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Divorce rearing its ugly head among Tambrahms

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Raji Ram said:
For the above write-up, Smt. Subhalakshmi replied:

''This is not the first time I have read something like this.. one of our family friends brother did go through something like this

nearly 20 years ago.. this young man was married and before the wedding the girl's condition was that she wants to support her

family, and would continue to work and this man had no problem.. in about a four months they came to know that his father

was diagnosed with cancer, so the treatment started and the oldest DIL and his mother began to care for him.. Now our friend

had two children and while he was at work, his wife the oldest DIL had to take care of their activities.. so the young married

man approached his wife and said, could you please quit for a few months, this time is crucial and since Manni and mom are

taking care of father among other things would you please quit and go back to work, once things have settled a bit..

In this girl was outraged, and she said to him, YOU agreed to my condition and no way I am going to quit for your family's sake

and she applied for divorce and also aborted her fetus and walked out of his life, JUST LIKE THAT.. this young man was so

shocked and a person who is very affectionate and loving, certainly did not deserve this.. he just became like a zombi.. I am not

sure what happened to him later in life, but I was shocked at the whole thing because how could her parents allow such a thing..

anyway, who are we to judge, but today I was reminded of that story.. just felt sad.''

Source: வண்ண வண்ண மனிதர்கள்
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???

If she didnt want to quit her job its still understandable but aborting her own child?

I guess she is the types that cant care.
There are some people like that..no compassion..no remorse.

They show signs of being a sociopath.

Cant blame them..their brains are wired differently.
 
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renuka said:
..... I guess she is the types that cant care.
There are some people like that..no compassion..no remorse. .....
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Dear Renu,

She has compassion but ONLY towards HER parents!!

This has happened more than two decades back!! :shocked:
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Renu,

She has compassion but ONLY towards HER parents!!

This has happened more than two decades back!! :shocked:
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Dear RRji,

Compassion towards ones own flesh and blood is no big deal cos thats attachment.

For eg a mothers would love even her serial killer son.

So in this case she may be only so called cares for her parents becos they might be the only ones she can manipulate and they are willing enough to put up anything for her.

Sociopaths are highly manipulative.
They take drastic steps when their modus operandi doesnt work.
 
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I think men need to understand career aspirations of working women! In this case the lady might have thought that her husband was really serious in her giving up job ! May be he was firm in his communication!! As there was no room for dialogue she would have left in a huff!! May be there is another side to this story!!
 
Dear Ganesh,

Each side will 'justify' their POV. The one who decided to get a divorce will justify his / her side, whereas

the other may try to act innocent! But, I am surprised to see such happenings before two decades, when

girls were not as bold as they are now!
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Ganesh,

Each side will 'justify' their POV. The one who decided to get a divorce will justify his / her side, whereas

the other may try to act innocent! But, I am surprised to see such happenings before two decades, when

girls were not as bold as they are now!
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Two decades back it was considered a taboo..Now attitudes have changed...It depends on upbringing. It is not considered as a sin in highly educated or rich families...Social moorings have also undergone a change...Women who are independent in thinking do not want to be a slave to men and are ready to sacrifice family for protecting their self worth...But the sufferers are the parents and kids
 
A hunter-gatherer male had it all going his way for long.

It was his unquestioned right to drag his slave to his cave and deal with her the way he pleased because he was the hunter-gatherer-provider.

Now he has to reckon with a hunter-gatherer woman.

He finds himself at sixes and sevens wondering how to handle the situation.

He has to redefine the roles and follow them accordingly. Only then there will be peace.
 
vgane said:
Two decades back it was considered a taboo..Now attitudes have changed...It depends on upbringing. It is not considered as a sin in highly educated or rich families...Social moorings have also undergone a change...Women who are independent in thinking do not want to be a slave to men and are ready to sacrifice family for protecting their self worth...But the sufferers are the parents and kids
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I do not think women would appreciate this guilt trip either.
The so-called Sufferers are moochers, they were getting away with slave labor.
How long can anyone suffer?
 
Vaagmi said:
A hunter-gatherer male had it all going his way for long.

It was his unquestioned right to drag his slave to his cave and deal with her the way he pleased because he was the hunter-gatherer-provider.

Now he has to reckon with a hunter-gatherer woman.

He finds himself at sixes and sevens wondering how to handle the situation.

He has to redefine the roles and follow them accordingly. Only then there will be peace.
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What are the women hunting and gathering? Men? Just curious.
 
biswa said:
What are the women hunting and gathering? Men? Just curious.
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She hunts for the Alpha...
But does not desire to own him..
She desires only a duel with him..
He wants her in his Harem..
But she wants it only Haraam...
She hunts and gathers his desires but never letting him be the Lord.
She keeps him wanting more till he cant flow no more.
 
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renuka said:
She hunts for the Alpha...
But does not desire to own him..
She desires only a duel with him..
He wants her in his Harem..
But she wants it only Haraam...
She hunts and gathers his desires but never letting him be the Lord.
She keeps him wanting more till he cant flow no more.
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What about the poor husband?
 
You tell all problems correctly. Have any of you approached and solved any of their problems or given a viable solution to them. If some one with personal, parental or community guidance of help not only verbally but also financially can only talk about these.otherwise it is a waste of time discussing this adding insult to the injury to the already affected people.
 
For single women , marriage is a no go proposition.

Who wants to be stuck in one and later fighting for divorce?.

Temporary fixes are better than long term misery
 
krish44 said:
For single women , marriage is a no go proposition.

Who wants to be stuck in one and later fighting for divorce?.

Temporary fixes are better than long term misery
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adak kadavuLE! engE poyi muttikkaRadhunnu theriyalayE!!! :frusty:
 
Temporary fixes in the long run actually, and in my opinion, invariably cause misery. One would be better off in a marriage reflecting its ideals, in the hope of happiness.
 
biswa said:
What are the women hunting and gathering? Men? Just curious.
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Please visit any of the IT Companies and you will find a number of women working there. Find out for yourself what they are hunting for and what they gather.

It is certainly not men with their stinking ego. LOL.
 
renuka said:
She hunts for the Alpha...
But does not desire to own him..
She desires only a duel with him..
He wants her in his Harem..
But she wants it only Haraam...
She hunts and gathers his desires but never letting him be the Lord.
She keeps him wanting more till he cant flow no more.
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No. This gives the picture better,

She hunts for alpha beta and gamma and theta even.
She needs him because she is creative.
She wants to create and
for that the way is to procreate.
alpha's assets are just kosuru.
When she knew his need was good food
she took over and ruled the kitchen.
Now when she knows he needs money too
she goes out on a hunt to gather it.
Two hunters can live together happily
when there is love mutual respect
and give and take. When it is absent
they hunt each other -- and remember
She is better equipped.
 
These are all due to the fast pace of life we are now due to following all things which are alien to our culture. We can only think of the old days but we can not get back the good old days. It is a question of adjustment at any cost. No individual can pass any judgment. The best judges are the couple who are willing to live along.
 
Vaagmi said:
Please visit any of the IT Companies and you will find a number of women working there. Find out for yourself what they are hunting for and what they gather.

It is certainly not men with their stinking ego. LOL.
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If a man is a hunter and ambitious..he is called capable but if a woman is a hunter and ambitious she is called malodorous egoistic.

I am no feminist but logically its becos of the human ego we desire anything...this applies to both males and females and men do not have to feel emasculated and neither do females have to feel empowered when both play the hunting game.
 
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Vaagmi said:
No. This gives the picture better,

She hunts for alpha beta and gamma and theta even.
She needs him because she is creative.
She wants to create and
for that the way is to procreate.
alpha's assets are just kosuru.
When she knew his need was good food
she took over and ruled the kitchen.
Now when she knows he needs money too
she goes out on a hunt to gather it.
Two hunters can live together happily
when there is love mutual respect
and give and take. When it is absent
they hunt each other -- and remember
She is better equipped.
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She does not hunt to bond..
She hunts just to make a kill..
She does not hunt Halaal..
All she desires is Haraam.

She doesnt desire to be his Queen..
All she wants is a slave.
A slave that will play King as requested.
But know thats only a role.

She directs the movie..
In which he is cast..
Nothing more she desires..
Just the role play that does not rust.
 
renuka said:
She does not hunt to bond..
She hunts just to make a kill..
She does not hunt Halaal..
All she desires is Haraam.

She doesnt desire to be his Queen..
All she wants is a slave.
A slave that will play King as requested.
But know thats only a role.

She directs the movie..
In which he is cast..
Nothing more she desires..
Just the role play that does not rust.
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The rare two-he and she-looking for the sAyujyam moment. Where do you put them? Is sAyujyam too as per her script? LOL.
 
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