Pl don’t listen to wrong people/wrong advise !!

[renuka]

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Hi Renuka:

I am not at all imposing this on you nor on anyone. If yousee my first post on this subject, I only said my advise is to have 2 or 3 kids.

There may be situations/circumstances for each & everyperson, so this is totally understandable.

So for the unmarried, newly married couples or people planningfor the family way, it may be of interest to evaluate all options & thendecide for themselves.

Cheers,

Dear JK,

I was saying that you were imposing..I was saying that generally Asians tend to be imposing by asking people why they have only 1 child etc.

My post was a general statement..not directed towards you.

Just like how one of my relative who expected me to do elaborate prayers etc had asked me when we had gone to temple once
"why when you read about religion/sanskrit etc..yet you do not even offer a flower to God..why this sort of behavior..we do not read up on anything yet we have love to offer things to God"

So you see some of my relatives view my non offering of things to God as wrong and sans Bhakti.

Usually I do not reply cos I do not like to impose my believes on others cos for me I feel technically I can offer nothing to God besides my thoughts,words and deeds.

This is what I believe but I do not ask others "hey why are you offering this and that to God".

So you see..each one of us are unique and do whats the best suited for our understanding..but as I said I have no idea how most people think they are always 100% right.

 

[Jaykay767]

Hi Renuka,

Yes, agree, Indians have this habit of imposing themselves on others particularly their relatives. This comes from the historic tradition of joint families where all family secrets were shared with all & it helped to survive in the past due to invasions etc.. For eg, aunts were very nosy & asked the youngsters all the details including love life & stamped any budding out of line love affairs. A close extended family can weather any storm better than a smaller unit.

However this is an issue in today’s world since most families are nuclear !!


Cheers,

 

[sarang]

There is a basic dharma - propagation of race and one's lineage. One child will not lead to that.

In a popular book on statistics there is a quote - the figure 2.43 children per couple to keep population stable and arrest decline is difficult to achieve; the figure must be rounded off a more feasible and acceptable figure - three.

Everyone can decide what they want and act is not correct in all situations. There is varna dharma - specific to the occupation and way of life, asrama dharma for a specific periods and station in life, and samanya dharma, common to most to cover most of the mundane situation; of course special dharma for specific needs.

Once dharma is understood not to mean law or just duty, the door and eye will open.

Each one is unique - yes, jivatma is different and unique.

Do what is best suited to our understanding - yes, only the understanding must be widened with acquisition of knowledge.

100% right thinking individuals take their cue from the modern concept - have confidence in you, you are always right and you can achieve anything.

 

[Raji Ram]

'We two; ours two!' was the formula to control population, a few years back. These ads were seen on the rear side

of all the Pallavan transport buses an even on autos! Now without any propaganda, many couples have the formula,

'We two; ours one!' This is because of the soaring prices, capitation fee in primary schools (!!) and later on in colleges,

hospital expenses and the highly demanding children!

 

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'We two; ours two!' was the formula to control population, a few years back. These ads were seen on the rear side

of all the Pallavan transport buses an even on autos! Now without any propaganda, many couples have the formula,

'We two; ours one!' This is because of the soaring prices, capitation fee in primary schools (!!) and later on in colleges,

hospital expenses and the highly demanding children!

hi RR madam,

wait for next ad......உனக்கு நான் ...எனக்கு நீ...நமக்கு எதற்கு குழந்தை.....

 

[sarang]

But this applies to only hindu population. We must wait for the latest population survey.

'We two; ours two!' was the formula to control population, a few years back. These ads were seen on the rear side

of all the Pallavan transport buses an even on autos! Now without any propaganda, many couples have the formula,

'We two; ours one!' This is because of the soaring prices, capitation fee in primary schools (!!) and later on in colleges,

hospital expenses and the highly demanding children!