Points to ponder!

[Visalakshi Ramani]

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Dear Renu,

The concept of marriage is togetherness through thick and thin till the

inevitable factor parts them once for all!

Where is the togetherness in the modern weddings?

Where is the "caring and sharing" in modern marriages?

Each for himself/ herself will become the philosophy very soon!

Out of sight, out of mind...sooner or later!

Friendship is also a union of hearts.

True friends are defined as two bodies and one soul!

If it is so, where is the NEED for a marriage for the union of two hearts?

They can live poles apart and stay emotionally connected EVEN without

getting married! Whom are they trying to fool? Themselves or their

trusting parents?

with best wishes & regards,
Mrs. V.R.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Unless a person is a genius,
it is best to aim at being intelligible. :loco:

The real test of man's character is
what he would do if he knew that
he would never be found out. :scared:

A man is what he is in the dark. :behindsofa:

 

[nachi naga]

v,raji,renu the above posts are so good.

license to enjoy without feeling guilty? ....

as a married bachelor,i pretty much duh dat hee hee.

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,

The concept of marriage is togetherness through thick and thin till the

inevitable factor parts them once for all!

Where is the togetherness in the modern weddings?

Where is the "caring and sharing" in modern marriages?

Each for himself/ herself will become the philosophy very soon!

Out of sight, out of mind...sooner or later!

Friendship is also a union of hearts.

True friends are defined as two bodies and one soul!

If it is so, where is the NEED for a marriage for the union of two hearts?

They can live poles apart and stay emotionally connected EVEN without

getting married! Whom are they trying to fool? Themselves or their

trusting parents?

with best wishes & regards,
Mrs. V.R.

Dear VR,

I have a short story for u...

See "Hardware" needs regular maintenance and "Software" needs constant updates.
Now you see "Hardware" doesnt really think that much..its just a spinal reflex..but "Software" sometimes can be emotional and trouble shooting starts.

So you see sometimes "Hardware" has midlife crisis and might seek new "Software" and then even more trouble starts cos new "Software" is more expensive to maintain and the old "Software" also gives trouble now.

Ok then when "Hardware" works overtime with new "Software" risk of getting infected with Virus is high so what does "Hardware" do?

Go back to old "Software"? yes thats what "Hardware" does and goes home and sees that all this while "Software" was in connection with "Windows 7(the neighbour")....

This story has been there for ages, just given a modern twist..God knows what is in anyones mind....

 

[nachi naga]

instead of neighbor ,maybe neighbor's is more apt ,especially same gender union

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear Renu,

I think we are saying the same thing in different words...

apparently contradicting but actually supporting each other's views!

I need more time to read your story (riddle) and transfer it to fit on

human beings.

Till then take care!

with best wishes and regards,
V.R.

P.S.

I only meant that He is busy with his job in hardware; She with her job

in software and since they do not have time/inclination/ interest,

children are nowhere!

I too wish I could say children are "now here!" instead of "nowhere!"

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I hope (and pray and wish that) I have not disturbed

a hornet's nest by mistake! ray:

 

[renuka]

instead of neighbor ,maybe neighbor's is more apt ,especially same gender union

Nachi Dude!!!
i knew you will get what I was saying and I knew you will give even better ideas hehehehehe.

U Rock Nachi!!! Yo Man Yo!!!

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,

I think we are saying the same thing in different words...

apparently contradicting but actually supporting each other's views!

I need more time to read your story (riddle) and transfer it to fit on

human beings.

Till then take care!

with best wishes and regards,
V.R.

P.S.

I only meant that He is busy with his job in hardware; She with her job

in software and since they do not have time/inclination/ interest,

children are nowhere!

I too wish I could say children are "now here!" instead of "nowhere!"

Dear VR,
Dont worry I will let you know now..See when I said Hardware..I meant the male species cos they are biologically able to have increased blood supply for rigidity of the ischiocavernosus and bulbospongiosus.

when i wrote Software..I meant the female species cos well, they have lesser vascular dependency hence Softer.

Ok the rest I am talking about married life and extramaritals connection..VR..U know if I go more detail than this I will be banned!!!!

 

[Raji Ram]

Here is something really worth reading!!!!!!!!! Got this from my friend!

The Beauty of Love:

The question is asked, "Is there anything more beautiful in life than a young couple clasping hands and pure hearts in the path of marriage? Can there be anything more beautiful than young love?"

And the answer is given. "Yes, there is a more beautiful thing. It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path.

Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped; their faces are seamed, but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another. Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love. Old love." - Unknown !

:angel:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

dear Renu,

If I cared for Anatomy lessons, I would have become a doctor myself!

My neighbor's son's wedding got fixed nearly a year ago!

The boy was starry eyed for nearly 9 months till the wedding took place.

After the wedding in January, the girl spent a few days here with him and

went back to her home, mom and job! :bolt:

Now the boy waits the whole month for the second Saturday and spends

two nights in the train in order to spend a day with her in Bangalore!

At other times they are back to their pre-wedding schedule. :bored:

That is what made me write the post! :

So let the matters rest there! :rip:

No more anatomy lessons please! I do not want anybody banned from

the forum. Let people live the lives they choose to live. It is none of my

concern. I will make sure that my children and nephews get the kind of

life we think to be appropriate for them. :couch2:

with best wishes and regards,
Mrs. V.R.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Here is something really worth reading!!!!!!!!! Got this from my friend!

The Beauty of Love:

The question is asked, "Is there anything more beautiful in life than a young [COLOR=#DA7911 ! important][FONT=inherit ! important][COLOR=#DA7911 ! important][FONT=inherit ! important]couple[/FONT][/FONT][/COLOR] clasping hands and pure hearts in the path of marriage? Can there be anything more beautiful than young love?"

And the answer is given. "Yes, there is a more beautiful thing. It is the spectacle of an old man and an old woman finishing their journey together on that path.

Their hands are gnarled, but still clasped; their faces are seamed, but still radiant; their hearts are physically bowed and tired, but still strong with love and devotion for one another. Yes, there is a more beautiful thing than young love. Old love." - Unknown !

:angel:

Thank you dear Raji!

Yes, this is what I am trying to convey...togetherness and sharing and

caring for each other.

Their hands (though gnarled) are still clasped! :hug:

They cared for each other all their their lives. :kiss:

They smile (though toothless by now) and share the burden of life

(though already bent under its weight).

This is exactly what I wanted to convey.

Remember "Nature abhors vacuum!"

If an important place in a person's life is left vacant...

some friend/ neighbor will try to usurp it. Beware! :director:

 

[renuka]

dear Renu,

If I cared for Anatomy lessons, I would have become a doctor myself!

My neighbor's son's wedding got fixed nearly a year ago!

The boy was starry eyed for nearly 9 months till the wedding took place.

After the wedding in January, the girl spent a few days here with him and

went back to her home, mom and job! :bolt:

Now the boy waits the whole month for the second Saturday and spends

two nights in the train in order to spend a day with her in Bangalore!

At other times they are back to their pre-wedding schedule. :bored:

That is what made me write the post! :

So let the matters rest there! :rip:

No more anatomy lessons please! I do not want anybody banned from

the forum. Let people live the lives they choose to live. It is none of my

concern. I will make sure that my children and nephews get the kind of

life we think to be appropriate for them. :couch2:

with best wishes and regards,
Mrs. V.R.

Dear VR,
Ok I will let matter rest also anyway I am not really in a mood to joke too much now cos I just want to spend sometime contemplating on what my dear Poorna Kaliyuga Avatar had taught me about life since He is not in his Mortal Coil now..I am not grieving cos He is Sanathana but just as mark of respect I am not writing anything funny today..in fact when I wrote your reply I didnt know yet that Bhagawan Baba had shed His Mortal Coil only after I finished typing I got the news from TV..

Anyway dear VR..see life has ups and downs and the best is just let it be..we cant really dictate or worry too much and try to sets things according to any gold standard cos each individual is as different as finger prints..what that seems right to us might be wrong to another..I feel adopting "Que Sera Sera(What ever wil be will be) attitude is the best. But being concerned a little about the Jagat is acceptable as the saying goes Vasudhaiva Kutumbakam and its not only our family that is important.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

One pound of learning requires

ten pounds of common sense

to be able to apply it in life. eace:


Doctors put drugs - of which they know little- hwell:

to cure diseases - of which they know less-

into human bodies - of which they know nothing.:suspicious:

 

[renuka]

One pound of learning requires

ten pounds of common sense

to be able to apply it in life. eace:


Doctors put drugs - of which they know little- hwell:

to cure diseases - of which they know less-

into human bodies - of which they know nothing.:suspicious:

Well said..we are all ignorant only..Only God is all knowing.

 

[Raji Ram]

Thought, this might be relevant here, talking about children of busy couple!

Though I wrote this about children in the US, it holds good for children in India too!!

குழந்தைகள்…

சின்னச் சின்னக் குழந்தைகளைச் செல்லம் கொஞ்ச ஆளின்றித்
தன்னுடனே அழைத்துச் செல்வார் தாம் போகும் இடமெல்லாம்!

குழந்தையின் வயது சில நாட்களேயானாலும்,
குழந்தையைத் துணியிலிட்டு மாலை போல் அணிகின்றார்!

இரட்டைக் குழந்தைகளும் தூக்கக் கலக்கத்தில்,
இரட்டைத் தள்ளுவண்டிகளில் சிணுங்கிச் செல்கின்றார்!

'நானிகள்' என்போர்தான் குழந்தையைப் பாதுகாப்பர்! – அந்த
'நானிகளின்' பழக்கம்தானே அந்தக் குழந்தை கற்றுக் கொள்ளும்?

கடல் கடந்து வந்து பொருள் தேடும் ஜோடிகள்,
உடல் நொந்து போகிறார்கள் குழந்தை வளர்ப்பினால்.

குழந்தை உருவாகி வளரும் காலத்தில், பெண்ணைக்
குழந்தை போல் பேண அவள் தாய் உடன் இருப்பதில்லை.

பேறு காலத்தின் கடைசி நிமிடம் பறந்து வந்து சேர்ந்திடுவாள்.
வேறு வேலைகள் அனைத்தும் ஒதுக்கி, உதவி செய்திடுவாள்.

ஆறு மாதத்திற்கு மேல் இருக்க விடாத விசா கெடுபிடிகளால்
அன்னை சென்றதும், துணைவனின் அன்னை வந்திடுவாள்.

ஓராண்டு இவ்வாறு ஓடியபின், சிலருக்கு மறுபடியும்
ஓராண்டு காலம் ACTION REPLAY யாகச் சென்றுவிடும்.

பெற்றோரும் முதியோராய்ப் போவதால், அடிக்கடி வந்து
உற்ற துணையாக இருந்து உதவ முடியாது போய்விடும்.

சின்னக் குழந்தைச் சிணுங்கலுக்கும் பயந்துகொண்டு – இவர்கள்
என்ன செய்வதென அறியாது திகைத்து நின்றிடுவார்.

வேலைக்கு இருவரும் செல்வதால் குழந்தை காக்கும்
வேலைக்கு, DAY CARE – காப்பகங்களை நாடிடுவார். அங்கு

டாலர் செலவுக்கும் பஞ்சமில்லை! ஒரு மாதத்திற்கு எழுநூறு
டாலர் கொடுத்தால், ஒரு வாரத்தில் நாலு நாட்கள் ‘காத்திடுவார்’!

குழந்தை பிறந்தது முதல் பிளாஸ்டிக் நாப்பியைக் கட்டுவதால்,
குழந்தையின் நல்ல விளையாட்டும் தடைபட்டுப் போகிறது.

குழந்தை வளர்ப்பு பற்றிப் பாடங்களைக் கற்று வந்தாலும்,
குழந்தை வளர்க்க இந்தத் தலைமுறை திண்டாடி நிற்கிறது!

:bump2:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

It is better to suffer wrong than inflict one on others.:boink:


It is happier to be cheated than cheat another yourself. :ballchain:

A person who takes up your time recognizes no debts- :clock:

but it is the one which he cannot repay!

 

[Raji Ram]

It is better to suffer wrong than inflict one on others.

It is happier to be cheated than cheat another yourself.

A person who takes up your time recognizes no debts-

but it is the one which he cannot repay!

The first two are OK...

But how can anyone live, without spending time for others? :noidea:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Nobody lives in an island that he/she can spend all the time on

himself/herself!

The wording is "the person who takes up your time..."

(which no one can ever bring back or pay for) and

"...recognizes no debts" ...

Our spending our own time is one thing, the others wasting our time is

quite another.

The best example I can think of is

one of your students- who also likes to talk on other subjects-

and sings for one hour and talks for two hours...

and never realizes that she has wasted your two class- hours.

Think about it!

 

[Raji Ram]

Yes, yes, dear Sis!

I do have such students! :blabla:
But, I grin and bear it because, I love them! :grouphug:
Anyway, I can not work 24 X 7 X 365 and want :couch2: !!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Wisdom is always a blessing.

Educations is sometimes a curse. :fear:


One thorn of experience is :ballchain:

better and more effective than

a whole wilderness of warnings! :director:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

There is no greater sorrow than to recall in misery

the time when we were very happy. :sad:


The sorrow's crown of sorrow
is remembering happier things. :whoo:


Man is the only animal that can blush

and needs to! ::doh:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

How very true!!!

The very first lesson I learnt in Journalism course is WHAT will sell and

what WON'T.

According to the lesson only three thing sell...always!

Guess what?

Money, Power and Sex!

Corollaries:-

Two topics never fail to entice and attract the members of the Forum.

1. Inter caste marriages...since it falls under the category 'Sex.'

2. Any thread which has the word 'brahmin' in it!

Brahmins held all the power in their hands long long ago!

So the topic invariably falls under the category 'Power.'

How very true! :clap2:

Now eyes down for the next bout of verbal :boxing:!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

A good word costs nothing. :angel:

Neither does a sweet smile.

Disease is the tax payed on pleasure. :ballchain:

Measure twice ere you cut once.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Two men look out through the same bars.

One sees the mud :evil: and the other the stars.:angel:


To understand is...to pardon. :hug:


Those who can not remember the past

are condemned to repeat it!:help: