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Visalakshi Ramani said:
I was in a hurry and forgot Brahma, the real trouble-maker!

He is the easiest to be pleased.
He also does as he pleases. :high5:

Though He is the creator, He thinks of neither the past nor the future

and grants all kinds of weird boons to the asuras. :heh:

Vishnu has to feign to be asleep :sleep:

in order to keep alert and secretly plan
how to undo what Brahma has done!:moony:
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So true and finally Shiva has to come and swallow the Poison.
Hey come to think of it our Trimurtis give each other enough work but still they don't have major misunderstandings.
 
Dear VR Ji,

I will relate this funny incident.When my son was aged 9(Now he is 12) my brother bought him a glow in the dark skeleton toy.
So my son wanted to hang it in his room and my mum was real angry and told him that she didn't want that toy anywhere in the room.

My son didn't say a word to my surprise and went up to his room and hung the skeleton toy on the handle of the room door(we can see it when we want to enter the room)

When my mum came she saw that and told him "I thought I told you I don't want that anywhere in the room"

My son told her "It's hanging on the door handle so its neither inside nor outside the room"

I started laughing and my mum was asking me whats so funny?

I said "it reminds me of Narasimha Avataram where Hiranyakashipu was killed neither indoors nor outdoors"

So I told my mum let it be..on technical grounds my son is right.
 
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It is NOT just work but hard and unpleasant work which he himself does not want to do but tries to off load on another willing shoulder!
Yet in spite if everything, they are maintaining cordial relationship. :cool:
renuka said:
So true and finally Shiva has to come and swallow the Poison.
Hey come to think of it our Trimurtis give each other enough work but still they don't have major misunderstandings.
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So smart Varun hung it outside (technically following your mom's instructions)

but making sure that the others see it more number of times and get scared

properly during night time (since it was hung outside). :thumb:
 
இது எப்படி இருக்கு???

When the two horoscopes matched well the father of the boy contacted the mother of the girl on phone. :phone:

(Apparently the father of the girl was NOT allowed to answer the incoming phone calls or to take important decisions) :tape:

Before the boy's father could ask her whether the girl was willing to relocate after the wedding, the mother of the girl asked him the same question regarding his son!!! :dizzy: :faint:
 
இது எப்படி இருக்கு???

Many sons do NOT get along well with their fathers.

I over heard a loving son talk to his mother

referring to his father as

"your husband!" all the time. :shocked:
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
இது எப்படி இருக்கு???

Many sons do NOT get along well with their fathers.

I over heard a loving son talk to his mother

referring to his father as

"your husband!" all the time. :shocked:
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Well don't blame the sons..cos you see when a son makes his parents proud a father will proudly say "he is MY son"
But if he makes his parents disappointed a father will tell his wife "he is YOUR son"

So same way..when a son is angry father becomes "your husband"
 
இது எப்படி இருக்கு???

The man worked hard in a gulf country.

Money poured into India like a shower.

An exquisite bungalow was constructed.

His Wife and the children got used to the

luxurious lazy life of the stinking rich.

After many years the man decided

to call it a day and returned to India.

He was shocked beyond words to see

his wife and kids sleep till very late.

He did not relish the way they squandered

his hard earned money.

He found it revolting the way his kids especially

his daughters dressed up.

Whenever he gave them a piece of his mind,

they ganged up and confronted him.

One fine day they told him point blank to

go back to where he had come from.

The reason....???

They had lived peacefully before he returned to India.

The former peace can return only if

he returned to where he had come from!

They ALL wanted only his money and NOT him!!!

THAT IS CALLED HUMAN LIFE!!!

 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
இது எப்படி இருக்கு???

The man worked hard in a gulf country.

Money poured into India like a shower.

An exquisite bungalow was constructed.

His Wife and the children got used to the

luxurious lazy life of the stinking rich.

After many years the man decided

to call it a day and returned to India.

He was shocked beyond words to see

his wife and kids sleep till very late.

He did not relish the way they squandered

his hard earned money.

He found it revolting the way his kids especially

his daughters dressed up.

Whenever he gave them a piece of his mind,

they ganged up and confronted him.

One fine day they told him point blank to

go back to where he had come from.

The reason....???

They had lived peacefully before he returned to India.

The former peace can return only if

he returned to where he had come from!

They ALL wanted only his money and NOT him!!!

THAT IS CALLED HUMAN LIFE!!!
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Dear VR Ji,

If you know the person tell him to contemplate on this:

न तातो न माता न बन्धुर्न दाता
न पुत्रो न पुत्री न भृत्यो न भर्ता ।
न जाया न विद्या न वृत्तिर्ममैव
गतिस्त्वं गतिस्त्वं त्वमेका भवानि ॥१॥

Na Taato Na Maataa Na Bandhur-Na Daataa
Na Putro Na Putrii Na Bhrtyo Na Bhartaa |
Na Jaayaa Na Vidyaa Na Vrttir-Mama-Iva
Gatis-Tvam Gatis-Tvam Tvam-Ekaa Bhavaani ||1||

Meaning:
1.1: Neither the Father, nor the Mother; Neither the Relation and Friend, nor the Donor,
1.2: Neither the Son, nor the Daughter; Neither the Servant, nor the Husband,
1.3: Neither the Wife, nor the (worldly) Knowledge; Neither my Profession,
1.4:You are my Refuge, You Alone are my Refuge, Oh Mother Bhavani.


taken from:http://www.greenmesg.org/mantras_slokas/devi_bhavani-bhavani_ashtakam.php
 
So the mother/ wife is common to both and is the

connecting bridge between the two MALE egotists!!!

Husband:roll:Son.
renuka said:
Well don't blame the sons..cos you see when a son makes his parents proud a father will proudly say "he is MY son"
But if he makes his parents disappointed a father will tell his wife "he is YOUR son"

So same way..when a son is angry father becomes "your husband"
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இது எப்படி இருக்கு???

The boy is well educated, good looking and earning in Euros!!!:popcorn:

A girl's jatakam matched well with the boy's.

The girls told him,"If you want to marry me

wind up your things and come to

my country/ my city/ my house.

I am my mom's only daughter.

I will never part with her!!!" :baby:

Does this mean that

THE BOY IS A SWAYAMBOO :shocked:

completely unattached to anyone else???:llama:

 
I :welcome: the readers of this thread

to share their shocking experiences and

funny observations of this crazy world in

இது எப்படி இருக்கு???
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
I :welcome: the readers of this thread

to share their shocking experiences and

funny observations of this crazy world in

இது எப்படி இருக்கு???
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My Ex Indian Muslim colleague, a 25 years young girl is in Love with a guy for the last 5 years.

They love each other a lot and this is evident to all the people who know them.

The guy is insisting upon getting married every year. But, the girl is keep postponing.

When I asked her, with lots of true concern, advising her to get married at this right age with her lover, who is now 28 years of age.

She told, she is not willing to work after marriage. So, unless the guy earns at least 6K Dirhams a month, she can marry.

I said, he is neither a graduate nor could have the great links to get such a job offer with some references and favors.

Such favors/influences are absolutely impossible. It can be only to get some job but for sure not to get such a salary,
considering his education and professional background.

So, I said, you get married to him and continue to work after marriage. Both can work, share and live together happily. Let him keep trying for the better opportunity, which he would certainly do. Both of you grow together and form a happy family life.

She said, I don't bother all that. All that matter is, YES I love him, but can't marry him unless he earns that much salary, much before the marriage.

Having her working with me for 2 years, and with all that she shares with me, I could very well realize that, she is following the suggestions and instructions of her loving and friendly mother.

Her mother knows her love affair. The boy have visited the girl's home too, in India.

When I confirmed this with her, she said, Yes, my mother is my mentor and I am sure, she suggests me only right things for my interest and I am too satisfied with her inputs.

I really find it funny. The girl is in love with a guy knowing his background, continuing to receive lots of favors and gifts from the guy, continuing to hold on the love between the two etc..etc. BUT still can not wish to marry, unless he draws a monthly salary of AED.6000.

What, if he could not earn that much till his age of 32/33/34/35???

 
C RAVI said:
My Ex Indian Muslim colleague, a 25 years young girl is in Love with a guy for the last 5 years.

They love each other a lot and this is evident to all the people who know them.

The guy is insisting upon getting married every year. But, the girl is keep postponing.

When I asked her, with lots of true concern, advising her to get married at this right age with her lover, who is now 28 years of age.

She told, she is not willing to work after marriage. So, unless the guy earns at least 6K Dirhams a month, she can marry.

I said, he is neither a graduate nor could have the great links to get such a job offer with some references and favors.

Such favors/influences are absolutely impossible. It can be only to get some job but for sure not to get such a salary,
considering his education and professional background.

So, I said, you get married to him and continue to work after marriage. Both can work, share and live together happily. Let him keep trying for the better opportunity, which he would certainly do. Both of you grow together and form a happy family life.

She said, I don't bother all that. All that matter is, YES I love him, but can't marry him unless he earns that much salary, much before the marriage.

Having her working with me for 2 years, and with all that she shares with me, I could very well realize that, she is following the suggestions and instructions of her loving and friendly mother.

Her mother knows her love affair. The boy have visited the girl's home too, in India.

When I confirmed this with her, she said, Yes, my mother is my mentor and I am sure, she suggests me only right things for my interest and I am too satisfied with her inputs.

I really find it funny. The girl is in love with a guy knowing his background, continuing to receive lots of favors and gifts from the guy, continuing to hold on the love between the two etc..etc. BUT still can not wish to marry, unless he draws a monthly salary of AED.6000.

What, if he could not earn that much till his age of 32/33/34/35???
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You know when I read about such girls I wish someone would give them a slap!!LOL
They only want an easy way out.
Don't want to work after marriage but want maids and want husband to earn and earn.

Can't they build a home together?They are behaving like mistresses and not being wives.

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I was looking through some matrimonial online and almost each girl who is highly educated still stated they wanted to be housewives after marriage.

Why on earth did they go to college and deprive some deserving person the seat cos if they want to be spoilt housewives who do not do any work at home they should have stopped with primary education.

If they want to spend more time at home looking after kids I can understand but these demanding types do not even do that.
They just waste time and money and maid attends even to kids.

Materialistic!! That's all I can say.
 
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Dear Renuka, what is this??? LOL!!! Usually unusual with your sexually driven humor. I couldn't resist laughing loud..

:pound:
 
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Dear Ravi

About 20 years ago, when I was in the UAE, I have issued 'Salary Certificates' to some of my
staff - then the limit was AED 4000/- in order to be able sponsor a family.

Maybe, the girl / her Mother fears a forced separation after marriage, because your friend
might not fall under the category eligible to sponsor the family. But I also know cases wherein
the husband and were under a different sponsors. All it required, then, was a NOC from the wife's
sponsor and getting the marriage registered in UAE.

The laws might have changed now. But every "Law" has a "Sister-in-Law".

Have you heard about the "Monkey Visa", does it go on there ?

Guruvethunai
Yay Yem
 
C RAVI said:
Dear Renuka, what is this??? LOL!!! Usually unusual with your sexually driven humor. I couldn't resist laughing loud..

:pound:
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Dear Ravi,

Doesn't it describe the situation well?
You see I am not a feminist.I believe in equality of sexes and woman should not think that now since we are educated and in demand its "pay back time" to guys and be unusually demanding to their husbands.

After all each man also works hard and its better for wife also to contribute to home so that husband does not have to shoulder all responsibilities.

Ischemic Heart Disease can be accelerated by stress so if these types want their husbands to live long they better stop being too demanding.

Those who still want to be demanding have the option I mentioned in my earlier post!!LOL
 
Sowbagyavathy V R, Greetings.

I refer to post #633. In my opinion, that gentleman is over reacting. He went overseas for years to earn money; true. Did he not earn the money so that his wife and children would live in comfort and luxury? If they did, then what was the issue? Daughters have but only few years while they are home to dress up provocatively, try sexy dresses and have a carefree life; after wedding, usually her carefree world comes to crashing halt. A father should always try to make some compromises so that father and daughter can meet at the middle grounds.

More over, when people leave their country of birth to overseas, they tend to live in a time- block. For example, I left India in 1990; For me, The places I remembered are as they were in 1990. Same deal for social interactions too. I still remembered girls in 'paavadai, thaavani'.. I went with my daughter in 2010..... So many changes.. I explained my daughter about 'paavaadai thaavani'.. she bought few sets, put them on in Australia! She went out as usual with her friends in 'paavadai, thaavani'.. result? During our recent trip, she had to buy few sets for her friends!

In my opinion, that gentleman should have approached the whole issue tactfully. Blaming the family members for living a luxury life is a bit off! If he was keen about that, he should have rationed and sent them less money so that they don't live in luxury. He had the control; not that he did not know the way they lived!

Cheers!
 
Anand Manohar said:
Dear Ravi

About 20 years ago, when I was in the UAE, I have issued 'Salary Certificates' to some of my
staff - then the limit was AED 4000/- in order to be able sponsor a family.

Maybe, the girl / her Mother fears a forced separation after marriage, because your friend
might not fall under the category eligible to sponsor the family. But I also know cases wherein
the husband and were under a different sponsors. All it required, then, was a NOC from the wife's
sponsor and getting the marriage registered in UAE.

The laws might have changed now. But every "Law" has a "Sister-in-Law".

Have you heard about the "Monkey Visa", does it go on there ?

Guruvethunai
Yay Yem
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Shri Anand Manohar,

Yes!!! I know "Monkey Visa" and off course it goes on here even now..


This girl and the boy can get married in India and continue to work in Dubai, under their sponsor and live together as husband and wife. No issues!!!

The girl is drawing a monthly salary of AED.4000 and the guy AED.3500. Jointly the total is AED.7,500. This is enough to live as a family in Dubai. Off course being bit frugal, sharing a family accommodation.

This girl is also not a graduate. The plus point is she is a beautiful girl in Tourism Industry. And most importantly she can Speak, Write and Read Arabic, having been born and brought up in Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. Thus, could get such a salary.

As long as both have independent sponsor for their residency and to work, none of them are required to support the other with their own sponsorship as a spouse.

Even if one loses the Job and get's his/her residency cancelled by the sponsor, the other can still offer Residency by his/her personal sponsorship as a spouse, by making a Refundable deposit of AED.5000 with the Residency and Neutralization Dept. This is the new policy, implemented within 18 months of recession, to avoid loss of expatriate population, who are one of the potential revenue generating resources.
 
With reference to post # 637. There is no confusion at all. There is no deal! It is only an arranged proposal; why are they even considering this further if the girl doesn't want to relocate? All he has to say is " thanks for considering my case; but I don't think we can work it out. Good luck with your search!" Where is the issue in this?

Cheers!
 
Ref # 645.

As the head of the family and the ONLY earning member, surely the father deserved more respect and less resistance.

Excess MONEY does not mean taking up a lousy and lazy life style.

How long will the money last, unless the children make themselves well qualified to earn so as to maintain their living standard after the father retires?

He must have loved his daughters a lot. He did not want them to get into trouble by over exposure and unnecessary drawing of male attention.

He meant well. He must be obeyed and respected.

What will happen if he stops sending money, marries someone else and settles down in his country???
 
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