Marriage of Indian Cricketer Dinesh Karthik

[CHANDRU1849]

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Indian Cricketer Dinesh Karthik will be marring Squash Player Dipika Pallikal.

Karthik is to get married twice, as he is a Hindu Naidu and Dipika is a Christian - Christian wedding on Aug 18 and Hindu wedding on Aug 20.

 

[yesmohan]

In Kanyakumari District, in arranged marriages between Hindu Nadar and Christian Nadar communities, it is a common practice to have marriages as per Hindu customs in mandabams and as per Christian convention in churches, on the same day.

 

[vgane]

Most of the media celebrities including sports stars marry IC & IR which our TB masses also emulate...This marriage is in their private domain..Let us leave the privacy to the couple

 

[yesmohan]

Recently I received one marriage invitation from one my erstwhile collogue for his daughter's marriage.
Bride - is a TB girl.
Bridegroom - SC Christian.
I opted not to attend the marriage. But from invitation I come to know, that marriage to be conducted in the early morning in Church as per Christian convention: later in the day in a Mahal as per TB customs..........having kasi yathra , oonjal, maangalya thaaranam, nalangu etc

Soft love emanated in Software company.

 

[vgane]

What are we TB's up to..Making a parpanathi marry a Pallan or Paraiyan and put akshadai on that

 

[tbs]

Recently I received one marriage invitation from one my erstwhile collogue for his daughter's marriage.
Bride - is a TB girl.
Bridegroom - SC Christian.
I opted not to attend the marriage. But from invitation I come to know, that marriage to be conducted in the early morning in Church as per Christian convention: later in the day in a Mahal as per TB customs..........having kasi yathra , oonjal, maangalya thaaranam, nalangu etc

Soft love emanated in Software company.

hi


many software marriages will be like that.....lol

 

[Raji Ram]

In my extended family, the traditional Iyer wedding was in the morning and church wedding in the afternoon.

The 'thAli' was removed within hours after the wedding and I felt that the Iyer wedding was just a 'kElik kooththu!'. :sad:

So, it is better to have the church wedding first!

 

[CHANDRU1849]

Recently I received one marriage invitation from one my erstwhile collogue for his daughter's marriage.
Bride - is a TB girl.
Bridegroom - SC Christian.
I opted not to attend the marriage. But from invitation I come to know, that marriage to be conducted in the early morning in Church as per Christian convention: later in the day in a Mahal as per TB customs..........having kasi yathra , oonjal, maangalya thaaranam, nalangu etc

Soft love emanated in Software company.

After some time, the TB girl will definitely forget all Hindu rituals and become a devout Christian. She will promptly attend Church every Sunday and even shout during Christian meetings.

Jai Ho TB girls.

 

[krish44]

After some time, the TB girl will definitely forget all Hindu rituals and become a devout Christian. She will promptly attend Church every Sunday and even shout during Christian meetings.

Jai Ho TB girls.

I have one syrian christian girl married to my relative -an iyengar. She wears thaali , sindoor and our madisar on occassions perform shraddha with hindu husband for

inlaws as per our brahmin customs, had gruhapravesham as per brahmin customs.

She also got married in a church in addition to hindu aryasamaj rituals elsewhere. She also has a photo of christ in her bedroom.while the prayer room has photos of

hindu Gods. When couple love each other ,they go the extra mile not to hurt religeous feelings of the other.

 

[tbs]

hi

software job gives more money and more freedom to gals....especially TB gals go for extra mile...

 

[krish44]

A quiet revolution is on ,in the small B towns of india, The internet/facebook generation is connecting with all manner of people and getting exposed thru the medium to

friends of opposite sex and finding matches which suit themselves. The girls specifically from the upper castes are confronting the traditonalists and asserting their rights

to choose mates of their choice. As far as they are concerned ,caste/religion do not matter much. If the tradition bound society does not accept the same, they will

migrate to places where they will get accepted.

most shift to cosmopolitan places within the country where the right to privacy is honoured or abroad ,where caste does not carry any meaning.

Frankly it is a good development

 

[vgane]

A quiet revolution is on ,in the small B towns of india, The internet/facebook generation is connecting with all manner of people and getting exposed thru the medium to

friends of opposite sex and finding matches which suit themselves. The girls specifically from the upper castes are confronting the traditonalists and asserting their rights

to choose mates of their choice. As far as they are concerned ,caste/religion do not matter much. If the tradition bound society does not accept the same, they will

migrate to places where they will get accepted.

most shift to cosmopolitan places within the country where the right to privacy is honoured or abroad ,where caste does not carry any meaning.

Frankly it is a good development

In that case let us not say our community is getting extinct...As it stands our community does not have a life beyond 50 years

 

[krish44]

In that case let us not say our community is getting extinct...As it stands our community does not have a life beyond 50 years

Initially it was the elitist in brahmins breaking the barriers of caste based on their material wealth. They could defy the tradionalists and get way with it.

Then slowly the professional middle class in large metros joined the bandwagon .

Now even the B and C grade cities are joining in due to internet and facebook.

The opening up and globalisation is leaving its mark on indian society.

It is a losing war for traditionalists.

They are bound to fall on the wayside and swept away due to actions of their own caste sisters/daughters.

Our Traditonal society gave a menial role to women and subjected them to atrocities in home and societal space.

with education and jobs as their weapons , they are breaking out calling for freedom from an atrocious order.

They are bound to succeed.

Thats why a film like " Masaan ' set in varanasi on the same theme becomes relevant [see my review in another thread of same name]

Devi the heroine of film in varanasi from upper caste , daughter of a retired sanskrit professor makes her own choice of mate and gets into difficulties with police who

blackmail her and her family. She finds her way out of the mess independantly by finding a job elsewhere and moving off to allahabad in search of a more secure

future. She does not

regret a wee bit regarding her choice and does not give in tamely to the society at large.That is the new indian spirit of the youth.

caste and religion have to take a back seat in this new emerging order

 

[Janaki Jambunathan]

Indian Cricketer Dinesh Karthik will be marring Squash Player Dipika Pallikal.

Karthik is to get married twice, as he is a Hindu Naidu and Dipika is a Christian - Christian wedding on Aug 18 and Hindu wedding on Aug 20.

To be Hanged twice for the same or sane crime ! - Legally not accepted See this When prononcing the judgement it is written "to be hanged unto death" Earlier there are recorded cases when hanged man when taken off the noose miraculously found alive hanged but never died!

 

[vgane]

They are bound to fall on the wayside and swept away due to actions of their own caste sisters/daughters.

Our Traditonal society gave a menial role to women and subjected them to atrocities in home and societal space.

with education and jobs as their weapons , they are breaking out calling for freedom from an atrocious order.

They are bound to succeed.

Krish Sir,

I think you are not ware about the reality in TN ....Many have fallen trap ..It is like a honey trap..I know a TB girl who studied in PSBB & Sankara Vidyalaya...She got caught in this love affair with a NB co worker...She eloped...Instead of living a life of luxury she is currently in a slum in Lake area...Her husband is not even able to get her the basic necessities and she has to depend on her parents...She went against the wish of the family..Now she is languishing..Over the span of 2-3 years she got various diseases also...Half the time she is hospitalized..Poor girl...For her it is a learning...A bitter truth

 

[krish44]

Vgane sir
I also know a middle class TB girl an engineer who married someone her classmate from a well off intermediate caste family

She made him finance her post graduation abroad besides making his family pay for huge reception costs at Rajeshwari kalyana mandapam .

She collected huge amount of jewellery as part of marriage settlement from in laws.

She is sitting pretty in newyork with a grand lifestyle and working in a top company

She periodically finances her parents trips to US to look after her kid .

You can depend on most of them to be smart.

Our views sometimes get coloured when it comes to other castes and religion.

But I agree some times our girls also get taken for a ride if they are not smart enough.

 

[CHANDRU1849]

I have one syrian christian girl married to my relative -an iyengar. She wears thaali , sindoor and our madisar on occassions perform shraddha with hindu husband for

inlaws as per our brahmin customs, had gruhapravesham as per brahmin customs.

She also got married in a church in addition to hindu aryasamaj rituals elsewhere. She also has a photo of christ in her bedroom.while the prayer room has photos of

hindu Gods. When couple love each other ,they go the extra mile not to hurt religeous feelings of the other.

I am talking about TB Girls and not Christian girls. How many TB Girls follow Hindu customs seriously after marriage to Non-Hindus? If anyone insists, it will end up in split.

 

[krish44]

I have also a TB girl in my extended family in chennai who married her christian colleague.

She has retained her hindu roots.

Her husband respects hindu customs and performed gruhapravesam of his house with hindu pandits,

Their daughter an engineer got married to another brahmin.

It depends on mutual adjustment between the girl and boy.

Religion is not much a major issue if two like each other

 

[CHANDRU1849]

I have also a TB girl in my extended family in chennai who married her christian colleague.

She has retained her hindu roots.

Her husband respects hindu customs and performed gruhapravesam of his house with hindu pandits,

Their daughter an engineer got married to another brahmin.

It depends on mutual adjustment between the girl and boy.

Religion is not much a major issue if two like each other

Incidence of this nature is a rare one.

If the boy is from an Abrahamic Religion, besides the boy, the parents will also be very severe in forcing the bride to follow their religion.

One of my colleague's (Iyengar) daughter married a boy from I/R parentage. Though the boy's father (Christian) is no more and his mother is from Hindu faith, the marriage was performed as per Hindu and Christian customs.

 

[Brahmanyan]

This thread has turned to the subject of inter caste / religious marriage again.

"It is true that many Brahmin Girls marry boys from other Castes (and religions) nowadays. When there is a change in the Social and economic values due to increase in earning capacity of girls and boys, these type of inter mixing take place. More economic independence among the employed girls is also a reason for this change. When the boys and girls at marriageable age are left alone in far off places to mix easily, nature takes over the responsibility of the parents and tie them into wedlock. Many times this infatuation triggered by age, is mistaken for ( instant) love and has no religious, caste or community barriers. If these marriages are out of true love between the two, our Scriptures have nothing against them, and many of these marriages are also successful, but the children out of this wedlock are the worst sufferers. The question is whether our society is ready to accept "asavarna Prathiloma" marriages ? Time alone can answer."

Many of these love marriages happen because of external compulsions, a sort of accident. Mostly happen when the boys and girls live in far away big cities and foreign Countries, where there is no parental or community control. Personally I believe that in the long run, it needs a lot of adjustment required to be made by the pair comming from different cultural back-ground to sustain the married life.

I have seen many IC and a few IR marriages in our own family, most of them continue with intermittent rumblings, however a few of them broke forcing to divorce.

Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

 

[vgane]

Well said Brahmanyan Sir....But fact of matter is mostly TB's are targetted for IC/IR...I have never seen a Pillai marrying a Thevar or a Mudaliar marrying an SC...These are very rare...What else could be the reason that our community is being targetted by these love mafias other than the fact that we are the weakest community in terms of numbers with no real muscle power ...The most impacted among all communities would be the TB's....As it stands over 30% of my relatives have gone astray and more are in the pipeline

 

[krish44]

the basic reason IMHO is brahmins are at one end of the caste spectrum and most other castes like to have one in their family as a trophy . Secondly most of the girls are fair and

better looking as compared to other castes that send BP raising in all youth.Thirdly, the economics of marriage[high costs in marriage spending ] delays marriages and

many educated girls have work for a few years to add to the family kitty before they can think of marriage, the average age of educated career brahmin girls is now 28years.

In families with more than one female child, the younger ones have a long wait time before they can think of marriage. Most girls are tempted to find an easy out of

this predicament by marrying from other castes with no major economic implications. some even opt for registered marriages in case of family opposition as it is good

economics, less adjustment hassles as the boy is already known to them , no relocation issues. All these are definite plus. the risk is the choice of boy might turn out to

be bad.Thats there in brahmin matches also anyway.Unless there are major reforms in higher castes and there is ease of marriage without insistence on expensive weddings , the issue

is likely to stay and get worse with more outflow of girls marrying boys of other castes,communities

 

[vgane]

better looking as compared to other castes that send BP raising in all youth.

I do not think so...There are as beautiful girls in other communities else also...It is because in our circle we do not happen to interact with girls of other communities..Most of us know our maid or may be a few NB neighbours...I have been to interior TN...I have seen beautiful Pillai, Thevar, Mudaliar, Chettiar & Naidu women...They are happily married in their community....There was this Naicker family who created havoc in an Iyer family...When the Iyer family visited them in Erode they were shocked to see beautiful & lanky women in their community..Now why the hell, this Naicker boy coveted a girl from Iyer community...

 

[krish44]

vgane sir

Beauty is a subjective thing. some might appeal to some and others might consider them ordinary. Many Brahmin girls are definitely fair in colour. Thats their USP.

Also this caste thing. Most would like to boast they have a brahmin wife. Many brahmin girls set harsh terms for marrying other caste boys. That adds to their value

perhaps.

 

[psnarasimhan]

Why 50 years everything will come to an end in another 10 years and not 50 years.