thank you anamika for this suggestion.
anamika said.
This question was discussed by my sister and me. She too has the same idea where the aged Parents can be taken care of by the daughter's family. The link can be continued and if it becomes acceptable, it will somewhat reduce the prejudice among the Parents to stay with a married daughter. And here is also a hitch! The S-i-l should be really and willingly accommodating the Parents without whose concurrence this cannot be a success!
personally, i agree.
i have given the reasons in many many posts elsewhere. would not want to repeat it here.
re the issue of son in law - i think most sil would not care. they might get flak from their own siblings or parents, but men do not care much re such things.
it eventually means less work for them in the house. more peace, as a grateful wife, would be willing to give in more.
also, appreciative m/fils are likely to be less demanding than the son's own parents, who if traditional, live with their sons, with a sense of entitlement, and thus make life difficult for dil.
but the best reason? the mother daughter bond is the strongest bond, it is said, between any two humans. they may fight, scratch and abuse each other to the hilt. but nothing sticks. they make up very soon and go on as before before the eye blinks.
now, imagine if only an imagined sleight from the mil to dil or vice versa --- all hell breaks loose. no?
my views.
anamika said.
This question was discussed by my sister and me. She too has the same idea where the aged Parents can be taken care of by the daughter's family. The link can be continued and if it becomes acceptable, it will somewhat reduce the prejudice among the Parents to stay with a married daughter. And here is also a hitch! The S-i-l should be really and willingly accommodating the Parents without whose concurrence this cannot be a success!
personally, i agree.
i have given the reasons in many many posts elsewhere. would not want to repeat it here.
re the issue of son in law - i think most sil would not care. they might get flak from their own siblings or parents, but men do not care much re such things.
it eventually means less work for them in the house. more peace, as a grateful wife, would be willing to give in more.
also, appreciative m/fils are likely to be less demanding than the son's own parents, who if traditional, live with their sons, with a sense of entitlement, and thus make life difficult for dil.
but the best reason? the mother daughter bond is the strongest bond, it is said, between any two humans. they may fight, scratch and abuse each other to the hilt. but nothing sticks. they make up very soon and go on as before before the eye blinks.
now, imagine if only an imagined sleight from the mil to dil or vice versa --- all hell breaks loose. no?
my views.
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