Divorces In India

[sarang]

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This how it should be; win win situation for both as both stick to their principles.
The children too do not incur the sin of abandoning the parents in old age.

Dear Krish Sir,

In IC / IR weddings of children of orthodox parents, it is only separation of the parents and the children and not of the couple!

 

[prasad1]

For failing to compromise and adjust for the sake of the family, the only thing to do is put "guilt" on the child. LOL as if that solves the problem.

 

[sarang]

Yuvan Shankar Raja marries again

[h=2]He tied the knot with Malaysia-based designer Jaffrunnisha, a family source said.[/h]
Yuvan Shankar Raja aka Abdul Haliq, son of music maestro Illayaraja, Friday got married for a third time. He tied the knot with Malaysia-based designer Jaffrunnisha, said a family source.
The wedding took place amid close friends and relatives of the bride at a resort in Ramanathapuram district in Tamil Nadu. “It was a low key affair and no one from the film industry was present,” the source told IANS.
The twice separated Yuvan, who has over 100 albums to his credit, has composed music for Tamil, Telugu and Hindi films.

Yuvan Shankar Raja marries again - The Hindu

 

[sarang]

Problem is solved when there is amicable separation. Some log appreciate only 'kato' cultures.

 

[Raji Ram]

... Yuvan Shankar Raja aka Abdul Haliq, son of music maestro Illayaraja, Friday got married for a third time. He tied the knot with Malaysia-based designer Jaffrunnisha, said a family source. ....

She is cute!

Source: Google images.

 

[sudeshwer]

unfortuntely sacred aspect of hindu marriage is slowly gtg into dog. tolerance has evaporated. ofcourse now-a-days girls have well educated and well employed with solid income, sometime more than husbands creating a feeling to manage themselves without husband support; sometime with girls' parents' support; these r few things which contribute to divorce. in western countries, divorce takes place on flimsy grounds. - srinivasan

 

[tbs]

unfortuntely sacred aspect of hindu marriage is slowly gtg into dog. tolerance has evaporated. ofcourse now-a-days girls have well educated and well employed with solid income, sometime more than husbands creating a feeling to manage themselves without husband support; sometime with girls' parents' support; these r few things which contribute to divorce. in western countries, divorce takes place on flimsy grounds. - srinivasan

hi

tolerance has evaporated.....i agreed with u....this is the key mantra for family set up...

 

[krish44]

unfortuntely sacred aspect of hindu marriage is slowly gtg into dog. tolerance has evaporated. ofcourse now-a-days girls have well educated and well employed with solid income, sometime more than husbands creating a feeling to manage themselves without husband support; sometime with girls' parents' support; these r few things which contribute to divorce. in western countries, divorce takes place on flimsy grounds. - srinivasan

the new liberated educated well earning girls with encouragement from her parents are changing the rules of married life

they would like to decide the terms of marriage engagement, what will be their role,whom they will

or will not support.

most girls would like to support and live near their own parents and avoid to live with in laws.

indian traditional family structures are under threat.

girls have become pillai pidikkaravars grabbing well educated and employed boys and running

away with them. most boys parents are forced to fend for themslves often reduced to economic

penury as the sole bread winner boys are taken away from them.

sometimes the girls go off to foreign countries with their spouses to avoid the inlaws.

this is the most prevalent scenario.

divorce is the threat hanging over most TB boys.

the laws in india favour girls for divorce.

the section 498A enables married girls to file a dowry complaint to harass boys and in laws and

send them jail easily.

they can also refuse to give a divorce which they sometimes do to damage boys who tend to

escape in some cases . . divorce is a weapon hanging over most married boys head.

, marriage is a bad proposition for boys

live in is a better option which is happening in metros

 

[rishikesan]

Dear Mr. Krishn, your writing above reflects yet again the current prevailing trend. You analysis of facts are well known, but why should you write the last line ini conclusion, now itself .Let others give their comments, and I am sure it will be interesting to learn the ways to how to avoid marriage?
Do not take I'll of my noting, since I feel the liberty to do so &we may belong to old school ,with tones of practical experienced for many decades with lots of brothers &sisters. In joint families.
Rishikesanwould( A.Srinivasan)

 

[Raji Ram]

......... live in is a better option which is happening in metros

But at least some of us think 'live in' is the WORST option and will spoil the society!

 

[krish44]

But at least some of us think 'live in' is the WORST option and will spoil the society!

rajiramji
what is the way out if marrying as a propositon has become risky since girls refuse to follow the well

laid down traditonal rules due to their economic independance. and have no sense of right and

wrong

most boys are finding it difficult to manage these educated career oriented witches after marriage

why get into a relationship which can only bring misery and hardship for boys

 

[Raji Ram]

Dear Krish Sir,

Will the lady with whom he lives cook for him or take care of him?

In what way the 'live in' will help him? Just to share the rent of the apartment?

 

[krish44]

rajiramji
why look for a wife if the need of boys is a cook? is it good economics?

in case it is to be evaluated in economic terms, most men face the threat of losing their whole salary to wives since economic terms of

marriage are not clearly spelt out.

how many wives these days take care of husbands and vice versa.mostly they take care of

themself and their parents.

live in deals are business deals and economics is clear to both.

a relationship of minimal dependance with economic terms spelt out is a clean relationship.

if one takes care and respects the other then it is bonus and not mandatory.

even marriages on this basis could be giving more space to both parties to pursue their career

goals and be reasonably independant. only such a bond is permanent

 

[cmano1981]

I know cases where girl who was loving a married guy was forced to marry an innocent guy. It shattered the guy's family and took time to come back with remarriage and settling. That girl's life would have lost or she would have killed that married guy's family. So society is getting disturbed by wonderful message from today's cinemas in a wrong way. Either people who loves need to be sensible and understand what is good for them and their future OR those who are doing arranged marriage need to appoint detectives to understand one's background before conducting the marriage. I mentioned only one type of case that I know and there will be many more varieties. Also after children, it will be good for both men and women to sacrifice the inconveniences and not think about divorce as solution in benefit of whole family.

 

[Raji Ram]

........ a relationship of minimal dependance with economic terms spelt out is a clean relationship.

if one takes care and respects the other then it is bonus and not mandatory.

even marriages on this basis could be giving more space to both parties to pursue their career

goals and be reasonably independant. only such a bond is permanent

The ideas are for 'marriage of convenience'! :couch2:

Wiki says:

''A marriage of convenience (plural marriages of convenience) is a marriage contracted for reasons other than the reasons of

relationship, family, or love. Instead, such a marriage is orchestrated for personal gain or some other sort of strategic purpose,

such as political marriage. In the cases when it represents a fraud, it is called sham marriage.''

 

[krish44]

when people marry late these days -boys are in thirtees and girls in 26-29 age groups, the ways and likes and dislikes

are firmer. both have clear about what they want out of marriage with minimum compromises. both are highly

educated and in high earning jobs. in such a scenario marriage with minimal dependance and more freedom for both

is a desirable goal. both can agree to live together with more space to do what they want to achieve in life.

money for survival for both is hardly a concern for both. companionship and a relationship based on trust and mutual

respect counts for more.this can hardly called a marriage of convenience or sham. It is the requirement that in india

marriage still offers physical security, legitimacy of off spring, place to live for women which no other institution

offers.men get legitimate companion acceptable to society at large.anything else is bonus,

the meaning of marriage as understood half a century back has undergone a change and no woman or man would

like to get into it with eyes open if relationship between sexes remain static with values practised then.

now it is relationship based on equity and gender justice which men can ignore only with disastrous consequences

 

[sureshrhel6]

Dear Sir,

It may be a late reply (since I just joined the community) but the truth is left behind the scenes.. Most Brides family expectations are huge as to match the Grooms family.. Looking for US boy or High earning profiles and putting them into trouble...Why cannot they look for a normal guy with normal expectations?? Only marrying a foreign groom will add values to their status?? A normal local guy cannot give them happiness or add values to the marriage life..??