SV-ji,
I too wud have not really got into reading abt religion, caste, origins, and all (though was spiritually inclined). Then some years ago i went thru a difficult phase. I had to work alongside some ppl who turned out to be the kind that supported extreme thinking or work, of a certain sort. They were also the ones that talked abt how brahmanism had spoiled original tamil culture and so on. Their vengeful attitude was too scary to say the least at that time. I just heeded my conscience then and i do not regret it.
I did speak to quite a few gurus abt the varna dharma. I do understand some things well - its just that when it comes to fitting it in socially in the present times, i see it all at a loss. And that's why i keep trying to find reasons from the scriptures that says varna is not by birth (and yes must say there are plenty in that angle too). Very truly my vision is coloured because of what i have seen and known.
I have immense respect for Sri Mahaperiaval whom i do not see any less than God Himself. I did have the good fortune of spending some time with Him with my mother in a remote place that He was visiting with someone (no crowd). My mother spoke to him at length while i just sat and stared at Him the whole noon into late evening (i was abt 6 then).
I wud never consider His words as casual in any way.
Did you notice, I have been on this forum only recently? that is about a month..and i have posted views in very few threads here. Simply because, I did not know about this website earlier. Also, I happened to have a bit more time in the last one month. Whereas, people like Paramacharya have spent their whole life on these subjects - scripturally and spiritually. It is a great privilege you have had in having been in his presence.
Whenever, you ever come across anyone who hurts your feelings (through anti-brahminical attitude), just ignore them (for their words), but never ignore them fully. Their negative attitude is because they have no idea about brahmins. But, their strength is because, WE have very less idea about brahminism ourselves (in general nowadays).
The only way like Paramacharya suggests (or rather pleads) is by following our vedic dharma - of learning, chanting the vedas and of spiritual quest. All other issues of material and non-material needs including fighting ridicule towards varna system (and brahminism in specific) can be ignored, if we do the above. i have extracted this as the essence of Paramacharya's teachings.
When ever you have a doubt if varna system by birth is right, please put these questions to yourself, to find some solace:
1. If there is GOD then can there be more than one GOD?
2. If there cannot be more than one GOD, how can there be anything outside GOD?
3. If there is nothing outside GOD, then how can there be male and female genders for a soul?
4. If there is (even) no gender to a soul, then how can there be differences of high and low among people?
5. If there is no difference among people in the highest sense, then are the outwardly differences of caste only temporary?
6. If body is temporary, caste is temporary, and if karmic theory exists then, is the varna system only laying down rules for a current birth?
7. If varna system is laying down rules for a current birth, then one soul may be born into one caste now and another caste in its next birth right?
Then why fret over it? Why these rules through the varna system?
Well, it is only to clear off our karmic balance and channelizing our life during this birth. One who can do their role as prescribed by varna dharma without thinking one to be high or low (irrespective of what caste they or others are) would only help them clear their karmic balance and channelize ones' own life spiritually.