn to improve how you present yourself to others. If you knew that you cannot write in English you can get someone to help you before posting your writing in a public forum. Not thinking of doing so shows you do not focus on doing your best,

No one will marry you if your focus in life is on seeking Pariharams while feeling a sense of self pity.

If your brother's marriage did not work out that is fine. Tell your parents that you are ready to get married. If you are in your 30s you may want to see how you can find a bride on your own.

 

[renuka]

Learn to improve how you present yourself to others. If you knew that you cannot write in English you can get someone to help you before posting your writing in a public forum. Not thinking of doing so shows you do not focus on doing your best,

Dear TKS ji,

I feel your response is too harsh..behind the so called not too perfect English is desperate plea of a man who wants help.

I hope you can see beyond grammar and have some compassion.

 

[krish44]

in india , it is very easy to get married

one does not need to know english or have social skills .this is india not america

pl do not worry about pariharams

pl find a girl who knows good tamil and marry at your earliest .

for getting married you require no qualifications

you require only a willing girl

it requires very little money to live as living is cheap in our country

with Ammas govt to take care you will prosper

Pl do not worry too much about caste or sub caste .

only ensure the girl is wiling and be sure she wants you.

best of luck nicemcm ji

 

[sravna]

I would stand mid way between Shri.TKS and Smt.Renuka. It is not very clear whether the OP has to be taken seriously but I think we can address the problem and offer a solution which can benefit similar cases, and not unduly worried about the authenticity of the person.

 

[krish44]

you are so right sravnaji

many have to face the issue of wives simply bolting without a trace after marriage leaving men in a muddle.

one of my distant relatives a TB got married to a girl from kerala -.he belongs to delhi . he had a few happy months of marriage . then the girl went to kerala for a visit

and never returned

after some months, he discovered that she had married someone else there and happily living there . this fellow became a mental case . his relatives had a hard time

salvaging him

now he is being supported by his family as he has lost all interest in life

men can also get screwed up like this.

you can probably probably pray for such souls.

if it can rain on prayer , his wife can also return to the deserted man on prayer.lol

 

[C RAVI]

we hve affected in poorva janma dosam.my brother & me life is most bad condition . my brother also married but this marry life continue 15days only . bcoz wife escape to her lover. after we hve try marry to him so many time but all matter failure. so we hve find the problems from JOSIYAR. he told us poorva janma dosam tell parikaram. we have finished the all prikaram especially suyamvara kalyana parikaram, although the partner is not set. he was worked in temporally. there is no give heavy salary.
No house (only rent house) Rasi : Kumbam Star : Avittam .
i m not married for brother marriage wait...plz help us.

i m waiting for Ur reply...



by
mani



sorry any mistake typying this letter plz leave the mistakes

Dear Mani,

Hope you believe in "GOD IS GREAT"!

Just consider that whatever happens, happens for Good. No use in getting married only to find one self devastated due to marriage.

Every one of us got some or other sorts of Poorva Janma Dosham, I believe and reap the results of our Karma.

Don't get into much Pariharams. If you have done one or two for your satisfaction, it's fine. Don't get carried away into it, desperately looking for expected results.

Keep praying whole heartedly to any God of your liking, visit temple as and when possible and keep updating your skills (inter-personality skills to help you remain composed and relaxed) , while expecting marriage to happen.

Believe in the saying - "IF HAPPENS, GOOD. IF DOES NOT HAPPEN, VERY GOOD!"

 

[tks]

Dear TKS ji,

I feel your response is too harsh..behind the so called not too perfect English is desperate plea of a man who wants help.

I hope you can see beyond grammar and have some compassion.

Compassion has many forms of expression.

The focus is not about grammar if you re-read what I wrote . It is about first doing one's best and facing the issues of the world.
Asking for help or even praying after doing one's best can possibly yield results. This person views that Pariharam is a cure for lack of excellence in his effort

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear friends,

I really pity the OP. He has become a veteran by the number of years in this forum but laments about

not getting married, in a thread earlier too, viz. Need Mahalakshmi Ashtothram & Vishnu Ashtothram

He has copied another newbie's words and has made two posts:

Hello All,

I am new member to this community ,felt blessed to have joined here.not yet marriage. any solkam & mantara build up in life. Plz help me

and

Hello All,

I am new member to this community ,felt blessed to have joined here.
i m single. many time i will try to marriage. but is not set in partner.so
Plz help to improve in my life to pray any mantra & solkam. Plz tel us

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Mani

 

[tks]

Dear friends,

I really pity the OP. He has become a veteran by the number of years in this forum but laments about

not getting married, in a thread earlier too, viz. Need Mahalakshmi Ashtothram & Vishnu Ashtothram

He has copied another newbie's words and has made two posts:

and

Mrs Raji - Thanks
I noticed that veteran achievement as a newbie and remembered your explanation.

If the person is real his world view has to change for better things to happen in his life. Only he can help himself.

 

[sravna]

you are so right sravnaji

............
you can probably probably pray for such souls.

if it can rain on prayer , his wife can also return to the deserted man on prayer.lol

Dear Shri Krish,

Personally I would prefer to not use spiritual powers. Intelligence will in most of the cases do all that one's spiritual powers would. Let us try to promote the cause of reason. The devastated man if given the right counselling should come out of his gloom.

 

[krish44]

Dear Shri Krish,

Personally I would prefer to not use spiritual powers. Intelligence will in most of the cases do all that one's spiritual powers would. Let us try to promote the cause of reason. The devastated man if given the right counselling should come out of his gloom.

sravna ji

if the gentleman had ample intelligence , he would not be approaching members of this forum or astrologers. he would take the initiative and find a girl both for his brother

and himself
only his extended family can provide some relief to him.

the members of this forum can only drive him further nuts

 

[Jaykay767]

Always put theissues in perspective ! these issues arevery small compared to others !!

800 Million people in this country are in dire poverty, they go to bed without 1proper meal !!. 600 M don’t have a toilet man !!.People are dying due tohorrific diseases & they have no healthcare or any hospital to attend tothem.


So Go &work hard man - I mean really hard in life, make money, help the poor, help theneedy, go to temples, do charity!!!

 

[prasad1]

Dear Shri Krish,

Personally I would prefer to not use spiritual powers. Intelligence will in most of the cases do all that one's spiritual powers would. Let us try to promote the cause of reason. The devastated man if given the right counselling should come out of his gloom.

I think Sravnaji you misunderstood Krishji's post.
Please read the post keeping in mind Krishji's earlier post.
It is called tough love. Sometimes that is what is needed.

 

[prasad1]

JKji,
:clap2:

 

[கால பைரவன்]

OP did not mention his caste. He could be a NB. So let's be nice to him.

 

[prasad1]

OP did not mention his caste. He could be a NB. So let's be nice to him.

So you think it is alright to be rude to Brahmins? LOL
Just a joke among friends.

 

[renuka]

A gentle reminder:

reading harsh messages online has the same effect as being scolded directly..the effect on the mind and body is the same.

None of us really know the true state of mind of the poster.

So dont push it too far..some people can break.

It is always better to be gentle at first..then wait for the response and then see how much the person reveals about the situation and then decide if you want to go point blank or be less point blank.

I am not saying that Mr Mani could be depressed but as I said dont push anyone off the limits too far till we are sure of his state of mind.

Another reminder depression is NOT a sign of weakness.Its a medical condition.

So try not to call anyone a wimp or weak.

I have seen even school kids at the brink of suicide becos they were called Wimps online.

So thread with caution.

 

[sravna]

A gentle reminder:

reading harsh messages online has the same effect as being scolded directly..the effect on the mind and body is the same.

None of us really know the true state of mind of the poster.

So dont push it too far..some people can break.

It is always better to be gentle at first..then wait for the response and then see how much the person reveals about the situation and then decide if you want to go point blank or be less point blank.

I am not saying that Mr Mani could be depressed but as I said dont push anyone off the limits too far till we are sure of his state of mind.

Another reminder depression is NOT a sign of weakness.Its a medical condition.

So try not to call anyone a wimp or weak.

I have seen even school kids at the brink of suicide becos they were called Wimps online.

So thread with caution.

Good Advice. It is better not to err on the side of harshness.

 

[renuka]

Always put theissues in perspective ! these issues arevery small compared to others !!

800 Million people in this country are in dire poverty, they go to bed without 1proper meal !!. 600 M don’t have a toilet man !!.People are dying due tohorrific diseases & they have no healthcare or any hospital to attend tothem.


So Go &work hard man - I mean really hard in life, make money, help the poor, help theneedy, go to temples, do charity!!!

Dear JK,

This is not the best of advice if you ask me..becos no two people are alike.

Believe me a person who is having a low mood or not in the best of state of mind would not want to hear about others and be compared to the rest of the world.

The problem might seem like very small to you becos you are not in his shoes but to the person having a problem it seems the biggest problem in the world.

Comparing with other problems in the world does not address the situation.

This is the exact reason why depressed people feel that no one takes them seriously and everyone thinks they are making a small matter into a big deal and he withdraws from everyone and the next is level is suicide!

So no matter how small a problem seems to you..remember severity is a perception..its small to you but its enormous to the person who is suffering.

I can safely say at times we Hindu lack finer thinking on lines of compassion.

You would be surprised to know many Pastors in Churches have a degree in Psychology to handle depressive people who seek their help.

There are never made to feel like they are making a big deal of a small issue.

 

[Raji Ram]

So you think it is alright to be rude to Brahmins? LOL .........

Come on Sir! Are we not?

 

[Raji Ram]

The Q in the OP is not yet answered, though many of us write our views and give advice!
Any newbie will be afraid to start a thread like this, if he happens to spot this one! :ranger:

 

[CHANDRU1849]

we hve affected in poorva janma dosam.my brother & me life is most bad condition . my brother also married but this marry life continue 15days only . bcoz wife escape to her lover. after we hve try marry to him so many time but all matter failure. so we hve find the problems from JOSIYAR. he told us poorva janma dosam tell parikaram. we have finished the all prikaram especially suyamvara kalyana parikaram, although the partner is not set. he was worked in temporally. there is no give heavy salary.
No house (only rent house) Rasi : Kumbam Star : Avittam .
i m not married for brother marriage wait...plz help us.

i m waiting for Ur reply...



by
mani



sorry any mistake typying this letter plz leave the mistakes

Practical thinking only will help. You have not mentioned about the qualification of yourself and your brother.

Each individual has some talent which can be tapped for survival. You and your brother definitely have talents in some areas which can be perused for your well being.

Please believe in God and not God Men. God Men will not help but may suggest wrong direction. Be practical and realistic. Don't be superstitious, which will ruin your life.

The immediate requirement is to find a job for both of you irrespective of salary, stay together to share expenses, improve your knowledge based on the talent of both and move on.

If both of you work together and find a permanent job, marriage proposal will automatically come to you. Without permanent job, don't go for marriage, which is not proper.

Hard work and oneness will definitely bring success to both of you.

I wish you both all the best.

 

[sravna]

Pariharam may or may not work depending on how authentically it is done. But what would definitely have a positive impact is to work on one's attitude towards life and develop the ability to cope up with events that cause stress and actually try to learn from them. Developing such healthy attitude with effort is as good as a well done pariharam

 

[vgane]

we hve affected in poorva janma dosam.my brother & me life is most bad condition . my brother also married but this marry life continue 15days only . bcoz wife escape to her lover. after we hve try marry to him so many time but all matter failure. so we hve find the problems from JOSIYAR. he told us poorva janma dosam tell parikaram. we have finished the all prikaram especially suyamvara kalyana parikaram, although the partner is not set. he was worked in temporally. there is no give heavy salary.
No house (only rent house) Rasi : Kumbam Star : Avittam .
i m not married for brother marriage wait...plz help us.

i m waiting for Ur reply...



by
mani



sorry any mistake typying this letter plz leave the mistakes

Dear Sri Mani,

I do understand the problems faced by your family. But you have to take responsibility for that

You should not blame external forces for that!

Tackle your brothers and your job first

Am not sure how you or your brother have presented before the prospective employers..Seek the help of job consultants who will polish your resume, your profile..You /Brother need to also project yourself better

Once you/brother get a decent job, work on both your marriages..Do one at a time

You need to have a proper plan & work towards it meticulously