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nara,
however, it is a different story with my kinfolks in india...
Hello Shri Kunjuppu:
Greetings!
This happened in my own family. My niece wanted to marry a forward caste TNB she met and fell in love at work. The opposition was fierce from her parents, grandparents, and everyone else. A sample of reactions follows.
- We gave her education, the freedom, and look what she is doing now.
- We spent our entire life raising her and now she is abandoning us.
- Look how beautiful our daughter is and this NB is snatching her away from us.
- We shouldn't have given her this education...
I spent hours with the parents to no avail. All this for a wonderful and thoughtful man, with all the Atma Gunas many Brahmins may not even be aware existed, with an IIT education, and a secure and well paying job, etc. etc.
She went ahead and married the guy, the parents did not show, but the grandparents and Chittappa showed up, upon my persuasion I would like to think. They were not impressed though, why he is so dark, he was wearing a kurta, having IIT education or a good job is not everything....
This is where we are, there is not even a whiff of what unconditional love means. Just imagine if she wanted to marry another girl, what would her parents do? Eliminating Varna/Jati is not going to deliver us into Shangre La, it is just the beginning.
Now, my wife and I are "untouchables" to the parents, they think I was the one who encouraged her.
If only the parents throw this caste burden they are carrying on their head there is a world of bliss to be had helping the newly wed couple embark on their marriage. No, no, what will the relatives say, what will the friends say, what will the people in the Matam say???