I would say yes, but the reasons are not what one might think.
In my marriage search I came across a good number of women whose mother is Tamil Brahmin and father is not. Tamil or otherwise.
More women I spoke to are more ready for IC compared to men. It is not limited to the TB community.
The reasons are that generally in Indian family system the girl leaves her family and joins the boy's family post marriage and in most cases that means living with or being involved with the boy's parents. Irrespective of caste of boy the girl needs to adjust to a new atmosphere so for her point of view the effort is the same whether or not there is IC marriage.
From men's point of view most men who live with parents or otherwise have regular involvement of parents in life decisions aspire to marry a girl who will be obedient to and compatible with the boy's parents. In this sense they feel that someone who understands our lifestyle and culture will be better.
In case both are not living anywhere near to parents or the parents are not really engaged in the childrens' lifestyle, these two things do not apply, but such cases are still not more than 20%.
Another point of note is that women have recently found freedom and independence in last two generations and wish to exercise free will in selecting life partner. They are less likely to accept compromises on this because the memory of their mother's compromises is still fresh in their minds. So there is a tendency to prioritize convenience and freedom, but the same women later have a second crisis when their half-caste kids are not perceived well by the society.
I spoke to several TB mothers who told me they raised their girl/boy with full Brahmin education and values and now find it difficult to get suitable match because NB lifestyle and values do not match and TBs/others negatively see half-caste kids. Finding love based match is not for everyone in the end, and even in arranged marriage one may not be compatible with every open minded match.
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