I have a question especially would like to get Sangom Sirs input, but all welcome. Apologies ifmy question is construed as silly. But who/what gets to decide what is "sinful", "adharmic" etc? Is it to a large extent subjective and relative or can I have an objective list? Thanks.
Kum. Amala,
I think I had written perhaps in this very thread, that what is dharmic is what you would like others do unto you and so you should behave in the very same manner towards others. I remember having given the Bible quote also:
So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. (Matthew 7:12)
Nobody sits up there in the heaven or Lord Yama's court and decides which are the sins committed by you, imo. It is up to each one of us to decide. As I wrote in another of my posts in this thread, it is self-assessment, self-regulation and experiencing the result by one's own self. But, in our self-assessment, the śloka from subhāṣitaṃ given below may be useful:
तर्कोऽप्रतिष्ठः श्रुतयॊ विभिन्नाः
नैकोमुनिर्यस्य वचः प्रमाणम् ।
धर्मस्य तत्वं निहितं गुहायाम्
महाजनो येन गतः स पन्थाः ॥
(tarko:'pratiṣṭhaḥ śrutayo vibhinnāḥ
naikomuniryasya vacaḥ pramāṇam |
dharmasya tatvaṃ nihitaṃ guhāyām
mahājano yena gataḥ sa panthāḥ ||)
Anything other than Dharmic is sinful, imho, but we ordinary human beings cannot live a life completely Dahrmic and may be forced by circumstances to deviate from the narrow path. But, AFAP, we should strive not to inflict long term damage or suffering to others.
I will recount an issue which cropped up just yesterday. One of my young relatives (a man) has just returned from a 3-months' deputation to US. All of us know that he must have brought some good savings because he was living alone there, he has no habits like drinking, etc. and is very conscious of his responsiblities as son, husband, father of his children, etc. He has a bosom friend who is also a relative of mine. This friend it seems telephoned him two or three days ago asking for a loan of Rs. 50,000 which he would return shortly and is needed just for starting a "Foreign Exchange" business. When this news came to me, I cautioned the former to be circumspect, make more enquiries as to what sort of Foreign Exchange business that fellow was starting, whether it is some hawaala business, etc., and only after due diligence part with his hard-earned money.
My advice is "adhaarmic" if we look at it from the prospective borrower's pov. But I felt that the timing, amount asked for, the purpose stated, are all not convincing and it is better to be careful before parting with one's hard-earned money.
So, you see the matter is subjective to a large extent but not completely so. You might have heard of the story of the courtesan and the sanyasi; what the courtesan did for her livelihood was sinful from the society's pov but her devotion to God stood by her, whereas what the sanyasi outwardly did for his living was laudable for the society pov but his mental attitude led him to the netherworld.
Viewed from the above points, habits such as drinking, smoking (without inconveniencing others), eating non-vegetarian food, doing/using prostitution, watching pornography and so on, may not be either sinful or adhaarmic acts, but each of these will have its own reaction which will have to be experienced in this birth or in some other birth, imho.