@Raji Ram: It is good to know that such marriages do happen more frequently in modern day!
@renuka:
What is the hurry to be mature?
maturity is not based on hurry, it is based on experiences. I have to leave my immature days aside as my parents are soon going to reach the retirement age and it is my duty to get into a job and get settled as quickly as possible for them and for myself. I can have fun even as a matured person, this is basically a non-issue
renuka said:
Personally as a doctor I would advise you to marry a woman who is younger to you for obvious biological reasons.
I feel that no two people are the same - some men are going to die quickly and some are going to live long, and it will be the same for women. Perceived biological differences are very subjective - surely someone who takes care of his/her health will be healthy far longer in the long run.
I am a frequent asthma patient and with attacks every year, I am not having any thought that I am somehow more healthy or will be more active in my later years compared to any woman. If anything, I will appreciate someone who actually understands my particular problem (this disease is no joke).
On a related note, I feel that social justice and equality must prevail - it is not fair of anyone to keep assuming that men must always marry younger women despite having the same education and friendship and moral values inculcated over the 20+ years of education. The continued notion of regularizing the age difference gives a false impression that the male must always take charge of the relationship. For me, it has to be a relationship of equals. Equal in mindset, and in understanding. That's why, same age or older does well, a woman who is older generally understands these topics a bit better than a younger girl.
I didn't have this same preference five years ago, but in the past five years I have had a whole new take on my life and realized that if I am to be a good, caring husband and set a good example for my future kids (if any), then this is the way to go.
In real, practical life, I am just not particularly attracted to girls younger than me - I seem them as my sisters and as little kids more often than not. That's just how it is
renuka said:
So you see..don't grow up so fast...be young at heart.
I have my naughty moments as well, I am the greatest leg puller amongst my friends, hehehe
So it's not all doom and gloom for me, but if I have to lie about my age to convince a woman, then I will