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Dear Dr. Bala Iyer,
I read this (posting) at a Brahmin boys'/men's blog posted several months ago. All of them (the boys and men) were huddling together to criticize the Brahmin brides and their parents, unto discussing what was happening to them, their heritage and culture!
I do not blame the Brahmin brides in India seeking ~ well educated, as they are, earning lots of money, good looking, attractive, and are seeking handsome young men ~ who simply are NOT available within Brahmin community in
South India in large numbers; if available, mothers and fathers of bridegrooms take over the matrimonial scene for the boy and become "spoilers"! and hence these brides are courting Mudaliars, Nairs, Nambiars, Reddiar, Chettiar and others ~ and it is easy to court and meet them at work, through introductions, some of them are courting good looking Muslim boys, others, Christians! This further dwindles the number of brides available for Brahmin boys, seeking, Brahmin girls, in matrimony.
Brahmin boys 5' 5" tall, weighing 132#, are NO match for good and attractive looking, tall beautiful looking brahmin brides 5' 6", weighing 135# ~ with sharp features; seeking to surround themselves with all good things to be fulfilled in their lives, they are also looking for a life partner who can satisfy them sexually ~ they are looking for tall, robust, broad shouldered heavy weight men who can satisfy their "urges"! 5' 5", weighing 132# boys are NOT appealing to these girls sexually! as satisfying them.
As for brides from "poor" families,
there ain't no such thing as daughters of "poor" Brahmin vaadhiyars, brahmin cooks any more available ~ these girls are highly educated with a computer science engineering degree, and have long since left the Temple and Village Agraharams for greener Pasteurs in Bangalore, Hyderabad, Chennai and Delhi, looking for software engineering jobs. where they can earn 75,000 to 100,000 a month. I know of a very poor family (Father) who has three very beautiful looking brides, born and brought up in Tirupati, who finished their Engineering degrees from Sri Venkateswara University in Tirupathi and have migragted to Bangalore, all of them earning over a lac of rupees a month. Seeking matrimony for themselves, not finding those good looking, handsome Brahmin boys, making over 2 lacs per month. Where else will they go?!
I have a Tamil archargar boy B.Com, doing vaidigam, 35, in Madurai whose parents are seeking a bride for him for the last 7 years, unfortunately with "no takers" in over 7 years. The parents have stopped looking!.
Siva my London associate has a handsome looking Iyer Vaadhiyar boy about 36, earning about 30,000 pounds sterling a year in UK well versed in Vaidigam, going to India every year, seeking matrimony, returning back to London empty handed. He jokingly says to Siva "that Iyer Vadama brides are seeking and marrying auto rikshaw drivers and PCO telephone booth operators/owners"!
There is a Srivaishnavite Iyengar boy from a good Nallan Chakravarthi family 38, who is serving as an Archargar in T.T. devasthanam in Tirumalai, seeking a bride for himself advertising for the last 14 weeks in a row in the Hindu newspaper, he probably has spent close to Rs. 25,000 in advertising in these 3-4 moths alone, with no takers. I have been approached by the President of Kerala Brahmins Association to help solve the problem that Kerala Brahmins, Palakkaad Iyers, Pattars are facing in South India, deep South in Trivandum, Kochin, Palakkaad, I shudder to imagine how I can help him in this Big Initiative he has undertaken. He has some good looking Namboodri, Nambisan boys but perhaps they are no match to good looking Keralite brides, seeking. The problem here is that NONE of the brides want to go in a matrimony to rural Kerala, which is very beautiful.
Ratio of South Indian brahmin brides available between the ages of 23 ~ 38 is 1,000 for every 7,000 brahmin bridegrooms in the age bracket of 25~45 seeking according to Thambraas Association registration statistics. The situation is NOT going to improve any time soon! If anything, it will get worse, over the next 25 years, before it can get any better! By then, most of the boys in the age group of 40+ would have reached their 65's and passed on!
In my personal opinion, Brahmin boys should court and seek those Previously Married, Separated, Widowed women, including those who have children ~ in addition, they can also seek Nepali women, good looking as they are! Several Nepalese boys are "bought" from the age bracket of 11 ~ 13 onwards and are serving as "slaves" in many Brahmin homes in Sri Rangam, Madurai, Chennai and elsewhere in South India doing household chores ~ these boys can cook nice south Indian food, prepare nice tiffin and coffee, speak Tamil Language, do all of the household chores, all for a paltry 6,000 rupees a month, which the father of the child takes away. If this is true, Nepalese women can be tamed to become good "housewives" and serve as true faithful "wives"! It is time that South Indian brahmin boys courted these Nepalese women, paid the fathers of the brides a "handsome" dowry and brought them home to serve as "wives" ~ I am sure Brahmin boys can find them if their parents made an honest effort in that direction.
Otherwise, the Brahmin boys of South India may NEVER be able to move from their current "Brahmacharya" "ashram" into "Grahasthashramam".
God bless them in their noble search and seeking with early matrimony!
Blessings
SeeghrmEva vivAhaprAptirastu (शीघ्रमेव विवाहप्राप्तिरस्तु)
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On Wed, Dec 14, 2011 at 9:21 PM, Bala N. Aiyer <
[email protected]> wrote:
Interesting - may be true of situation in India and may not be true in USA or UK.
Bala N. Aiyer
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Sent: Wednesday, December 14, 2011 7:48 PM
Subject: [4brahmins] Fwd: [Pattars] why Brahmin Iyer Girls are not interested in Brahmin Boys.
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From:
nana <
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Date: 30 November 2011 16:25
Subject: [Pattars] why Brahmin Iyer Girls are not interested in Brahmin Boys.
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Recently I was browsing through the internet, I got the answer for the above from the horse mouth ie from the brahmin girl.
I hope the parents of the brhmin boys should look girls from other communiites or look for poor brahmin girls with stars moolam and ayilyam.
I quote:-
i am a brahmin girl. you brahmin guys might not realise it, but brahmin guys are not love/marriage material. i dont blame just you guys – the current social setup is also a reason.
most of my friends (brahmin girls) DONT want to marry a brahmin boy. even i am like that. the reasons? read below:
Here starts the fun part!!!
1) in the current, very competitive setup, brahmin guys – from childhood – have been programmed to take advantage of ANYTHING and everything that comes their way – to the point they will not be even be good friends. this might earn you a good job and a arranged marriage bride in later years. but dont expect a girl to like you after they know about you (and brahmin girls are no exception).
2) by the time a brahmin guys is settled in his life he is almost 30 or after 30. almost all have bald heads when they get married. most young brahmin girls find other attractive guys by this time.
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3) the western influence (thank god!) is making parents realise that love is important for their girl children also. so many parents today are open to a good educated son-in-law from other castes.
4) in my college, and in my class, you can see that the brahmin guys are the puniest, cunning fellows – i am sorry to say this. but thats the reality. you can say whatever – but a girl wants a man who can protect her financially and PHYSICALLY. physical charms like well built body, broad chest and strong shoulders give us that impression. while i can point out many good looking, normal guys who are funny, willing to share from other castes, i dont see ONE brahmin boy in my college like that. there is only one love story that involves a brahmin guy – he is super rich, btw.
5) many brahmin guys are hypocrites. while most cringe at the thought of eating meat, they relish alcohol – and some even blog about wines! while y some act non-meat eating at homes, they eat meat with their friends. most talk about the glory of their caste, but fail to read even the basic texts that would give them some understanding about what they are talking!
most other caste boys (not FCs), dont have these faults (they do other common faults – common to all men – but brahmins have the above in addition to what can be considered normal deviations).
i come from a family where my decisions will be respected. and i am sure that i will NOT marry a brahmin boy – my parents know this and they respect my desicion. any brahmin girls reading this message and shaking their head, try spending some time with boys from other castes – not FCs – but from bc/mbc/sc/sts . you will find them so much better than the cynical, cunning brahmin boys.
i wrote my mind (and this is the frame of mind of many of my relatives and my friends in college). i really feel sorry for brahmin guys who are being trained this way from beginning. but i think they should change atleast after they graduate from college.
Posted by: brahminponnu at November 14, 2007 08:39 PM
Unquote:- So Please parents of brahmin boys look for poor brahmin girls of brahmn cooks . vadhyars.and also help the moolam and ayilyam nakshatram girls to get married.
You will do good service to brahmin community.
V,Narayana Murthy.
