Contd from my previous post...
Shasthras are principles which hold good for eternity... customs and traditions are different in that they evolve over time and sometimes change....
That is why even though our basic scriptures, ie., the vedas upanishads etc are the basis, the evolving practices based on them vary from group to group, and between geographies...
The basic question is - what constitutes the sin or theetu...? Is it the state of widowhood, the individual because of widowhood or the individual itself?
Are widowers an exception? Are widows who have remarried an exception?
I am of the category who respects our shasthras, and I agree with those principles which have an underlying logic in them. I also respect those who abide by shasthras completely, irrespective of whether they see the logic in them or not...
Maybe things were perceived differently in olden times... but should we not know the reasons for them to follow? Also, I admit that it might be impossible to know the reasons for all of them, considering our limited knowledge...
But there are these nagging questions which if solved, would at least pacify the mind with respect to the shasthras...
I quote from the english version of the Sankshepa Dharma Shasthram (Shri Ramachander has provided it in another thread)... under Sthri Dharmam:
9.Vyasa:-
When her husband dies a woman becomes a widow. If she strictly follows the duties of a widow, she can attain comfort with her husband in the next world.
Widows should cut their hair.. If she ties her hair, her husband in heaven will suffer.
She should take meals only once.
She should not use scents. She could offer oblations to her husband daily using Gingelly and Durba grass
She should worship Lord Vishnu daily. She should imagine that her husband is Vishnu. A widow who observes all this would live comfortably.
Based on the above, if a widow does not cut her hair, then it is a sin as her husband, if in heaven, would suffer... (forget about hell... as he would be suffering anyway).
I have the tamil book with me; the word used is "visarjanam"... ie., removal of hair...
So, perhaps the widow who has not removed her hair is a sinner in the above context... maybe the reason why the acharya refused to see widows... or fasted if he saw one?
If one goes through the entire "Sthri Dharmam", after marriage, the husband is God, and no other fasting or prayer is necessary for a wife... that is probably why she has to forego all things of the world if her living god dies...
But again, in the same book, there is a "Sanyasi Dharmam", which does not say that sanyasis should not look at widows!!!
Even in the prayaschittham section, it does not say anything of sanyasis seeing widows... but then, one should have a look at what kinds of sins are there; the list is quite exhaustive!!!! After reading this, it would be crystal clear, that 95% of today's people (among hindus) are sinners...
The question, then is "If the acharya can see such sinners, then why not widows?"