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I wanted to post some possibly controversial views and hence this is in the General Section.
This past month for few weeks I had an opportunity to visit a few cities in India for both professional reasons and to see some of my friends & relatives.
It is always fascinating for me anytime I have an opportunity to visit any part of India.
Let me share some interesting exchanges. If any of the members had different viewpoints please do share.
1. A few of my friends for many decades thought I was an Iyengar Not that I have advertised to anyone what I am or not because I personally do not believe in the classification. One person told me that it is nice that I do not mind wearing Viboothi on my forehead.
He went on to say that we need more progressive people like this. I then asked him what he was talking about. Later he apologized and I did not see any reason to apologize. I told him I can be well meaning Iyengar too except I do not know all the customs. I told him that it is an honor to be thoughts so because he was an Iyengar. Overall it was a funny exchange.
2. I somehow get this feeling that most people from the structured society have become de-sensitized to the unsophisticated and poor people. I do not think myself to be anything special and if I see a beggar approaching the car I was in I would often try to respond if I am able to. This invariably irritated my host especially if I was in a car driven by their driver.
If I see a street dog and wondered out loud how the poor thing is surviving in the heat without food I was told to not act all that liberal. One friend told me that we do not need NRIs to come and tell us how to take care of our dogs. These are friends of mine and so I did not argue further. I was not trying to act anything special but it seemed small comments sometime irritated people!
3. I was in Chennai only for 3 days. I had few interesting small episodes. Near the tank area around Kabalishwarar temple I was waiting for someone to pick me up in their vehicle. I was standing next to a woman who was selling flowers who asked me if I wanted to buy some flowers. I said I have no need for it but continued the conversation. It seemed this young woman had two unruly teenage kids to raise at home (she seemed in her mid 30s) and her husband died recently at the age of 38 because of drinking alcohol. Despite all this there was an air of optimism about her.
She was eating some peanut balls and offered me one which I took. Finally I wanted to give her some money when my ride arrived and she refused to take it. I told her that I do not have time to buy flowers from her but that she can take the money and put some flowers in the temple on my behalf which she agreed to do. There was a quiet dignity in all this that was truly touching.
4. I found that people who sell fruits in the sun and toil all day tend to be honest. I bought some fruits without any negotiations. As I ordered the next item, the person added one more fruit on his own to my bag. He probably over priced thinking I am going to negotiate. I will not say this happened all the time, but most often this was the case.
4. I have a message for Auto Rikshaw fellows .. Will share that in my next post ..
This past month for few weeks I had an opportunity to visit a few cities in India for both professional reasons and to see some of my friends & relatives.
It is always fascinating for me anytime I have an opportunity to visit any part of India.
Let me share some interesting exchanges. If any of the members had different viewpoints please do share.
1. A few of my friends for many decades thought I was an Iyengar Not that I have advertised to anyone what I am or not because I personally do not believe in the classification. One person told me that it is nice that I do not mind wearing Viboothi on my forehead.
He went on to say that we need more progressive people like this. I then asked him what he was talking about. Later he apologized and I did not see any reason to apologize. I told him I can be well meaning Iyengar too except I do not know all the customs. I told him that it is an honor to be thoughts so because he was an Iyengar. Overall it was a funny exchange.
2. I somehow get this feeling that most people from the structured society have become de-sensitized to the unsophisticated and poor people. I do not think myself to be anything special and if I see a beggar approaching the car I was in I would often try to respond if I am able to. This invariably irritated my host especially if I was in a car driven by their driver.
If I see a street dog and wondered out loud how the poor thing is surviving in the heat without food I was told to not act all that liberal. One friend told me that we do not need NRIs to come and tell us how to take care of our dogs. These are friends of mine and so I did not argue further. I was not trying to act anything special but it seemed small comments sometime irritated people!
3. I was in Chennai only for 3 days. I had few interesting small episodes. Near the tank area around Kabalishwarar temple I was waiting for someone to pick me up in their vehicle. I was standing next to a woman who was selling flowers who asked me if I wanted to buy some flowers. I said I have no need for it but continued the conversation. It seemed this young woman had two unruly teenage kids to raise at home (she seemed in her mid 30s) and her husband died recently at the age of 38 because of drinking alcohol. Despite all this there was an air of optimism about her.
She was eating some peanut balls and offered me one which I took. Finally I wanted to give her some money when my ride arrived and she refused to take it. I told her that I do not have time to buy flowers from her but that she can take the money and put some flowers in the temple on my behalf which she agreed to do. There was a quiet dignity in all this that was truly touching.
4. I found that people who sell fruits in the sun and toil all day tend to be honest. I bought some fruits without any negotiations. As I ordered the next item, the person added one more fruit on his own to my bag. He probably over priced thinking I am going to negotiate. I will not say this happened all the time, but most often this was the case.
4. I have a message for Auto Rikshaw fellows .. Will share that in my next post ..