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How to tell if it's lust or love Vinita Chaturvedi,TNN

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vgane said:
Dear Prof,

Why should it be always lust with wife

Wife is our equal partner in progress

It is also love in equal measure!

Lust is just a biological need which is not 24 x 7!

When lust is the only thing then pure love will not have a place!
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basically it is lust

sometimes it happens to be with wife also

what equality

only sign in maths books. some are more equal in most marriages

there is only mutual tolerance in marriage and space for each other for a lucky few

lovvu is for tamil film plots

vaganeji

you are a hopeless romantic kind.god bless
 
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vgane said:
What will the there in this marriage...Love, Lust, or Fatigue or may be ruing fate

ND Tiwari marries Rohit Shekhar's mother Ujjwala Sharma in Lucknow - The Times of India
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it is justice for ujwala and rohit

god bless indian women. accepting to marry ND for what all he did to ujwala,

has she set a good example for other ladies?

I wonder.

may be the urge to legitimise the relationship to get acceptance of society for herself and son could be the reason for marriage

it could be love also ., inspite of everything she has gone thru , she still loves him .

if latter is the case god save indian women
 
krish44 said:
basically it is lust

sometimes it happens to be with wife also

what equality

only sign in maths books. some are more equal in most marriages

there is only mutual tolerance in marriage and space for each other for a lucky few

lovvu is for tamil film plots

vaganeji

you are a hopeless romantic kind.god bless
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Krishji,

I view it as a compliment..I got a mental age score of 21 (2nd mental age test of PJ) which was really trying to look at age from different perspective ie fun quotient
 
renuka said:
Other mappillais all had mustache..so I said no to others.

See its so easy to get married!
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Renukaji,

What discrimination! Please take back this offensive comment! :)

I used to think it is color, height, status of job and size of wallet. Now you are saying it is facial hair as well? Is less hair better? What about baldness?
 
biswa said:
Renukaji,

What discrimination! Please take back this offensive comment! :)

I used to think it is color, height, status of job and size of wallet. Now you are saying it is facial hair as well? Is less hair better? What about baldness?
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Oye Biswa ji...why you have a mustache or what??LOL

Clean shaven feel is always better..I dont like males with whiskers!

Baldness should not be premature..once a person enters his early 50's some amount of hair thinning is inevitable.

But whenever any Mappillais came to my house to view me..I would first stand at the balcony to have an aerial view of their head as they walk into my house and from that I can guess their hair pattern and balding potential in the future.
 
krish44 said:
it is justice for ujwala and rohit

god bless indian women. accepting to marry ND for what all he did to ujwala,

has she set a good example for other ladies?

I wonder.

may be the urge to legitimise the relationship to get acceptance of society for herself and son could be the reason for marriage

it could be love also ., inspite of everything she has gone thru , she still loves him .

if latter is the case god save indian women
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I find her to be silly in this..she should just reject him and tell him that she only wanted him to accept his son and he need not be a husband to her!

She should get married to someone else and not to this guy.
 
vgane said:
Dear Prof,

Why should it be always lust with wife

Wife is our equal partner in progress

It is also love in equal measure!

Lust is just a biological need which is not 24 x 7!

When lust is the only thing then pure love will not have a place!
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Why divorce lust from love?

Both are needed for a balanced life.

Lust is like water and Love is the H20 molecule..you cant separate them..you just have to drink it and enjoy the taste.
 
vgane said:
Dear Sir,

I am giving an earthy twist to marriage..After the initial hullabaloo over marriage, it dawns on the couple that they have to look at life differently..They have a partner to be taken care of..They have to manage the daily chores of the family..There is additional responsibility which is thrust on the couple..They may have to share that..They also have to manage the outside world!
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Sir,
Thank you as the reply contains etiquette of human life.
 
renuka said:
Why divorce lust from love?

Both are needed for a balanced life.

Lust is like water and Love is the H20 molecule..you cant separate them..you just have to drink it and enjoy the taste.
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Doctor Madam,

Your illustration is very nice and acceptable.
 
vgane said:
Dear Sir,

I am giving an earthy twist to marriage..After the initial hullabaloo over marriage, it dawns on the couple that they have to look at life differently..They have a partner to be taken care of..They have to manage the daily chores of the family..There is additional responsibility which is thrust on the couple..They may have to share that..They also have to manage the outside world!
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Sir,
Thank you as the reply contains etiquette of human life.
 
dhikshita said:
Doctor Madam,

Your illustration is very nice and acceptable.
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Thank you sir..finally someone agrees with me that lust and love are inseparable.

Lust is Kama..Love is Bhava

Lust is Sthoola ..Love is Suskshma



No matter what the differences are..its only Lust that has a Sutra (Kama Sutra) but Love has no Sutra!LOL

So Lust wins hands down!
 
When you find that your partner loves you and cares you as always, no matter you satisfy his/her lust whenever demanded, he/she is in Love with you.

When you find that your partner tries to find out the physical/mental issues you have, that prevents you from being lustful/sexually active and tries to resolve the issue, he/she is in Love with you.

Yes, Lust has Sutra (Kama Sutra) and explains different game play BUT LOVE is not a Play Thing and has no limitations, no restrictions & no fatigue.


 
C RAVI said:
When you find that your partner loves you and cares you as always, no matter you satisfy his/her lust whenever demanded, he/she is in Love with you.

When you find that your partner tries to find out the physical/mental issues you have, that prevents you from being lustful/sexually active and tries to resolve the issue, he/she is in Love with you.

Yes, Lust has Sutra (Kama Sutra) and explains different game play BUT LOVE is not a Play Thing and has no limitations, no restrictions & no fatigue.


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RAVIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII..............long time no see! Where were you yaar? Someone known to me in forum also was asking me where is Ravi just yesterday and Lo Behold! You are back.


BTW you said
Yes, Lust has Sutra (Kama Sutra) and explains different game play BUT LOVE is not a Play Thing and has no limitations, no restrictions & no fatigue.
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Yes you are right..love is no Play Thing...its hardcore emotions..not for the weak hearted!

BTW per you definition that love has no limitation and restrictions...that means one can love all types of people including males and females without limitations and restrictions,pre marital and extra marital included??

Wow that is like breaking all rules!!!

Now the best part if you wrote NO FATIGUE..must be some new wonder drug not yet approved by FDA!LOL
 
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renuka said:
Thank you sir..finally someone agrees with me that lust and love are inseparable.
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I have problem with that statement.
What about the love of a mother and child?
What about love of inanimate objects, like nature etc?
Or the love between friends?
 
prasad1 said:
I have problem with that statement.
What about the love of a mother and child?
What about love of inanimate objects, like nature etc?
Or the love between friends?
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Dear Prasad ji,

My statement was about the love between partners/lovers/husband and wife in response to the OP ..OP was not talking about other types of love...cos in love between mum and kid, loving inanimate objects and friends..no lust exists since a physical relationship almost never happens in normal cases.

BTW I love my car a lot..I even have a name for my car.
 
renuka said:
BTW you said



Yes you are right..love is no Play Thing...its hardcore emotions..not for the weak hearted!

BTW per you definition that love has no limitation and restrictions...that means one can love all types of people including males and females without limitations and restrictions,pre marital and extra marital included??

Wow that is like breaking all rules!!!

Now the best part if you wrote NO FATIGUE..must be some new wonder drug not yet approved by FDA!LOL
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Definition of "LOVE" with a Partner need not be complete only by endorsing Physical Intimacy, as mandatory!

Such "LOVE" has no restriction, no limitation and doesn't lead to fatigue, mutually. If leads to suffocation to either of the party involved, then, that's a different problem altogether, resultant to possessiveness, going over board and spoiling the need of privacy of a partner etc..etc.


A person can fall in such heart felt emotional LOVE before ending up marrying to another person for whats so ever reason. This is natural human phenomena and there is nothing wrong.

If a person falls in such LOVE with another person other than one's spouse, then, that person either need to introspect what is his/her true self, having one's own personality lapses OR is the one who unfortunately finds himself/herself in the spouse relationship with a wrong person.

A couple should be lucky to have each other with true LOVE towards each other.


PS : I am not into expressing my views on gay love, lesbo love, abnormal/unnatural physical love with animals etc..etc. Mine is only on love between two opposite genders of the human species.
 
prasad1 said:
I have problem with that statement.
What about the love of a mother and child?
What about love of inanimate objects, like nature etc?
Or the love between friends?
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Dear Prasad Sir,

This is the difference I see in 'Lovvu' and 'Love'. :lol:

Lovvu = Love + Lust.

Love = Love only!!
 
There was a mAmA in our village who got married at the age of 40 and consulted my dad to give some medicine
to decrease the lust in his spouse, who was nearly a dozen years younger to him! :help:
 
C RAVI said:
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PS : I am not into expressing my views on gay love, lesbo love, abnormal/unnatural physical love with animals etc..etc. Mine is only on love between two opposite genders of the human species.
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Dear Ravi,

The members with modern outlook might object to this classification!! :spy:
 
For a successful marriage, the arguments and lust between spouses should be just as ooRugAi to a full meal! :hungry:
 
For a successful marriage, the arguments and lust between spouses should be just as ooRugAi to a full meal! :hungry:

In the younger days consumption of ooRugai will be naturally more!! :lol:
 
Raji Ram said:
There was a mAmA in our village who got married at the age of 40 and consulted my dad to give some medicine
to decrease the lust in his spouse, who was nearly a dozen years younger to him! :help:
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He is only 40 and system shut down already??LOL

He should have been screened for Diabetes and Atherosclerosis..this narrows blood vessels and cause problems for male sexual performance.

Many males think this is becos of age but they dont realize that a system shut down of the sexual kind can spell a heart attack in the near future cos if arteries narrow in the body it means cardiac vessels narrowing too which leads to a heart attack eventually.

So if any male in the early 40's experience any sexual performance problems..please get screened by a doctor to check your cholesterol levels/blood sugar levels and also for signs of atherosclerosis....don't be complacent thinking its becos of age..never ignore warning signs..it could cost you your life..the body speaks to us in strange ways...so if you are not stiff that is a warning sign that you could land up a stiff in the morgue soon!
 
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Dear Renu,

That 40 year old man was perfectly normal, Renu. He died recently at the ripe age of 80+.

His two smart children are doing well in life and take care of their mother. :thumb:
 
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