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The FIL and MIL were in the same line of an ART...say music for example.

They were not marketing specialists.

His wife is just a puppet in her parent's hands.

If he was supposed to work for them, it could have been made clear along with the

gift of the girl, the car and the bungalow.

There is hitch which the boy could not tell even to his closest friends

or his friend could not tell to me. :tape:

I wish I could find out what it really is! :confused:
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
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If he was supposed to workfor them, it could have been made clear along with the gift of the girl, thecar and the bungalow.
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If the U-turn situation came a few years after the child was born, it is possible that the FIL may not have had such ideas at the time of marriage? FIL may in fact have had successful business runs at the time of marriage, which would explain fancy car, bungalow, etc; and the business subsequently turned sour, and ran into losses, so he needed help?

I am familiar with such scenarios – my father started one such business and after a while, bankrupted the family – it took several years before he was back on his feet.
 
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Visalakshi Ramani said:
The FIL and MIL were in the same line of an ART...say music for example.

They were not marketing specialists.

His wife is just a puppet in her parent's hands.

If he was supposed to work for them, it could have been made clear along with the

gift of the girl, the car and the bungalow.

There is hitch which the boy could not tell even to his closest friends

or his friend could not tell to me. :tape:

I wish I could find out what it really is! :confused:
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Actually he can handle the matter like this:

1)If he really cant stand the situation he can tell his FIL/MIL that he is marketing online for a replacement for the wife position in his life.

That should do the job.I cant understand why would anyone hang around in such a situation.
The wife should know her priorities that not to mess with husbands job and stand by her husband if her father makes demands like "resign and market the family business"

May be this guy loved the handouts to start with having his cake and eating it both and later realized that he is just a pawn in their family game of snakes and ladders.

Its never too late to get up and give the ultimatum to anyone.
He should have dignity and move out and carry on with his job.
If his wife really values him she should stand by her husband.
If not tell him his better off with another woman.

Depression of a break up doesnt last too long.Time heals all wounds.
 
May be!!!

Naina_Marbus said:
If the U-turn situation came a few years after the child was born, it is possible that the FIL may not have had such ideas at the time of marriage? FIL may in fact have had successful business runs at the time of marriage, which would explain fancy car, bungalow, etc; and the business subsequently turned sour, and ran into losses, so he needed help?
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Must be!!!

renuka said:
Actually he can handle the matter like this:

1)If he really cant stand the situation he can tell his FIL/MIL that he is marketing online for a replacement for the wife position in his life.

That should do the job.I cant understand why would anyone hang around in such a situation.
The wife should know her priorities that not to mess with husbands job and stand by her husband if her father makes demands like "resign and market the family business"

May be this guy loved the handouts to start with having his cake and eating it both and later realized that he is just a pawn in their family game of snakes and ladders.

Its never too late to get up and give the ultimatum to anyone.
He should have dignity and move out and carry on with his job.
If his wife really values him she should stand by her husband.
If not tell him his better off with another woman.

Depression of a break up doesnt last too long.Time heals all wounds.
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She was just an ordinary looking girl - usually called "the girl-next-door"!

She had latent latents and heaps of ambition!!

She married the boy arranged by her parents.

She had entered Media in a small scale.

Someone spotted her latent talents.

She was given a trim hair cut, a trim suit to wear and trained thoroughly.

From a Cinderella she was transformed to a princess - complete with the

glass shoes - as-if by a magic wand!

She got her dream job and her dream salary.

Her husband was earning "peanuts" compared to her salary.

He looked so drab, so ordinary while in her own circle she came across

many a Prince Charming - transformed by the same magic wand which

changed her life.

Yes her life was thrown out of gear.

She would not relocate to the city where her husband and his mother lived.

Now by the cruel fate she has been relocated to the same city as her

husband but the cruel fate was not cruel enough to make her live with him.

So they both continue to work, earn and live with their parents - in the same

city! What is your advice to this unfortunate couple???
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
She was just an ordinary looking girl - usually called "the girl-next-door"!

She had latent latents and heaps of ambition!!

She married the boy arranged by her parents.

She had entered Media in a small scale.

Someone spotted her latent talents.

She was given a trim hair cut, a trim suit to wear and trained thoroughly.

From a Cinderella she was transformed to a princess - complete with the

glass shoes - as-if by a magic wand!

She got her dream job and her dream salary.

Her husband was earning "peanuts" compared to her salary.

He looked so drab, so ordinary while in her own circle she came across

many a Prince Charming - transformed by the same magic wand which

changed her life.

Yes her life was thrown out of gear.

She would not relocate to the city where her husband and his mother lived.

Now by the cruel fate she has been relocated to the same city as her

husband but the cruel fate was not cruel enough to make her live with him.

So they both continue to work, earn and live with their parents - in the same

city! What is your advice to this unfortunate couple???
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Dear VR Ji,

My advise is be "Friends with Benefits" with each other!!!

Just in case you are wondering what that means..ok let me start:

Wikpedia definition is
Friends with benefits is a term used to describe the physical and emotional relationship between two unmarried people who engage in uncommitted sex acts.
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Ok in this case you wrote above..what the heck yaar..they are married but behave and live like singles so thats the best advise I can think off.
 
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But the problem is that
they are MARRIED
but do not want to have
anything to do with each other!!!
If they are willing to indulge in any act-
committed or uncommitted -
then there is no problem at all!


renuka said:
Dear VR Ji,

My advise is be "Friends with Benefits" with each other!!!

Just in case you are wondering what that means..ok let me start:

Wikpedia definition is
Ok in this case you wrote above..what the heck yaar..they are married but behave and live like singles so thats the best advise I can think off.
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Visalakshi Ramani said:
But the problem is that
they are MARRIED
but do not want to have
anything to do with each other!!!
If they are willing to indulge in any act-
committed or uncommitted -
then there is no problem at all!
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Thats what friends are for isnt it?
See that will be a good start...they meet up for some non committal arrangements then who knows old memories might pour back in their minds and they might want to be together again.
 
ozone said:
Hope for? the girl accepting him as a drab? or converting him into a prince? or she back as a cindrella?
without any realisation or acceptance getting them reunited wouldnt be just another explosion?
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The girl may wake up to the world of reality by coming out of her world of fantasy!

She might remember that she was as drab as he is, once upon a time!!

He could also be converted a Prince charming-if that is what she wants-

with a little effort and expenditure!!!

That the very handsome husbands MIGHT become

the greatest cheaters in the world!!!!

 
Visalakshi Ramani said:

That the very handsome husbands MIGHT become

the greatest cheaters in the world!!!!

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Not really VR Ji,

In my practice as a doc I come across many cheater hubbies who walk in for HIV screening and I have noted most of the while its the plain looking guys who cheat.
Very handsome man rarely cheat.
You can never really judge a book by its cover.
Even my cheater male friends are the plain ones only.
My good looking male friends do not cheat.

Most good looking men got the attention they needed when they were unmarried so when they marry they are ready for a commitment.
The plain ones I know never got any attention when they were young and when they grew older..money was able to buy them some attention.
Sounds harsh but some cheaters just start late thats all!!
 
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WOW! That is revelation to me.

I thought that even if the handsome one wants to be good and pure, the frail females

will throw themselves all over him and at his feet and corrupt him.

Cool! Thank you! I stand corrected! :)

renuka said:
Not really VR Ji,

In my practice as a doc I come across many cheater hubbies who walk in for HIV screening and I have noted most of the while its the plain looking guys who cheat.
Very handsome man rarely cheat.
You can never really judge a book by its cover.
Even my cheater male friends are the plain ones only.
My good looking male friends do not cheat.
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ozone said:
So, if you are Handsome you dont cheat? or if you dont cheat you are handsome?
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Actually cheating is not an easy job.
We should give some credit to cheaters too.
Cheaters have to lead dual life(they get used to it after a while).
Worse still are cyber cheaters there are in a fantasy world almost detached from reality.
Some have multiple cyber cheating partners and have no idea what they said to whom at anytime.
Some are dumb enough to be chatting 2 persons or more at the same time and end up typing in the wrong chat box!!LOL

Cheaters have to delete all recent messages and phone calls from mobiles before going home.
Some even take their mobiles to their bathroom incase spouse checks on it while they are bathing.
They can't leave mobile bills lying around cos sometimes bills are higher than ET phone home.
Smart cheaters download Yahoo Messenger and make free internet calls if theis scandal partner lives in a different country.
So this bill is not detectable.

For male cheaters..collars needs to be checked for lipstick marks.
For female cheaters..they have to make sure no love bites anywhere.!!heheheehe

Its not easy keeping a straight face once at home.
Cos you might actually call out the wrong name.
Thats why its always better to have a common pet name..for example call spouse and scandal partner Honey..so no one knows who you really mean.

The heart rate of a cheater is always a little faster than non cheaters!!
anyone here checking your heart beat!!!LOL

Ok normal heart rate can range from 60/min to 90/min.
Higher than 90 is not really a healthy range..so if you cheat make sure you exercise too to keep heart rate low.

Most important..never let even your best friend know cos you can never trust anyone.
When things go bad the cats and dogs will be out of the bag.Who wants all that.

See the trouble cheaters have to go through??Poor things...so we should always try to understand the sufferings of others and think "life is like that!!"
 
Dear Tmt VR

"Cool! Thankyou! You mean you stand relieved - Hubbyji, I am sure was, is and will always be
a handsome man with dashing looks and staggering features.

Yay Yem
 
Sir!

You are forgetting the most striking features...

his height, his broad shoulders, his narrow waist and his arms-akimbo-pose!

I take very good care of him (as if he is my eldest son)

so that he continues to remain young :whistle:

and I am aging for myself and for him too!

Not that I really mind it!

And I never doubted him even once.

He is Raghu Rama in this respect. :thumb:

Anand Manohar said:
Dear Tmt VR

"Cool! Thankyou! You mean you stand relieved - Hubbyji, I am sure was, is and will always be
a handsome man with dashing looks and staggering features.

Yay Yem
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Dear Tmt VR

A PhD in CHEATOLOGY! Please Mam, spare Dr Renu because :

1 . She is already a Doctor, treating her patients.
2 . There are too many of them around here, testing our patience.

Guruvethunai
Yay Yem
 
It is BECAUSE she is a doctor that she can do such elaborate research on

CHEATOLOGY using her patients and other contact as subjects of study.

Who is testing your patience ...the doctorates or the cheaters ???

Anand Manohar said:
Dear Tmt VR

A PhD in CHEATOLOGY! Please Mam, spare Dr Renu because :

1 . She is already a Doctor, treating her patients.
2 . There are too many of them around here, testing our patience.

Guruvethunai
Yay Yem
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I had said, "I stand corrected" and NOT "I stand relieved!"

It is high time to get your eyes tested and order a new pair of spectacles!!

[Are you secretly jealous of the handsome man with dashing looks and

staggering (stunning???) features???"]

I too can read above, below and between the lines as many people do here!

Anand Manohar said:
Dear Tmt VR

"Cool! Thankyou! You mean you stand relieved - Hubbyji, I am sure was, is and will always be
a handsome man with dashing looks and staggering features.

Yay Yem
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