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After reading Ravi's post I am sort of getting a feeling that Marriage is highly Over rated!!LOL

We have to be honest to ourselves.Most of us are in good marriages with occasional ups and downs of the normal kind.
But this line :
"matured mind", "balanced emotions" and "refined intellect/wisdom"
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sounds like Gayatri mantra to me "dhiyo yo nah prachodayat"
 
renuka said:
............do you really expect me to believe that human love can last forever?


Its an illusion my child.So just play the game right and exit when time is up.
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Wow!! Its sounds like a divine soul / a Sanyasin is blessing me, calling me a child!!!!

See, dear Renuka, I truly did not expect you to believe that human love can last for ever..It's up to you to equip yourself with the spiritual philosophies and lead your life with all your belief and its applications. OR whatever you feel OK for you from time to time or for ever..Its all your choice. I have no expectations from you.

May be you are blessed with Wisdom like a Gnyaani and could not relate this physical world of humans and human relationships with a sort of reality for this / in this Bhoo Lokam / karma Bhoomi.

For me, there is nothing illusion until I get my self turned into a realized Gnyaan. OR I determine myself to become one Gnyaani and live my life in Isolation and Salvation, in my attempts to realize the absolute bliss, detaching my self from all the illusions you are talking about.

I feel, majority of humans on this Earth are on the same side as myself. If you have a different opinion about humans and human relationships in this world, we are living in, kindly share with all of us here.

So, considering the majority and excluding the folks in the path of true Gnyaam (who all have not committed in a relationship of marriage with all their plans and expectations of their life), I am of the opinion that, A true sense and expressions of LOVE (that is not purely on the foundation of LUST and SEX) always between married couples alone can ensure the existence of a successful marriage.

 
"To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all"

-Helen Rowland.

To me, it sounds perfectly right...

A man can be happy if the woman understands him well and in return the woman can be happy with his all attention towards her. Her understanding is more important, that can ensure her complete love and trust towards him.

A woman can be happy if she finds her man doing everything for her due to his lots of love towards her and in return he can be safe and happy in her hands. His safety and happiness can be ensured only if she is satisfied with her Man's abundant Love, without making any efforts to peep into her inner self and understand what exactly she is thinking and doing.
 
"To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all"

-Helen Rowland.


I guess it is easy to understand a man

but impossible to love him immensely.

On the other hand it is easy to love a woman

but impossible to understand her!

 
Woman is positive when you are attracted and turns negative when charged. Whatever it is she is the eye-opener and shows you the right way to your ultimate mission.
 
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"Reason has always existed, but not always in a reasonable form"

-Carl Marx


So True!!!!!

It is not hard or impossible to give reasons by any one for any thing. But these reasons are not always reasonable. And people say - "Try to be in my shoes". If they been objected for their such expressions of justification, by way of right and just full explanations, people would say - " Well!!! Individuals are Individuals and I would do what can justify my mind and heart, for "I" alone can be truly for 'myself', no one else "
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
10. ஆசைகளும் , செல்வமும் அழிந்து போய்விடும்.

வயஸி க3தே க: காமவிகார:
சு'ஷ்கே நீரே க: காஸார: |
க்ஷீணே வித்தே க: பரிவார:
ஜ்ஞாதே தத்வே கஸ் ஸம்ஸார: ||

வயது முதிர்ந்தபின் காம விகாரங்கள் ஏற்படாது.
நீர் வறண்டு போனால் நீர் நிலைகள் இரா.
செல்வம் குறைந்துவிட்டால் சுற்றத்தார் இரார்.
உண்மைத் தத்துவத்தை நீ அறியும்போது உன் சம்சாரத்தளைகள் மறையும்

Adi Sankara was a sanyasin.Yet he knew that lust is age-related and reduces with the increasing age.
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Sowbagyavathy V R, Greetings.

'Kama' is not just lust; ''kama' is desire. Getting old does not reduce desires. Getting old depletes energy; so, due to inability, desires are reduced. That is all. If someone could muster enough energy, irrespective of age, 'kama' continues. At one time I use to work for a great gentleman. He used to say " if a person has energy to carry just a hand bag full of husk only, even with that energy he/she would desire for gratifications. That is human nature". He was right. 'Samsaram' is not just the life with wife and children; all the worldly deeds are 'samsaram'.

To overcome desire, the only way I knew is to get in and act upon that desire so that that does not leave any lingering traces in the mind; secondly, one has to make sure such desires should be reasonable and ethical. For example, desiring neighbour's wife is not exactly ethical. Then as one gets older, restrict the desires to simple pleasures and develop desiring pleasure of sharing and giving to others. Once we develop enjoying that pleasure, samsaram will start vanishing while we still act upon our desire of giving, helping others.

Cheers!
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
"To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all"

-Helen Rowland.


I guess it is easy to understand a man

but impossible to love him immensely.

On the other hand it is easy to love a woman

but impossible to understand her!
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I don't think it is easy to love a woman. Just saying verbally "I love you" is not enough. There has to be action. Do women ever gets satisfied they are 'loved'? I request the women to reply, please. Thanks.
 
Raghy said:
I don't think it is easy to love a woman. Just saying verbally "I love you" is not enough. There has to be action. Do women ever gets satisfied they are 'loved'? I request the women to reply, please. Thanks.
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Dear Raghy ji,

Ok I will answer you.I am going to be brutally frank.
Satisfaction is a human trait and that comes by being judgmental.
If we are judging someone only then we can used the word satisfaction.

Once I had to do attend a Homa and the priest asked me after that if I was satisfied with the Homa.
I told him that I attended the Homa purely for the sake of God and not for any personal gain so I won't want to comment on satisfaction.
I told him if I say I am satisfied that means I should have been judging him while he was doing the Homa.
So I didnt judge him neither did I think of personal gain.

Ok same way..after a while of being in love..we will come to realize that being concern about our satisfaction is actually a selfish trait and that also comes by being judgmental.

As we age our desires get less and we start to appreciate everything done by near and close ones and do not really mind any occasional foul ups.

Its actually very much easier if we do not hope too much or think of satisfying ourselves cos there is no undue pressure on us.

Every human being wants to be loved that's our innate nature.
Frankly speaking to me the best form of love is preforming our duties in life to each other with minimum expectations and without judging each other.

Breathing space is also important.No woman wants to be smothered by men who have an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder for love.

Men who try to be overly loving do not realize that is actually a form of controlling and being dominating.
Love can make and Love can kill.

So for me as a woman I would say its nice to hear I Love you cos I like telling it too, Its nice to have some action and its nice to reciprocate in words and action and also fantasy.
Marriage is a conglomerate of love,action and healthy fantasy.

But for me no matter how much I love anyone there is always a voice in my head telling me "renu this is transient..don't forget that".
 
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Absolutely beautiful and so true ........
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A Newborn's Conversation with God


A baby asked God, "They tell me you are sending me to earth tomorrow,
but how am I going to live there being so small and helpless?"

God said, "Your angel will be waiting for you and will take care of you."

The child further inquired, "But tell me, here in heaven I don't have
to do anything but sing and smile to be happy."

God said, "Your angel will sing for you and will also smile for you.
And you will feel your angel's love and be very happy."

Again the small child asked, "And how am I going to be able to understand
when people talk to me if I don't know the language?"

God said, "Your angel will tell you the most beautiful and sweet words
you will ever hear, and with much patience and care, your angel will
teach you how to speak."

"And what am I going to do when I want to talk to you?"

God said, "Your angel will place your hands together and will teach
you how to pray."

"Who will protect me?"

God said, "Your angel will defend you even if it means risking its life."

"But I will always be sad because I will not see you anymore."

God said, "Your angel will always talk to you about Me and will teach
you the way to come back to Me, even though I will always be next to you."

At that moment there was much peace in Heaven, but voices from Earth
could be heard and the child hurriedly asked, "God, if I am to leave
now, please tell me my angel's name."

God said, You will simply call her, "Mom."

M- My
O- Only
M- Mentor
Lift a mother's spirit; send this to every mother you know (no matter how old her child is).


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C RAVI said:
Thank you!!!!! :)

To me, it certainly proved that you are a divine and enlightened soul with full realization, leaving you without any innocence!!!
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Ravi only half of your statement is correct.
I not innocent(who is at my age!!LOL) but I am certainly NOT Divine and Enlightened.
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Satisfaction is a highly personal matter.
Siva is very easily pleased.
Vishnu is the most difficult to please!
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Why you left out Brahma?

Siva is very easily pleased.
Vishnu is the most difficult to please.
Brahma does as he pleases.(doesn't He give boons to all Asuras and Vishnu has to take Avatars to undo what Brahma gave them)
 
I was in a hurry and forgot Brahma, the real trouble-maker!

He is the easiest to be pleased.
He also does as he pleases. :high5:

Though He is the creator, He thinks of neither the past nor the future

and grants all kinds of weird boons to the asuras. :heh:

Vishnu has to feign to be asleep :sleep:

in order to keep alert and secretly plan
how to undo what Brahma has done!:moony:

renuka said:
Why you left out Brahma?

Siva is very easily pleased.
Vishnu is the most difficult to please.
Brahma does as he pleases.(doesn't He give boons to all Asuras and Vishnu has to take Avatars to undo what Brahma gave them)
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இல்லறம் இனிக்க 18 படிகள்.

11. ஒருவர் கோபப்படும்போது மற்றவர் அமைதி காத்தாலே

பாதிப் பிரச்சனைகள் எளிதில் தீர்ந்து விடும்.

12. கணவனின் உறவினர்களுக்கு மனைவியும்,

மனைவியின் உறவினர்களுக்குக் கணவனும்

மரியாதை தரவேண்டும். அவமதிக்கக் கூடாது.
 
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