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dear renuka ji !
the situation is not only for you but also for all settelled or living in foreign countries.
both the husband and wife has to share the work and there is no escape .my son-in-law and son will be branded pontati dasan when the elderly person visit their home.
you are not expecting appreciation as well as instructions/suggestions !!
guruvayurappan
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Is not the person very selfish since he wants ALL the best things in life for himself??? :confused:
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dear balu sir !
i do not know about society ,but i can say the good parent will good children,good education ,good wife and good grand child etc.be good in/by heart and the rest will follow cos correct approach.அவசரமாக வேலை செய்துவிட்டு ஆரஅமர சிந்திக்க கூடாது remain rich in thinking must bekept in our mind
guruvayurappan
 
post 2468 #
dear VR !
it reminds me a word from a man who has returned after visiting his son-in-law in USA
there is no permanent job as well as no permanent wife -that is american way of life -it was said in 1990
 
guruvayurappan said:
post 2494 #
dear renuka ji !
the situation is not only for you but also for all settelled or living in foreign countries.
both the husband and wife has to share the work and there is no escape .my son-in-law and son will be branded pontati dasan when the elderly person visit their home.
you are not expecting appreciation as well as instructions/suggestions !!
guruvayurappan
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Sri. Guruvayurappan, Greetings.

I think Sowbagyavathy Renuka raised a different issue. She was mentioning about a word of appreciation. I think it is very important. People think they don't have to do it. all because things are taken for granted. they find excuses like " I am not well; you have to adjust!..... I am stressed; I just like to be left alone!.... I didn't ask you to do it, you liked to do it so you did it; why should I appreciate you for that!.... I am also working flat out! I don't need your appreciation and don't expect one from me!..."

I say, we should bring annual assessment for renewal of marriage licence! Should be a point system; if not enough points are not earned, then should take up lessons to improve attitude!

Cheers!
 
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dear raghy !
greetings from my side also . I also understand the point of view of mrs .renukaji !
as you said the present day generation is not for things taken for granted . i could also appreciate your view on point based annual annual assessment of marriage which may look absurd on its very thought ,but good if followed by indivituals as self assessment .it reminds me a blog in which it was mentioned about a training of parents and the kids to be separated from the people who are unfit to be a parent
great people think differently from others. the days are not far off for people to
refine themselves
guruvayurappan
 
My guruji used to state this in a formula.
An average American changes
his job 12 times,
his wife 10 times
his car 8 times and
his house 6 times
during his life time!:cool:

guruvayurappan said:
post 2468 #
dear VR !
it reminds me a word from a man who has returned after visiting his son-in-law in USA
there is no permanent job as well as no permanent wife -that is american way of life -it was said in 1990
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Visalakshi Ramani said:
My guruji used to state this in a formula.
An average American changes
his job 12 times,
his wife 10 times
his car 8 times and
his house 6 times
during his life time!:cool:
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We People of Indian Origin hardly change anything but keep complaining 1008 times during our life time!!LOL
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
The child like the contents more than the container.
The adults adore the container even if
the content is of no more use to them.
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I have seen so many types of containers in my job that I can write a Sahasranaamam on them!!

Once I had a person come to my clinic to ask for a job.
She had such huge containers which were bulging out of her loose garment and she was standing at the counter and happily resting her containers on my counter desk top.
After she left..I actually checked my counter desk top to see if any depressions had formed!!

It was really huge containers OK!!LOL
 
renuka said:
I have seen so many types of containers in my job that I can write a Sahasranaamam on them!!

Once I had a person come to my clinic to ask for a job.
She had such huge containers which were bulging out of her loose garment and she was standing at the counter and happily resting her containers on my counter desk top.
After she left..I actually checked my counter desk top to see if any depressions had formed!!

It was really huge containers OK!!LOL
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I just imagined how it would have been...!!...

TVK
 
guruvayurappan said:
post 2468 #
dear VR !
it reminds me a word from a man who has returned after visiting his son-in-law in USA
there is no permanent job as well as no permanent wife -that is american way of life -it was said in 1990
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As VR Madam and acknowledged by you, I would like to add that the children too sometimes
follow their parents at the early age itself in getting mixed with the girls vice versa in their way
of life leading to sexual education and getting spoiled. Sometimes we read in media early
pregnancies of girls during the schooling itself.

Balasubramanian
Ambattur
 
VR Madam. There was bad news from Denver where you are/were supposed to be. Just give a gist of reasons why these things keep happening in the US. I hope and pray your family is safe. All the best.
 
All of you outside US have such a poor opinion based on the media about the US.. you forget, here they are also people like us, no different, just the color.. all kinds of emotions good bad and ugly is in every human being, just take the good and leave the bad, to generalize is not a good thing.. I feel you have to live here for a while to appreciate the good qualities many possess.. I am not defending the politicians here or in India, but people in general everywhere are decent good people..

Now what is happened in Gauhati, can you explain that to me.. it was worse crime like the killings..
My very close family person was murdered in broad daylight in her home in Valasaravakkam, can you explain why that happened, and madras I never used to feel threatened but these days I will dread for my child to come home late even if it was round 9:30 pm.. In New York I can take the subway and feel safe because there are so many people returning from work or from other parts of the city back to their suburbs..

It is very easy to judge others, but first let us analyze what is wrong with ours.. I am lucky my children and all my friends and family children who have grown up in the US are good straightforward kids, that only shows the upbringing.. here I am including the american families too..

the media will exaggerate anything to sustain their interest.. only sensational news is sells.. so take everything with a pinch of salt.. My children are pretty much into education and that is the key for tomorrow's kids.. they have to be taught not only the regular lessons at school but also from parents right from wrong, the basics of life.. first and foremost lesson is not to hate anyone and that everyone is equal, if we don't put this into their brains at an early age, they are going to always feel divided and that is the result of many things that are happening in this world..

Unity or oneness is most important.. I am just wondering, does it take this world to come together only in the wake of a disaster or an alien attack perhaps???? I hope not..

Yeah one more thing don't expect anything from anyone, just you do your duty and just surrender to that ultimate divine positive energy, whatever god you want to name, when you truly do this, there is no difference, only love and happiness and be engulfed in that bliss.. :-)

my very best to all

Subhalakshmi/Bushu :-)
 
The writer seem to say do not criticize us when your house is not in order. Even in the better yugas, things were not good. Ravan had to abduct Sita because of she was beautiful. Ravan had many wives, so did Dasarath with 60,000 wives including the famous four. There has always been problems in the North East, one or the other. But other India is no better. These things happen. Of course, should not happen. But criticisms should go on. Religion can improve things to some extent but there again we have planted weeds. The so called civilization should find an answer.
 
Kousalya, Kaikeyi and Sumitra were the famous THREE!!!

Iyyarooraan said:
The writer seem to say do not criticize us when your house is not in order. Even in the better yugas, things were not good. Ravan had to abduct Sita because of she was beautiful. Ravan had many wives, so did Dasarath with 60,000 wives including the famous four. There has always been problems in the North East, one or the other. But other India is no better. These things happen. Of course, should not happen. But criticisms should go on. Religion can improve things to some extent but there again we have planted weeds. The so called civilization should find an answer.
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How did she balance with her now displaced center of gravity??? :rolleyes:

renuka said:
I have seen so many types of containers in my job that I can write a Sahasranaamam on them!!

Once I had a person come to my clinic to ask for a job.
She had such huge containers which were bulging out of her loose garment and she was standing at the counter and happily resting her containers on my counter desk top.
After she left..I actually checked my counter desk top to see if any depressions had formed!!

It was really huge containers OK!!LOL
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