Wedding Expenses

[kannanrajaram]

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Does anyone know what expenses a bride's father must make in an Aiyangar wedding? I'd like to make this known as well - asking my elders for help, but would also like to hear from this community on what is the current state.

 

[RSSARMA52]

Does anyone know what expenses a bride's father must make in an Aiyangar wedding? I'd like to make this known as well - asking my elders for help, but would also like to hear from this community on what is the current state.

This is a shameless question. In my own marriage although I said I don't need anything. But their side insisted as it is their duty. I remember they paid me for my dress. Even Thirumangalyam they made it and I paid to my mother-in-law 50% of the cost in the 1980s.
Iyer or Iyengar don't go these old gramophone way and queek sound. Think positively. No show off needed. My friend married in yellow dhothi and sngavasthram and also bride in yellow normal saree. No reception.
Give value only rituals and Vedic pandits. Reduce glamour and Even management expenses.

 

[kannanrajaram]

This is a shameless question. In my own marriage although I said I don't need anything. But their side insisted as it is their duty. I remember they paid me for my dress. Even Thirumangalyam they made it and I paid to my mother-in-law 50% of the cost in the 1980s.
Iyer or Iyengar don't go these old gramophone way and queek sound. Think positively. No show off needed. My friend married in yellow dhothi and sngavasthram and also bride in yellow normal saree. No reception.
Give value only rituals and Vedic pandits. Reduce glamour and Even management expenses.

Appreciate your answer, but am asking as father of bride. There are duties as a parent of a bride, as a courtesy as well as tradition, which is the list am looking for. Here are some I gathered:

1. 2 days at least for Kalyana Mandapam, starting from
2. 10 Rooms for close family both sides [20 - 30 people] + 2 (Green rooms)
3. Vaadhyaar Dakshina, Incl. homam and rituals' items
4. Mandapam decoration
5. Photography & Videography
6. Six to eight meals (two major for all guests, remaining for close family members)
7. Tamboolam
8. Jewellery [assuming bride has other optional jewellery of choice]
   1. Thirumangalyam (Groom will provide another too)
   2. Chain and ring for Groom
9. Seer (vessels)
10. Transport vehicles

Clothes [Full detailed list whom TBD], and what how these are shared with groom's family is their courtesy and approach.

 

[a-TB]

Looks like you have a good start

Here is a list from online sources

• Venue: The cost of booking a wedding hall or Kalyana Mandapam for the ceremony and reception.
• Decoration: Floral decorations, lighting, and other decorative elements for the venue.
• Catering: Providing meals for guests during the wedding and related events, including breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
• Bridal Attire: The bride's wedding saree, jewelry, and other accessories.
• Gifts for the Groom's Family: Traditional gifts such as clothes, jewelry, and other items for the groom and his family.
• Pre-Wedding Rituals: Expenses related to rituals like Nichyadhartham (engagement ceremony), Pooja, and other pre-wedding ceremonies.
• Wedding Rituals: Costs associated with the various rituals performed during the wedding, including fees for the priests and materials needed for the rituals.
• Accommodation: Arranging accommodation for out-of-town guests and the groom's family.
• Entertainment: Hiring musicians or performers for the wedding and reception.
• Miscellaneous: Other expenses such as photography, videography, transportation, and wedding invitations.

Traditional wedding requires only 5 people. Bride, Bride's parents, Groom , Priest ! That is one extreme
The other extreme is how rich weddings are performed based on number of guests and how much one wants to waste money. In the later case you will need wedding project managers

Yours is in the middle of the road I suppose. All the best