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Think or sink!

MY DEAR RAJI,

What about the orpadi living closest to you and behaving as if she is the farthest from you?

She was watching all the watery ordeals you went through in the past month

as a mere saakshi - with the attitude of the divine indifference of Parabrahmam.

The very same virtues and talents can make a person either love and adore us or hate and envy us

depending on their mental make up - even when we try our best to be friendly with them!

People who compare us with the others adore us. :clap2:

People who compare us with themselves envy us! :mad2:

 
Very true dear sister. When we live in close proximity we see their defects magnified.

When we live far away from them, we see their merits magnified.

That is the secret of this strange behavior.

A Wife thinks of her husband more often when he is way on a tour

than when he does pradakshiNam for her disturbing her schedule.:rolleyes:
 
The sorrow of the past days seem to diminish in their intensity

while the happiness of the past seems to increase in its intensity!

Another paradox in real life :dizzy:

which makes it possible for live to go on . :hail:
 
Three weeks is a long long time.

Six weeks is long enough for some people to forget some other people. :rolleyes:

So this Thai VeLLI Raahu Kaaal Puja looked different after the gap of three weeks.

People were happy to see me since I appeared ( after 3 weeks)

without giving them enough time ( 6 weeks ) to forget me completely!

I missed making prasaadam on three consecutive Fridays. :(

So I will have to make three items for the next (and the last) Friday of Thai month.

Also it falls soon after my 46th wedding anniversary - which needs to be celebrated with friends!
 
Food and preparing food have become the major role of women in India.

The cooking process itself is complicate and time consuming.

Short cuts and instant products are not appreciated - even if they are good.

Eating out or bringing home food from outside is not very popular even now

in many households.

So when the lady in the house falls sick, she must be ready to starve! :(

Either there will be nothing to eat or it will be just cooked rice and curds

with nothing else to go with them.

Meals on wheels does exist in every locality.

Agmark Brahmins prepare food and deliver it at the door step for a very

reasonable rate. Some intelligent persons live on such Meals on Wheels for

several years - as if they are free from all kinds of worries.

Others waste their precious life time in planning and purchasing grocery,

milk, vegetables, coconuts and gas cylinder and meticulous account

keeping!

My mother always used to think ahead of her time.

She would say we must have community kitchens at a time when the

concept of Senior Citizens' complex was unheard of!

This is what draws people to such complexes..the promise of good food,

good companions, good care and good life! :couch2:
 
An old adage says " Friendship wastes our precious time!"

Very true! But it is good to waste time once in a way in meeting old friends!

It is much better to waste time meeting friends rather than in staring at the idiot Box!
 
It looked strange to see young people walking around wearing green masks like the surgeons.

Are they afraid that they may spread some deadly infection or catch them from the others?? :noidea:
 
Entire families still travel on one scooter... thanks to the unmasked bandits aka auto drivers of the Coimbatore!
Some children who are tall either bend forward or sit in the gap of the TVS 50 or lie down on the front portion of the motorbikes.
As long as nothing happens everybody feels safe, happy and continue to ignore all the safety rules
One small kiss between any two of the vehicles may do serious damage to all the riders! :scared:

 
The niece of my family priest (the Vaadhyar with a double dome) got married recently.

Since this man has very little knowledge of Vedas, ceremonies and rituals and still manages to make

a living out of his prohitham, he would be always hiking his dakshiNai and even quarrel when his

demands are not met.

I was out of station and could not attend the wedding which I guessed must have been a mediocre

celebration. But I was stunned when I heard that the wedding was a very grand affair.

Apparently the bride was very stylish and modern!

The reception hosted a grand buffet and the attendance was good.

May be his sister had married a rich man or he became rich after he married her.

Either way the marriage must have been a surprise to many of the 'disciples' of the 'Vaadhyaar!'
 
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The temple priest had his shashtiabtapoorthi performed a few months ago.

Apparently the entire population which comes to the temple had gone for the celebration.

I was not included the group and my husband told me to go on my own - if I wanted to go.

I know the story of Sati Devi who put down her foot (feet?) to attend a yaagaa and met a sad end.

The mami had visited beauty parlor and had facial and fairness treatment before the event.

The priest was heard boasting about the expenses involved in these.

The main ritual is the abhishekham which will transformer anyone into a wet and shivering chicken.

Why all the fuss to become a wet and shivering chicken beats my imagination.

They also had a video graphed the entire celebration.

So one should judge neither a book by it cover nor a person by his 'paavam' looks! :)
 
And there was a Mehandhi ceremony and all the ladies of all ages waited for their turn patiently.

The Mehandhi artist must have felt happy since she would make a tidy sum!

Instead she telephoned to someone and said in Hindi,

"Yahaan tho sab buddi log aa baite hain!"

The place was Hyderabad and the wedding was that of a Tamil brahmin and the lady assumed that no

one would understand her funny statement.

I promptly retorted in Hindi,"Kya karen bahenji! jab ham buddi log jawaani they , ye sab kuch

naheen hothaa thaa! Hamen abhi avsar milen, tho ham sab aa baite hain" :rolleyes:

 
Think or sink! Your Message

மனத்திலோர் தூய்மை யில்லை வாயிலோ ரிஞ்சொல்லில்லை
சினத்தினால் செற்றம் நோக்கித் தீவிளி விளிவன் வாளா
புனத்துழாய் மாலை யானே பொன்னிசூழ் திருவ ரங்கா
எனக்கினிக் கதியென் சொல்லாய் என்னையா ளுடைய கோவே.

(தொண்டரடிப் பொடியாழ்வார்)

I have no purity in mind, neither I have sweetness in my words,
With impotent rage and looks of hatred, I have uttered fiery words.
O Lord adorned with Thulasi garlend, Lord of Ponni surrounded Thiruvarangam,
tell me my king, what will be my fate !
(Thonadaradipodi Alvar)
 
“நாராயணா!” எனும் நாமத்தை
நாவாறச் சொன்னாலே போதும் ;
நன்மைகள் நம்மைச் சூழும், பல
வண்மைகள் நம்மை வந்தடையும்.

நெருப்பு, சருகுகளை எரிப்பது போலும்,
மருந்து, நோய்களை அழிப்பது போலும்,
நாராயணனின் நாமம், நவின்றவர்களின்
நூறாயிரம் பாவங்களை அழித்துவிடும்! :hail:
 
I am NOT judging people about whom I write in this thread.

I just register the things and people who make me think about them.

Some of them are good, some bad, some ugly and some weird.

No one can change any of them since they do not want to change.

Yet we can learn something from each of these incidents and people.

If I am hurting anyone by doing this, I am really sorry and

I assure you from the bottom of my heart that it is purely unintentional!

 
The double dome of the family priest ( irattai maNdai in Tamil) is actually an asset for him.

It shows an extra dose of brain packed inside the head by the Divine providence!

How else can he survive doing prohit's job - despite NOT knowing Vedas and mantras! :thumb:
 
The children in the colony who were tiny tots have now become teenagers.

'Thenaavettu' has become their second nature - if not the first!

They care for NOTHING and are afraid of NO ONE!

They play non stop from6 A.M to 11 P.M. making life a real hell!

The only free area lies close to my window of the room where I sit and do almost

everything like reading, puja, stitching, washing clothes, typing, posting etc.

Parents have no hold on them and are afraid to scold them.

But they scold one another with the nicest words beong "naaye!" and "gunda!"

I am scared to think what will happen when they become a little more older?

How many short circuits will happen between grown up boys and girls?

How many will elope or shame their parents and make them disappear?

Days are becoming from bad to worser and to worst as time rolls on!

eendru puram thanthaaL thaai!
udaiyum uNavum tharugiraar thanthai!
avargaL kadamai mudinthu vittathE!
Kazhuthai ekkedu kettaal yaaruku enna??

 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
The children in the colony who were tiny tots have now become teenagers.

'Thenaavettu' has become their second nature - if not the first!

They care for NOTHING and are afraid of NO ONE!

They play non stop from6 A.M to 11 P.M. making life a real hell!

The only free area lies close to my window of the room where I sit and do almost

everything like reading, puja, stitching, washing clothes, typing, posting etc.

Parents have no hold on them and are afraid to scold them.

But they scold one another with the nicest words beong "naaye!" and "gunda!"

I am scared to think what will happen when they become a little more older?

How many short circuits will happen between grown up boys and girls?

How many will elope or shame their parents and make them disappear?

Days are becoming from bad to worser and to worst as time rolls on!

eendru puram thanthaaL thaai!
udaiyum uNavum tharugiraar thanthai!
avargaL kadamai mudinthu vittathE!
Kazhuthai ekkedu kettaal yaaruku enna??
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Dear Mrs Visalakshi Ramani,
I am with you in your thoughts on the changes that take place in society.
But can this be stopped? No. Change is constantly happening throughout
the ages. Unfortunately it happens faster during our times.It is because of
"information technology", and the craze for earning quick buck. This happens in every strata of society. Order of hierarchy has been abolished in family and society.
Time can only tell whether this change is for good or
bad.
Warm regards
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.
 
Dear Sir,
Namaste! :pray2:

I am afraid that such violent and unpleasant changes can't be for the betterment of humanity.

When we were kids, we trusted in our parents and respected them without questioning.

We believed that whatever they did or said is for our own good.

We married the groom the selected by them without posing a single question.

Where has that absolute faith and implicit obedience gone now?

Questioning is welcome for increasing one's knowledge.

But questioning the superiority and authority of the elders!!!

I understand now why my mother used to feel so bad about many things!

Being 25 years older to me, these changes must have been even more embarrassing for her.

My only prayer to God everyday is what my father used to pray.

" Sab ko san mati de bhagavan" :pray:

When the brain works properly, a person's thoughts words and actions

will automatically become pure and good.
 
There is small boy aged 4 years with some birth defects.

He is cross eyed and wears a spectacles to correct it.

He loses his balance very easily and falls - since the muscles in one of his legs are weak.

His mother ties an addtional weight to that leg to increase the muscle strength.

He is very bright, smart and witty.

I love that child and he calls me Thoppip paatti and my husband thoppith thaathaa.

The favorite pastime of the 'gunda'(s) and 'naaye'(s) is teasing the boy and making him cry.

It looks like nothing but a pack of wolves teasing a lion cub. :(

That boy wants to play with them and feel normal and they discourage him in every possible way.
 
Some people are so image conscious that they take extreme pain to project a good image in everything they do - by sparing no expenditure .

There is an adage in Tamil which says people smear castor oil on the leaf they have eaten from, to make people believe that it is smeared with ghee! :rolleyes:
...That is if people can't smell castor oil as being different from ghee! :)

They go for the costliest item in a shop without bothering about it utility or longevity.

One lady blew Rs 1.5 lakhs in giving a face lift to her bath room before her daughter's weddiIt is all marble and granite and shining faucets and fittings now.

But the process of removing the previously laid tiles with a hammer jack had caused wide cracks on the exterior of the bathroom walls.

It would have been better that the money was spent on fixing the cracks rather than making them deeper and wider.

Does the closet costing 10,000 Rs ease the constipation of the user?

Does a costly bathtub make a person purer or more pious or take him nearer to God?

It is am ere show to create and boost an imaginary image! :rolleyes:
 
People buy sofa sets far bigger than their drawing room can accommodate.

The right example will be a palm fruit tied on to the head of a sparrow.

Then they complain about the room and the house being too small for their needs.

We can't cut the leg to fit the shoe!

We must buy the shoe of the right size to fit the leg!

One couple ordered a fancy fridge with so many new features.

It was 1" bigger than the space allotted for the fridge.

They wanted to cut the counter on the side of the fridge to accommodate it.

But surely it would have ruined the look of the entire kitchen and

affected the sale-ability of the house at a later date!

So the shoe must fit the leg and NOT expect the leg to fit the shoe bought/ brought! :rolleyes:
 
Visalakshi Ramani said:
Dear Sir,
Namaste! :pray2:

I am afraid that such violent and unpleasant changes can't be for the betterment of humanity.

When we were kids, we trusted in our parents and respected them without questioning.

We believed that whatever they did or said is for our own good.

We married the groom the selected by them without posing a single question.

Where has that absolute faith and implicit obedience gone now?

Questioning is welcome for increasing one's knowledge.

But questioning the superiority and authority of the elders!!!

I understand now why my mother used to feel so bad about many things!

Being 25 years older to me, these changes must have been even more embarrassing for her.

My only prayer to God everyday is what my father used to pray.

" Sab ko san mati de bhagavan" :pray:

When the brain works properly, a person's thoughts words and actions

will automatically become pure and good.
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Dear VR ji,

Each generation feels they are better than the next or the present generation..if there is truth in this that means only the Cavemen were the most well behaved!LOL


When I look at the present generation I also can't help noticing that they are very interesting.

Some of them have minds that work in all directions...I admire their ability.Well some are not to our liking but that is the law of the world..we have many types of people..even Ekam Sat is a Bahuda Vadanti situation so do we really expect all humans to be the same?

Not every one in the past was an angel and not everyone in the present is a devil..all humans have both the angel and the devil in them. In fact at times none of us really know what we might become the very next second!LOL

Sometimes I feel the line "Sab Ko San Mathi De Bhagavan"...should be changed to "Sab Ko Aur Mujhe Bhi San Mathi De Bhagavan" becos when we pray for well being of others we often forget to include ourselves.
 
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