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Think or sink!

Projection of oneself onto the others is
the root cause of most misunderstandings.

Each action is NOT what is being done ...
but what we think is being done!!!

Each sentence is NOT what is being spoken...
but what we think is being spoken!!!

Unless people stop adding shades of their own-selves
into the words and actions of others

misunderstandings can never be ruled out!
Don't look at the world through tinted glasses!
​
 
Numbers matter ONLY when

Nothing else matters!!!

Age is NOT a virtue unless

Wisdom goes hand in hand with it!

Aging is a natural process!

Gathering wisdom should also be

a natural process - but often it is not!
 
இனியவை எட்டு... இன்னா எட்டு!
(ஒளவைப் பாட்டியின் அடிகளைப் பின்பற்றி...)

1.
இருக்க வேண்டியது.......பிறரை மனமாரப் பாராட்டுவது.
இருக்க வேண்டாதது......பிறரைக் குறை கூறுவது.

2.
இழக்க வேண்டியது.....கெட்ட பழக்கங்களை.
இழக்க வேண்டாதது....நல்ல நண்பர்களை.

3.
மகிழ்ச்சியுற வேண்டியது.....பிறர் வளர்ச்சியைக் கண்டு.
மகிழ்ச்சியுற வேண்டாதது...பிறர் வீழ்ச்சியைக் கண்டு.

4.
பேச வேண்டியது.....பயனுள்ள வார்த்தைகளை.
பேச வேண்டாதது...வெட்டி ஊர் வம்புகளை.

5.
தலையிட வேண்டியது.....பொதுப் பிரச்சனைகளில்.
தலையிட வேண்டாதது...தனிப் பட்ட பிரச்சனைகளில்.

6.
கடைப்பிடிக்க வேண்டியது ....மௌனம்.
கடைப்பிடிக்க வேண்டாதது....ஓயாத பேச்சு.

7.
செய்ய வேண்டியது.....ஓடிச் சென்று உதவுவது.
செய்ய வேண்டாதது....செய்த உதவியைச் சொல்லித் திரிவது.

8.
தடுக்க வேண்டியது.....தீய செல்களை.
தடுக்க வேண்டாதது...பிறர் முன்னேற்றத்தை.
 
In some families protocol reigns and decides who should call whom on phone.

If if the head is bursting to know everything, these people would remain mum mumbling,

grumbling and complaining about the deafening silence but would never ever make the call!

The one good thing about people who keep you at a safe distance is that

they also keep themselves at the same distance from you - without realizing it!
 
Does the footwear carry us or do we carry the foot wear???

When we stand stationary the footwear does carry us

but when we walk/ run/ move we carry the footwear.

The same thing with the walking sticK

It supports us when we plant it on the ground as we walk.

But we support it and carry it in between planting it on the ground!

The Moral:

If we need help we must also be ready to render help!
 
Define a Watchman:

May be the person sitting at the gate - keeping a vigilant watch :suspicious:

on the persons and vehicles coming in and going out through the gate.


May be the person sitting at the dining table ...:hungry:


keeping a vigilant watch on his watch/ wall clock
calling the shots for the next drink/snack/tiffin/ meal! :clock:
 
Small wonder ready made frocks of good quality cost a fortune.

The frock I made for my grand daughter using two well matching blouse bits
and a lot of fancy laces made me work for 6+ hours - giving my back an ache!

But it is worth the trouble to see her face beam with happiness during the Skype chat
while she exclaims,"It is beautiful paatti. It is really gorgeous paatti!"

I can imagine how I would have felt if my grandmother had
taken the trouble of making such lovely dresses for me!

Of course my Mom used to make us all lovely dresses.
That is why tailoring became a part of all the family members!

If everyone became like us, poor tailors would go out of business!
 
I made a recent discovery.

The difficulty in walking wearing a sari is NOT because of the sari .

It is because of the under skirt which is not wide enough to allow us take long free strides!

So the Veshti Day special sale of 2 Ramraj veshtis for Rs 200 was a welcome offer.

The cloth of the dhothi was good and very fine.

Two dhothis yielded three real tent-sized-under-skirts!!!

It is a pretty good offer!

Where else can we get a skirt for 66 Rs - since the stitching is done by ourselves!

A normal /thin woman can make 2 skirts form one dhothi bringing down the cost to just Rs 50!
 
Their wicked plot now unfolds. A man and a woman came on bicycles with back packs.

They were not residents of the locality. My guess is that ...

they might have rung the door bell to make sure that the house was unoccupied.

They rode together some distance and then separated and rode in opposite directions.

They must have met at the backside gate of my son's home facing a lane - which has no houses in it.

They entered through the gate which is just bolted and rarely ever locked.

They picked open the bathroom window and the man must have helped the woman to enter into the house through the window.

They had the whole day to look, find and grab all they wanted and went back through the same gate they had come in!

Will they get caught?

Will my son recover all that he has lost on the Pongal Eve?

Only Time has to tell us these! :pray:

Corollary:

I used to wonder at the toy sized dogs some people used to take for walks on our road.

I am sure they like the Chihuahuas are small in size but disproportionately loud barking!
 
A typical example of
" Moorthi sirusu ....Keerthi Perusu!

Chihuahua (dog) - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chihuahua_(dog)

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Just like Light and darkness always go together Love and hatred always go together.

They are the two sides of the same coin and two different expressions of the same intense feeling.

Extreme liking is RAgA and when it turns sour and becomes extreme hatred it is Dwesha.

Beware of the person who loves to intensely.

He might become another Othello and destroy what he used to love most!

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பக்தியும், பகைமையும்



பக்தியும், பகைமையும் மாறுபட்டாலும்,
முக்தியை அளிப்பதில், அவை சரிசமமே.

அவை இரண்டும் எதிர்ப் பதங்களே – ஆயினும்
அவை ஒரே நாணயத்தின் இரு பக்கங்களே.

அதீத விருப்பம் பக்தியில் முடியும்;
அதீத வெறுப்போ பகையில் முடியும்!

கண்ணன் மேல் கொண்ட பக்தி பெரியதா?
கண்ணன் மேல் கொண்ட பகைமை பெரியதா?

நூறு பிறவியில் கொள்ளும் பக்தியும்,
மூன்று பிறவிகளில் கொள்ளும் த்வேஷமும்,

சரிசமம் ஆகும் தராசுத் தட்டில்;
சரிதான் மாயக் கண்ணன் கணக்கு.

நாம் விரும்புபவர்களை, அவ்வப்போது
நாம் விருப்புடன் கொஞ்சம் நினைப்போம்.

நாம் வெறுப்பவர்களையோ, நெருப்பென
நம் நினைவில் இடைவிடாது கொள்வோம்!

எப்படி நினைத்தால் என்ன கண்ணனுக்கு?
எத்தனை நேரம் நினைக்கிறோம் என்றே,

கணக்கு வைத்துக்கொண்டு மனம் கனிவான்;
கணக்கு முடிந்தவுடன், கருணை பொழிவான்.

பக்தியும், அன்பும் அடைவிப்பது போன்றே,
பயமும், பீதியும் அவனை அடைவிக்கும்.

“எப்படியோ என்னை நினைத்தாலே போதும்”,
என்றே கண்ணன் எண்ணுகின்றான் போலும்!

விருப்பு வெறுப்புக்கு அப்பாற்பட்டவன்
வேறு எப்படித்தான் எண்ண முடியும்?

வாழ்க வளமுடன்,
விசாலாக்ஷி ரமணி.

AFFECTION AND ANIMOSITY.

As far as ‘Mukthi’ is concerned ‘bakthi” and ‘dwEsham’ are equal, in all
respects. They look like opposite words, but they are the two sides of
the same coin!

Extreme love culminates in ‘bhakti’ and extreme hatred in ‘dwEsham’.
Which of these is superior? Bhakti to krishnA or dwEsham to Him?
Bhakti in a hundred births is equal to the dwEsham in three births!
This is true according to the time scale of KrishnA.

We remember the person whom we love now and then; but we remember
the person whom we hate – like a constant fire kept alive in the mind.

Krishna does not bother about the emotions accompanying our thoughts-
since He is beyond rAgA and dwEshA. When we fulfill the time
requirement, He showers His blessings on us.

Isn’t it strange that Bhayam and BhEthi work in the same way as
Affection and love in winning MOkshA?

https://visalramani.wordpress.com/about/தலைவனும்-நாமும்/பக்தியும்-பகைமையும்/
 
Deft definitions:-

Minor surgery:
Any major surgery which has been performed on anyone except oneself

Major surgery:
Any minor surgery performed on oneself

Petty loss:
When someone might have a lot to the burgler

Heavy loss:
When oneself loses a a petty sum due to burglary.

Easy job:
When a hard job is done by anyone else

Hard job:
When an easy job is done by oneself
Does this double standard make life more interesting or more intriguing??? :decision:
 
It is wisdom not to travel part of the journey by a domestic flight

and then the remaining by an international flight.

Their luggage policies are so very different.

Either you will not be able to use the luggage allowance to the fullest extent
or you will have to hell heavily for the extra luggage you carry in the domestic flight!

Some airlines have a kind of understanding with the international flights and allow the same luggage on board. But that requires to be purchased for the entire journey at the same time.
 
Less luggage .. more comfort applies not only to the luggage

but also to the luggage with legs and arms aka the obese people!

Some lucky persons can eat anything and everything they fancy without gaining any weight!

Some others seem to gain weight just by laughing / breathing air / drinking water! :(
 
Things and people become as important as we think they are!

So the police thinks that the theft is petty since the value of the stolen goods
is less than 10 K USD and so is not worth their attention.

May be our police is far better since they recover the stolen jewels - even if the real owner does not!
 
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When there is no growth above the ground, it means that all the growth is taking place under the soil or under the ground level.

In the same way when no movements are detected above the ground, it merely means everything is happening under the ground...unseen, unheard and undetected!
 
Not worrying about the loss of valuables becomes easy when they had been

gifted to us and not purchased by us with our own hard earned money!

Another double standard in human life...and only intriguing type perhaps???
 
There is a strange, weird and a very dangerous custom of keeping a sharp object made of iron under the cradle - to protect the baby in the cradle from dangers!

But the iron object itself can cause more dangers and damage!

The Taxi driver I met today had a deep scar running along one side of his nose starting at his forehead. I wondered whether it was due to any accident!

NO! He had fallen over the aRuvAL maNai kept under his cradle when he was a small baby!

Which kind of genius would leave an aRuvAL maNai under the cradle for protecting the baby!

He survived and his nose also survived - which in my opinion is nothing short of a miracle.

I saw his grandmother's photo kept on the spot where usually we find the picture/ image of the driver's ishta dheivam.

Small wonder he chose his illiterate grand mother over his nitwit mother!

Mother's must weigh the real risk against the imaginary protection they intend to offer to the baby!

P.S

Once I shuddered to see a sharp knife under the cloth cradle (aka as thooLi) of my neighbor's infant son. I promptly replaced it with a smooth cylindrical rod ( about 8" long) which had once been a part of a sliding bolt.
 
The clever chat mami has got her equation right!

Her rented apartment fetches Rs . 9 K per month as rent.

Her expenses in the senior citizen complex costs her about Rs. 6 K per month.

So she gets Rs. 3 K as pocket money + the freedom from the household chores + numerous friends to chit chat with all day long! :grouphug:
 
Truly Necessity is the mother of invention!

We have a wedding reception in the evening.

I don't recycle gifts and try to get rid of things I don't need using these opportunities.

We always give cash gifts so that people can buy what they like or wish to possess!

The two floral printed gift covers which I had were playing hide and seek with me.

They were seen everywhere yesterday and today there is no trace of them!

I found cover with tricolor stripe at the left edge and the name of a hotel on the left top corn.

I glued a piece of golden zari on the stripes and my husband's visiting card on th name of the hotel

Presto I have a got a unique and well decorated gift cover in under a minute.

I am sure my friends will wonder from where I got such a beautiful designer made cover!
 
We read that in ancient times some divine mothers deserted

their new born babies as soon as they were born!

Now they give off the babies for adoption or leave them at the orphanage homes!

Women have been the same and also

All women are NOT angels and

All men are not demons!
 
My old friend who is also very old visited me today.

She came with her darling D.I.Law holding her hands.

People who have physical help at their beck and call do not care for any walking stick.

People like me who want to be as independent as is possible and also feel delicate to be pestering

others to help physically every time we have to move round have a sturdy walking stickas an

inseparable companion.

My stick is also independent like me. It can stand on its own four legs and even support my hand

bag! I have come to depend on it so much that I have coined a proverb for it.

thadi udaiyaan padikku anjaan! :)

I can climb steps without fear when I have the stick!

People are busy and have their own work to do.

It is better not to tax them too much and quite unnecessarily too.

But may ladies are shy to use a stick as it may reveal their real age.

People never hesitate to wear specatacles /hearing aid/ dentures etc

Why feel shy only when it comes to using a walking stick??? :noidea:

P.S.

One of my young neighbors said after seeing us together,

"We have so much to learn from you. I like the way you cherish your friendship!"

What is the worth of a life which does not include a few good friends????
 
The reception we attended yesterday was really over crowded.

Were 1000 people or more...I can't really make the correct guess!

The queue for greeting/ gifting/ getting photographed and video recorded

with the bride and groom formed instantly and was very long.

I did not go on the stage for a few reasons.

1. I may be delaying everyone in the queue.

2. I am not keen on having my presence recorded and preserved

3. The people who stare make me feel self conscious though

I have never felt so while dancing or singing on the stage.

4. If I fall due to the thaLLu muLLu things won't be very pleasant.

Odi Odi thirintha kaalam pOnathu! :roll:

aadi aadi nadakkum kaalam vanthathu! :(

Yet no complaints... since I am still able to walk

whether it is Odi Odi or Adi Adi hardly ever matters!
 

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