Think or sink!

[Visalakshi Ramani]

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My S.I.L guessed why I have taken to the saadi-chudidar designed by me as a fish takes to water.

It is so much similar to the dance costume except that there is no visiri and the top is of knee length.

I had never got a dance dress stitched not the Arangetram performed when I was learning dance.

May be this thought had been hiding in my subconscious mind like a "neeRu pooththa neruppu" :flame:

Once I got a chance to wear the thing closest to the dance costume,

nothing and nobody could stop me from wearing them now.

I promised myself to stitch more dresses once the NArAyaNeeyam blog got completed.

I am keeping my promise now.

All the extra thick/ extra long/ extra wide saris are going under the scissors and sewing machine.

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

While those who are not happy with this arrangement see it as one more sari being cut down,

I see it as one more sari made usable to suit my physical conditions and

at least rupees 1K saved in the cost of material and tailoring charges.

They see the glass as half empty and I see it as half full!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

1387a. தான்தின்னி பிள்ளை வளர்க்காள்; தவிடு தின்னி கோழி வளர்க்காள்.
1387b. Self centered people are worst parents.

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More on this well proved proverb tomorrow!

A wife used to feel happy if her husband did not want to taste a preparation.
The reason? She could have his share of the tasty dish in addition to her own!
So a thaan-thinni does not mind NOT having a child - since she will get more food to eat.
A thavidu-thinni does not want to share her thavidu with anyone - least of all a hen!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

A woman made nice crisp vadaas with the special vadaip paruppu.

They came out so well that she could not control herself from feasting on them.

So she ended up eating all the vadaas - except one.

She thought it was only fair that her husband got to taste at least one vadaa.

The husband was shocked to see that all but one vadaas had disappeared.

He exclaimed in surprise,"How on earth did you manage to eat all the vadaas?"

She took the last vadaa, broke it in to two halves, threw them into her mouth

and demonstrated to him how she had eaten all the other vadaas!

 

[renuka]

A wife used to feel happy if her husband did not want to taste a preparation.
The reason? She could have his share of the tasty dish in addition to her own!
So a thaan-thinni does not mind NOT having a child - since she will get more food to eat.
A thavidu-thinni does not want to share her thavidu with anyone - least of all a hen!

LOL!


I remember once I cooked a tasty lunch and my husband asked me the strangest question after eating the meal which he said he found to be very tasty.

He asked me "Did you cook lunch so well solely for me or you cooked it so well cos you had the motive to eat it too?"


I found that question strange and did not know what to answer but at the same time I was a bit confused(didnt show it though) cos I was wondering was he being romantic and wanted to hear that I cooked only for him or what? or was he expecting me not to have any desire to eat the meal?

To be safe...I gave a philosophical reply..I replied "Karmenyevadhikaraste Ma Phalesu Kadacana"

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

dear Renu,
You are a DARLING no doubt!
Seeing you in the forum on a Sunday itself is a treat!

Did your husband understand the meaning of the tongue twisting Sakskrti verse from Bhagavat Gita? What was his reaction to the sloka after eating the tasty food you had cooked?

During the vratam of my elder son before his wedding in Chicago, the priest said "vakra thuNda' and expected my husband to complete the sloka in worship of Vigna Vinaayaka.

My husband had never heard that expression in all his life and showed an angry face thinking that the priest was probably scolding in some rhyming words.

He gave one of his famous looks and the priest took the hint. He played safe thereafter guiding him through the rest of the slokas and mantras word by word!

 

[renuka]

dear Renu,
You are a DARLING no doubt!
Seeing you in the forum on a Sunday itself is a treat!

Did your husband understand the meaning of the tongue twisting Sakskrti verse from Bhagavat Gita? What was his reaction to the sloka after eating the tasty food you had cooked?

During the vratam of my elder son before his wedding in Chicago, the priest said "vakra thuNda' and expected my husband to complete the sloka in worship of Vigna Vinaayaka.

My husband had never heard that expression in all his life and showed an angry face thinking that the priest was probably scolding in some rhyming words.

He gave one of his famous looks and the priest took the hint. He played safe thereafter guiding him through the rest of the slokas and mantras word by word!

Dear VR ji,


My husband understood that Shloka cos he has read some Geeta verses on and off before and also I have that shloka framed and hung in my consultation room in my clinic and he has seen it too.

Coming to his reaction..he didn't really say anything but I have a feeling he wanted to hear that I cooked the meal solely for him!LOL

Anyway he is used to me giving such answers!LOL

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear Renu,
So a woman is supposed to cook and serve without even wishing to taste the dish!
Have you noticed that our mood and emotions reflect on the food we cook.
Sometimes the food it tastes divine since the mind is peaceful and calm.
Other days the food is too spicy or salty depending on how sour and sore we feel!
I think we are returning 'the favor' done to us earlier without really intending to do so!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

தென்னை மரத்தில் தேள் கொட்டினால்
பனை மரத்தில் நெறி கட்டும். (பழ மொழி)


கணவன் வீட்டைப் பெருக்கித் துடைத்துச் சுத்தம் செய்தால்
அவன் மனைவிக்கு களைப்பும் இடுப்பு வலியும் வரும்.

(வள்ளுவன் கண்ட வாசுகி அல்லவா அவள்!)

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

குறத்தி பிள்ளை பெற்றால் குறவன் கஷாயம் குடிப்பான் (பழமொழி)

கணவனுக்குப் பசித்தால், மனைவி உணவு உண்பாள்.

( இவள் வள்ளுவனின் வாசுகி)

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

சொல்லும் சொல் சத்தியமாக இருந்தால் மீண்டும் மீண்டும்
சத்தியம் செய்யவேண்டி தேவை இல்ல அல்லவா?


பள்ளி நாட்களில் நண்பிகள் ஒருவரை ஒருவர் கேலி பேசுவர்.
"அவளா? முக்கா துட்டுக்கு மூணு சத்தியம் பண்ணுவாளே!".

' வள்ளுவன் கண்ட வாசுகி ' பத்து காசுக்கு இருபது சத்தியம் பண்ணுபவள்.
சொல்லும் (அ) சத்தியத்துக்குச் சாக்ஷியாக சத்ய சாயிபாபாவை அழைப்பாள்!

நம்பி விடுவோம் நாம் அவள் கூறுகின்றவற்றை எல்லாம் - அங்கே
நமட்டுச் சிரிப்புடன் அவள் உடன் பிறந்தோர் அமர்ந்து இல்லாவிடில்!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

The boy was 2 years old and could produce all kinds eerie and weird sounds but not talk.

He has learned to make those sounds by listening to the P.C which was left ON

all the time to entertain him and engage him.

He had become like a Tarzan or a Mowgli but not like a regular child.

I had to start with 'appa', a'mma', 'aNNa' etc to make him speak human language.

I see one more child now who can imitate any sound but is hesitating to talk.

The ONLY reason can be that no one ever speaks to him in any language.

Talk to your children. Tell them stories or read out the stories with voice modulation and expression.

It may appear like a waste of time in your busy routine.

I assure it is the ONLY time of the day you will be spending usefully.

It teaches the children words, expression, emotions, modulations and some morals in addition.

It builds up a rapport which will surely continue throughout your lives -

even when the children become adults and the adults become oldies!

 

[renuka]

Dear Renu,
So a woman is supposed to cook and serve without even wishing to taste the dish!

Dear VR ji,

Husband is "God" and the food we cook is Naivedhyam!LOL

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Dear VR ji,

Husband is "God" and the food we cook is Naivedhyam!LOL

True! His other name is Pati Parameswar! Right??? :angel:

And the Patni is supposed to do Paada seva. :hail:

( = Massaging the legs and not pulling the legs)

 

[Raji Ram]

You missed the point in Renu's post, dear Sis!

'naivEdhyam' is kept ONLY to be SEEN by God!

 

[Raji Ram]

One grandma used to ask, ' Will anyone keep such yummy dishes to God, if He really eats and finishes them?' :hungry:

How very true!!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

You missed the point in Renu's post, dear Sis!

'naivEdhyam' is kept ONLY to be SEEN by God!

So who gets to eat the 'neivedhyam'

the all-knowing-seer or the maker???

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

One grandma used to ask, ' Will anyone keep such yummy dishes to God, if He really eats and finishes them?' :hungry:

How very true!!

Hope they do not include a threat saying
"I will kill you if you touch this /taste this!"

P.S

A lady hung out two fresh towels for the V.I.P. guests she was expecting.
To make sure that her husband or children did not spoil or soil them,
she pinned a message on the towel saying, "If you touch this I will kill you!"

The guests arrived, dined and left after thanking her profoundly.

But the towels remained unused by the guests since
she forgot to remove the warning message before they arrived! :doh:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

[h=1]22. இறை பக்தி.[/h]

கனவான் வீட்டில் பூஜை செய்தவர்,
காரியமாக வெளியூர் சென்றார்.

பூஜையை நிறுத்தக் கூடாது என்று
பூஜையை மகனிடம் ஒப்படைத்தார்.

தினமும் தவறாமல் இறைவனுக்குத்
திருஅமுது செய்விக்கச் சொன்னார்.

சிறுவன் திருஅமுதை வைத்துவிட்டு,
பொறுமையாக அங்கே காத்திருந்தான்.

இறைவன் இறங்கி வரவுமில்லை!
இறைவன் அதை உண்ணவுமில்லை!

எத்தனை நேரம் இருந்தாலும்,
எதுவுமே அங்கு நடக்கவில்லை.

“தந்தையார் அளித்தால் உண்கின்றீர்;
நான் செய்த பிழை என்ன கூறும்” என

விம்மி விம்மி அவன் அழுது புரளவே,
நிம்மதி இழந்தார் நம் இறைவனும்

மனித உருவில் இறங்கி வந்து,
மனிதக் குழந்தைக்காக உண்டார்.

“பிரசாதம் எங்கே?” என வீட்டார் கேட்க,
“பிரசாதம் இறைவன் புசித்துவிட்டார்!”

சிறுவனுக்கு இரங்கிய இறை பெரிதா?
இறை பக்தியால் சிறுவன் பெரியவனா?

விடையினை நீங்களே கூறுங்கள்!
விடை எனக்கு எட்டவேயில்லை!

வாழ்க வளமுடன்,
விசாலாக்ஷி ரமணி.

 

[Raji Ram]

So who gets to eat the 'neivedhyam'

the all-knowing-seer or the maker???

Still ?

Husband is God; wife makes yummy food ONLY to show him! :becky:

 

[Raji Ram]

Kuchchi mAmA and GuNdu mAmi combo prevails everywhere!

ammAn kadhiru pOla; ammAmi kudhiru pOla!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I adore Mrs. Sushma Swaraj. :clap2:
She dares to be different from the ordinary crowd.
I do not think any other lady has or will wear the waist coat as uniquely as Mrs. S.S. does. :thumb:
It imparts a special character and charisma to her.
I love people who launch new fashions rather than those who tread the beaten tracks!
Coming to the point, my saadi choodi is catching on.
Many young girls are converting their heavy silk saris into rich saadi choodis!
The tailors down south make the bottom piece like a pant rather than the traditional salwar.
They may appear to the same but the wearer will feel the difference and comfort
without any part being pinched tight by the dress!

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

Ordinary people get respected for the costly dress they choose to wear.

Extra ordinary people earn respect for whatever dress they choose to wear! :thumb:

 

[Visalakshi Ramani]

I was pleasantly surprised when many of the friends I met
during the evening walk asked me who was my tailor!

They were wonder struck when I told them that I have
designed and stitched all my dresses ever since I was a teenager!

 

[Raji Ram]

...........They were wonder struck when I told them that I have
designed and stitched all my dresses ever since I was a teenager!

​Not to forget our dear Mom who was our role model!