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re your post #25, i think the very format of this forum, opens up discussion and meandering, as opposed to plain questions and answers. i am not saying one is better than the other; it is just that this is of a different format, and invariably, a thread unweaves itself into its several components yarn (pun deliberately meant here) !!

having said that, may i please bring to your notice about the meeting between mahatma gandhi and the kanchi seer chandrashekara saraswati. one must remember the times - it was at the height of the untouchables' struggle to enter temples, indirectly a quest for dignity and humanity and recognition, during the early part of the 20th century. it was also when narayana guru was pursuing the path of religion towards the ezhavas' emancipation, and periyar, yet to grow into the godless radical that he eventually became.

jeyamohan, is a writer whom i admire a lot. he is often accused of a pan hindu bias, which i like for even though he is agnostic, i find his interpretation of hinduism for modern times - casteless and dynamic - very attractive.

i have pasted a section of this article from jeyamohan's blogspot, which i believe to be a true narration of what happened in that historic meeting between the enforcer of brahminical hinduism and a hindu bent on embracing the untouchables into the broad umbrella hindu fold (after all these were till then called panchamars - right?!!

.... சந்திப்பு 15 நிமிடத்துக்கும் குறைவாகவே நடந்தது. ராஜாஜியும் பாலக்காட்டைச்சேர்ந்த இரு காங்கிரஸ்காரர்களும் கலந்துகொண்டார்கள். உரையாடலில் இருவரும் இந்துஸ்தானியில் பேசிக்கொண்டார்கள். சந்திரசேகரர் கண்ணீருடன் இந்துமதத்தை அழிக்கவேண்டாம் என காந்தியைக் கேட்டுக்கொண்டார். இந்தக் கோரிக்கையை விடுப்பதற்காகவே அவர் பல நூறு கிலோமீட்டர் நடந்து தஞ்சாவூரில் இருந்து வந்திருந்தார்.

காந்தி மிக்க பணிவுடன் ‘ஒரே ஒரு சுருதி நூலில் ஒரே ஒரு வரியையாவது ஆதாரமாகக் காட்டுங்கள். நான் யோசிக்கிறேன்’ எனக் கேட்டுக்கொண்டார். சந்திரசேகரர் கீதையைச் சுட்டிக்காட்ட காந்தி கீதையின் அந்த வரி தவறாக விளக்கப்படுகிறது, ஏனென்றால் அந்தப் பொருளுக்கு முற்றிலும் மாறாகவே மொத்த கீதையும் உள்ளது என்று சொன்னார்.

சந்திரசேகரரால் மேலே பேசமுடியவில்லை.......

சந்திரசேகரரிடம் காந்தி கொஞ்சம் உதாசீனமாகவே நடந்துகொண்டதாக அன்று பிராமணர்கள் நினைத்தனர். அது உண்மையும் கூட. காந்தி பக்தரான கல்கி போன்றவர்கள்கூட சந்திரசேகரரை கடுமையாக, நேரடியாகத் தாக்கி எழுதியமைக்கும் இந்நிகழ்வு ஒரு தூண்டுகோல். தீண்டாமையை ஒழிப்பது வழியாக காந்தி இந்துமதத்தை அசுத்தமாக்குகிறார் என சந்திரசேகரர் சொன்னதற்கு ‘நீங்கள் ஒன்றும் ஜகத்குரு [உலகின் குரு] அல்ல, ஒரு மடாதிபதி மட்டுமே. அந்த இடத்தில் இருந்தால் போதும்’ என கல்கி பதில் எழுதினார்.

கல்கி ஸ்மார்த்தர்.அன்றைய பிராமணர்களால் வழிபடப்பட்டவர். ஆகவே இந்த தாக்குதல் சந்திரசேகரரை அதிர்ச்சி அடையச்செய்தது. அதன்பின் தீண்டாமைக்கு ஆதரவாக நேரடியாகப்பேசுவதைக் கட்டுப்படுத்திக்கொண்டார். அல்லது அந்த அமைப்பு அவரை கட்டுப்படுத்தியது. ஆனால் கடைசிக்காலம் வரை அவர் சாதிநோக்கும் தீண்டாமைநோக்கும் கொண்டவராகவே நீடித்தார். அவரது நூல்களே சான்று
இன்றும்கூட சம்பிரதாய ஸ்மார்த்தர்கள் காந்தியை வெறுக்கிறார்கள்.

... அன்று மாலை கோயம்புத்தூருக்கு வந்த காந்தி அங்கே கோவை அய்யாமுத்து ஏற்பாட்டில் நடந்த கூட்டத்தில் பேசினார். ஒருவர் சந்திரசேகரருடனான சந்திப்பு பற்றிக் கேட்டபோது காந்தி ‘சொல்லும்படி ஏதுமில்லை. ஒரு தனிப்பட்ட உரையாடல் மட்டுமே’ என்றார்.

சந்திரசேகரர் பின்னரும் பல உரைகளில் அவரது தீண்டாமைச் சிந்தனையை முன்வைத்துப் பேசினார். அவை அச்சாகியும் உள்ளன. தீண்டாமை சட்ட விரோதமாக ஆனபின் அந்த உரைகள் பலவும் திருத்தி எழுதப்பட்டன. இன்று காந்தியை சந்திரசேகரர் சந்தித்தது ஸ்மார்த்த பிராமணர்களின் நூல்களில் பலவாறாகத் திரித்து எழுதப்படுகிறது. காந்தி அவரைச் சந்தித்து காலில் விழுந்து ஆசிபெற்றார் என்றுகூட எழுதியிருக்கிறார்கள்.

இன்னும் நூறுவருடம் ஆகாத ஒரு வரலாற்றுக்கே இத்தனை திரிபுகள். ஒருபக்கம் திராவிடத் திரிபு இன்னொரு பக்கம் பிராமணத் திரிபு. காந்தியை மீட்டெடுப்பது தாரில் சிக்கிய வண்ணத்துப்பூச்சியை மீட்பது போலத்தான்.

gandhiji chandrashekara saraswati meeting at palghat nelliseri

my above excerpt is only in response to your statement 'Here some members think that they are the most intelligent being in this world and question even Maha Periyava's Teachings and advices; members should know their limitation of knowledge as compared to Maha Periyava.'

as i have stated long ago here, my own family experience was one of unpleasantness. a widowed cousin of my father, with 5 daughters, while still in late 20s, wished to seek succour from the seer, after she lost her husband. she was told to shave her head and wear silk and come back... which she not only detested, but also being a woman trying to find a job, i would say, is pretty impractical.

all i wish to say, even though the chandrashekara saraswati may be well read and familiar with the scriptures, his focus was on preserving and upholding the hinduism defined by its hardline caste rules, which under the scrutiny of modern morality and fair play, openly acknowledges the disadvantages it heaps on the panchamars. that is to put it mildly.

please do not treat this as a call to quarrel. normally i leave those wishing to praise kanchi alone. but when a statement of the nature of what you wrote, i cannot but mildly explain, there are also other sides of the same. may be acceptable to some, but unsavoury to many like me.

hope you find my explanation, atleast detailed enough to explain my pov. without offence.

thank you.
 
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1. This never happens in Yahoo answers where members posts to the question and best answer among many is selected by member who posted the question.

2. Do you really think all post carry any meaning to original posts?

3. ...........a) you got excellent creative ideas in poems but b)you also post some unrelated posts to the main topic;.......
P J Sir!

My answers:

1. We all know that you are the number one Yahoo Fan! But please remember that our forum can not imitate Y!

2. Did I ever say (oops...type) so?? Oh! I should not ask a Q and am supposed to give an answer!! Ans: NO!
3. a) Thanks for the recognition :yo: b) The posts like 'those' (from all other members too) makes a thread interesting, IMHO! :D

P.S: I am glad that you have a good impression about my dear Sis! :)

 
P J Sir!

My answers:

1. We all know that you are the number one Yahoo Fan! But please remember that our forum can not imitate Y!

2. Did I ever say (oops...type) so?? Oh! I should not ask a Q and am supposed to give an answer!! Ans: NO!
3. a) Thanks for the recognition :yo: b) The posts like 'those' (from all other members too) makes a thread interesting, IMHO! :D

P.S: I am glad that you have a good impression about my dear Sis! :)

hi RR madam,
well said...tomorrow somebody will ask in Q...WHY THENGAI US USING IN NALANGU?....WHY MAANGAI NOT USING IN NALANGU?,,

sometimes here discussions are FUNNY AND CRAZY....nio real intention...like putting the ball in court...somebody kicks

in differenent directions....so the thread goes different direction too....
 

Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

I have gone once to Kanchi mutt with my Brigadier Uncle, who wished to invite H H Jayendra Saraswathi for the kumbAbishEkam of a

temple built in Hyderabad. One 'nAr madi pAtti' - may be in her late sixties - was almost driven away by two of the assistants of the

Guru. She was asked to go to some corner and view the Guru and NOT to come in front of him to get 'theertham'. I almost cried seeing

the plight of that mAmi. :(
 
Dear T B S Sir,

Did you forget what reason I gave for 'thEngai uruttaRathu' during nalungu??

It is a practice session for 'mandai uruttaRathu', after the wedding! :D

 

Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

I have gone once to Kanchi mutt with my Brigadier Uncle, who wished to invite H H Jayendra Saraswathi for the kumbAbishEkam of a

temple built in Hyderabad. One 'nAr madi pAtti' - may be in her late sixties - was almost driven away by two of the assistants of the

Guru. She was asked to go to some corner and view the Guru and NOT to come in front of him to get 'theertham'. I almost cried seeing

the plight of that mAmi. :(
hi RR madam,
it happened to my mother too...even though my younger brother was very close sishya of maha periyavaa...i dont want talk

much abt it...i know reality inside the mutt..
 
Additional information: (P J Sir, Please do not get upset with the irrelevant post!)

The three 'eyes' of 'thEngai' are referred to as the three eyes of Lord Shiva, by some people.

So, 'thEngai' is similar to the head!! (= maNdai)
 

Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

I have gone once to Kanchi mutt with my Brigadier Uncle, who wished to invite H H Jayendra Saraswathi for the kumbAbishEkam of a

temple built in Hyderabad. One 'nAr madi pAtti' - may be in her late sixties - was almost driven away by two of the assistants of the

Guru. She was asked to go to some corner and view the Guru and NOT to come in front of him to get 'theertham'. I almost cried seeing

the plight of that mAmi. :(

dear raji,

there are several stories of insensitivity perpetuated by chandrashekhar saraswati. that he lived a monkish life, and an ascetic to the boot, is without doubt. but i think there are many types of corruptions. one need not steal money or pay for bodily pleasures to be defined as corrupt.

there is another and even more harmful type. that is to isolate oneself in an ivory tower, and measure the world.

as kannadasan says in one of his song poems

இருட்டில் மறைந்து கொள்ள விளக்கணைப்பார் - சிலர்
கிணற்றில் இருந்து கொண்டு உலகளப்பார்

..கிணற்றில் இருந்து கொண்டு உலகளப்பார்... that is my point. sitting in a mutt in kanchi, and missing golden opportunities to call to reform and gather the flock to follow his lead - was something that the kanchi mutt repeatedly missed.

they had atleast two golden opportunities - at the time of indian independence and at the time of dravidian rule - two watershed moments in tamil nadu (& indian history). we could have used the occassion to shed the baggage and reform ourselves to inclusiveness.

for those to happen, one needed a vision. a knowledge of what is current, and how to lead a society to a defined future. the mutt, in my opinion, could not even salvage sympathy from the very kanchi folks where it has aboded for hundreds of years. that is the extent of its isolation.

to most tamils, it is a brahmin sanctuary. and having personal knowledge of some of those that volunteered and literally jumped into influential positions there, i am happy to be farthest removed from it - philosophy knowledge presence and above all identification wise.

sorry raji, for the long mail you strong a sensitive chord.

thanks again.
 
....... sorry raji, for the long mail you strong a sensitive chord. .
Dear Sir,

No need to feel sorry! I have been to Kanchi mutt only once so far and I was not very happy with the way that widow mAmi was

treated. I still wonder why she was pestering them to allow her to have a 'dharshan' of MahA Swami, even though she was literally

driven away from that place!

I have great respect for the senior Guru but a few of his ideas, especially about ladies, are not acceptable in these days. Ladies have

been dominated by both men and their own senior lady in-laws for many generations. At least now they should be given some

freedom. I don't mean the scanty / tight dresses, loose hair and manly nature as freedom. They should be given freedom to educate

themselves and go for work. They should not be treated as just servants of the house, calling them as 'illaththarasi' - the queen

of the house!
 

Dear Kunjuppu Sir,

I have gone once to Kanchi mutt with my Brigadier Uncle, who wished to invite H H Jayendra Saraswathi for the kumbAbishEkam of a

temple built in Hyderabad. One 'nAr madi pAtti' - may be in her late sixties - was almost driven away by two of the assistants of the

Guru. She was asked to go to some corner and view the Guru and NOT to come in front of him to get 'theertham'. I almost cried seeing

the plight of that mAmi. :(

My colleague had narrated, some fifty years ago, an incident relating to Chandrasekharendra Saraswati. This Guru had been advocating widow remarriage for some time in his public addresses in those days, it seems. So, one of his ardent devotees and financier, a very rich Iyengar at that, wanted to honour him because he (the Iyengar) ahd fixed up the remarriage of his two widowed daughters in their twenties and with this object in mind, the Iyengar devotee requested the swamiji to accept paadapoojai and bhikshai in his house; and a certain date was fixed according to the swami's convenience. At the last moment it seems some one told the swami that there were two unshaven widows in that house and the swami promptly cancelled the program. The Iyengar devotee tried to justify his action in the light of the swami's pro-widow remarriage stand but the swami stoutly refused. The devotee then cut off all his contacts with the Kanchi Mutt and also the financial aid he was regularly giving. Since my friend was a close relative of this Iyengar devotee, he also changed from Kanchi Mutt to Sringeri (though an Iyengar).

 
dear raji,

there are several stories of insensitivity perpetuated by chandrashekhar saraswati. that he lived a monkish life, and an ascetic to the boot, is without doubt. but i think there are many types of corruptions. one need not steal money or pay for bodily pleasures to be defined as corrupt.

there is another and even more harmful type. that is to isolate oneself in an ivory tower, and measure the world.

as kannadasan says in one of his song poems

இருட்டில் மறைந்து கொள்ள விளக்கணைப்பார் - சிலர்
கிணற்றில் இருந்து கொண்டு உலகளப்பார்

..கிணற்றில் இருந்து கொண்டு உலகளப்பார்... that is my point. sitting in a mutt in kanchi, and missing golden opportunities to call to reform and gather the flock to follow his lead - was something that the kanchi mutt repeatedly missed.

they had atleast two golden opportunities - at the time of indian independence and at the time of dravidian rule - two watershed moments in tamil nadu (& indian history). we could have used the occassion to shed the baggage and reform ourselves to inclusiveness.

for those to happen, one needed a vision. a knowledge of what is current, and how to lead a society to a defined future. the mutt, in my opinion, could not even salvage sympathy from the very kanchi folks where it has aboded for hundreds of years. that is the extent of its isolation.

to most tamils, it is a brahmin sanctuary. and having personal knowledge of some of those that volunteered and literally jumped into influential positions there, i am happy to be farthest removed from it - philosophy knowledge presence and above all identification wise.

sorry raji, for the long mail you strong a sensitive chord.

thanks again.

I think I have written this a year or so ago. The senior kanchi swami (sks for short) was attached to the Kumbhakonam Matham of Sringeri, it looks like. I say this because when a photgraph of this sks once came in some paper, weekly, or something like that, my mother remarked that she definitelty remembered that person coming to her (and mine also) birthplace during the local temple festival of ten days in April-May with huge bundles containing almost all religious items required for the daily routine of brahmins (like panchaayatana idols/icons, தர்ப்பாஸனம், பஞ்சபாத்திரம் +உத்தரணி, கிரந்தாக்ஷரத்தில் அச்சிட்ட மந்திரப்புஸ்தகங்கள், சுலோகப்புஸ்தகங்கள் etc.)

It seems that once some very prominent and rich Tabras were not given good treatment when they visited the Sringeri Mutt and they were displeased with this. Back home they thought of having a separate Mutt and a Shankarachaariar for themselves, preferably a Tabra and the choice fell on the person of this sks. The rest is history as everuone knows now. The only ironic point was that this sks was a Kannadiga Brahman and not a true tabra as they wished!
 
P J Sir!

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1. We all know that you are the number one Yahoo Fan! But please remember that our forum can not imitate Y!

2. Did I ever say (oops...type) so?? Oh! I should not ask a Q and am supposed to give an answer!! Ans: NO!
3. a) Thanks for the recognition :yo: b) The posts like 'those' (from all other members too) makes a thread interesting, IMHO! :D

P.S: I am glad that you have a good impression about my dear Sis! :)


Raji madam
I am no more an active member in Yahoo Answers as Trolls answer questions posted there; especially with Spirituality questions.
Here that problem is not there.
I am sorry about your relative's episode with Maha Periyava.
I was not aware that your sister is Vishlashi Madam, that's the reason you got that talent!!
 


I think I have written this a year or so ago. The senior kanchi swami (sks for short) was attached to the Kumbhakonam Matham of Sringeri, it looks like. I say this because when a photgraph of this sks once came in some paper, weekly, or something like that, my mother remarked that she definitelty remembered that person coming to her (and mine also) birthplace during the local temple festival of ten days in April-May with huge bundles containing almost all religious items required for the daily routine of brahmins (like panchaayatana idols/icons, தர்ப்பாஸனம், பஞ்சபாத்திரம் +உத்தரணி, கிரந்தாக்ஷரத்தில் அச்சிட்ட மந்திரப்புஸ்தகங்கள், சுலோகப்புஸ்தகங்கள் etc.)

It seems that once some very prominent and rich Tabras were not given good treatment when they visited the Sringeri Mutt and they were displeased with this. Back home they thought of having a separate Mutt and a Shankarachaariar for themselves, preferably a Tabra and the choice fell on the person of this sks. The rest is history as everuone knows now. The only ironic point was that this sks was a Kannadiga Brahman and not a true tabra as they wished!

Paul Brenton in his book "A Search in Secret India" (1934} refers to Paramacharya as Kumbakonam Mada swamy. He was impressed by him and is all praises for him.
 
Dear Sir,

No need to feel sorry! I have been to Kanchi mutt only once so far and I was not very happy with the way that widow mAmi was

Raji Madam

Ever since you posted in another thread about Maha Periyava not seeing widow , i searched for an answer and i found that this was discussed here some time back.

As one closely associated with Kanchi mutt for more than 25 years.let me clarify that Maha periyava never prohibited Brahmin widows from seeing him.He had to fast if he saw anyone who had not tonsured her head.Only his overzealous attendants used to isolate widows from seeing him as H.H was known to fast most of the days and was on frugal diet.H.H. was compassion personified

http://www.tamilbrahmins.com/religion/109-about-brahmins-11.html

About Mahaperiyava chiding his attendants,Iam not aware.But he dissuaded them not to prevent anyone from seeing him which I have personally known on a particular day of ending his chaturmasya vrata while in Satara when some widows came from Tamilnadu
http://www.tamilbrahmins.com/religion/109-about-brahmins-11.html

There you go again! Going by your quotes "he had to fast if he saw anyone (of course, this means only widowed women) who had not tonsured her head"......
Why so? Where does it say that a widow has to shave her head whereas the man can go scot-free? And, so what if he saw a widow? Why should he fast? Was it a sin? I am absolutely certain GOD will not do that to the widows!!!!

Again, these things are the products of our male-dominated male-chauvanistic society. I don't know why many of you continue to come up with excuses.
For one who knew Mahaperiyava,he never arrogated to himself the powers to alter the scriptures as the english educated minds of ours do.As a pontiff he was very clear that he had only to uphold traditions and not alter it as we do our constitution.For people exposed and associated with the west some principles like these may be hard to digest.Even a man who is a widower has certain disqualifications like he cannot perform yagnas and so.I do not have the temerity to accuse the smrithis as creations of MCPs

http://www.tamilbrahmins.com/religion/109-about-brahmins-11.html

He never forced anybody to see him.It was we who wanted to seek his blessings and not the otherway round

http://www.tamilbrahmins.com/religion/109-about-brahmins-11.html


I just want to bring this to your notice; i do not want to argue further on this .

Please excuse me for that.
 
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hi
there are many MADATHU PERUCHALIS there....the problem is not the person/individual.....but his own surroundings.....like once

rajani kanth said abt entering politics.....he may be good to the ppl...but he cannot give guramtees abt his sub ordinates...like

wise head of mutt may be passionate.....but his own chelas are different...becoz my own younger brother was close to

mahaperiavaa....even my mother was not allowed inside the mutt...my younger brother was there inside circle of mahaperivaaa...
 
As one closely associated with Kanchi mutt for more than 25 years.let me clarify that Maha periyava never prohibited Brahmin widows from seeing him.He had to fast if he saw anyone who had not tonsured her head.
Dear PJ Sir,

I can understand your concern. But just one question from me (for a change?)

Why did MahAperiyavA fast if he saw an unfortunate widow, who was not tonsured? It means that he supported the age old system

of humiliating women folk. The lady I was talking about was in 'nAr madi' and had tonsured her head! Anyway, I visited the mutt only

once and never again! As I write earlier, I have a very great regard for MahAperiyavA but a few of his views about ladies has

always hurt me and many others.

FYI, I insist the widow ladies in our family to give me 'thAmboolam' when I take leave from their house and also give them the Swami

prasAda kumkumam when they take leave. All of them feel happy, but a few refuse to take the kumkumam which makes me sad!
 
Dear Raji Madam

Thanks for understanding my purpose of posting that link; i was very much disturbed and asked to myself many times "WHY HE HAS DONE LIKE THAT"


As some one earlier in this Forum was suggesting, His Sanyasi Viratha , obligations might have some thing to do with His fasting after seeing a widowed women.These are subtle things, which is He only knows.
i am not defending His action not seeing widowed woman; i do not know much about Him, but i have great respect for his teachings.
These things are not pleasant one to talk about, more we talk, more we end up with with dead ends.

When a girl or a married woman visits a house, it is a sign of respect (in case of an elderly lady) or blessings (in case of a young girl) to offer kungumam to them when they leave.
Giving Kungumam is a sort of wish for their long married life’ with Sowbagayam’
(Good fortune)
However, it is not offered to widows or given by widows to other married women for the simple reason; their giving might be viewed as a curse rather than as blessings.


This is only a suggestion; not that every one should follow it.

I am very happy to read about your gifting Sarees to poor Ladies during Pongal.
 
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Dear Sri Padmanabhan,

Now that we have come far away from the subject of the thread, I will also write a few lines on the changed subject.

At the outset I wish to confess that I am not a follower of any religious institution or Mutt. My views are from my own thinking.

When we live in a society we are expected to follow the rules of the community in which we live. This applies to Acharyas who head religious institutions as well. They are tied by tradition and follow the rituals and beliefs enunciated by their predecessors. In the initial stages they are compelled to follow the tradition strictly, but as they grow older some of them shed off their inhibitions and liberate themselves from the blinkers which had narrowed their views.

It is the same with us also. When I look at the changes that had taken place from the times of my grand mother and my grand daughters, I could see the vast difference.

This is a separate subject and I wish some one takes up the same under a new thread if need be.

Regards,
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.
 
Dear Sri Padmanabhan,

Now that we have come far away from the subject of the thread, I will also write a few lines on the changed subject.

At the outset I wish to confess that I am not a follower of any religious institution or Mutt. My views are from my own thinking.

When we live in a society we are expected to follow the rules of the community in which we live. This applies to Acharyas who head religious institutions as well. They are tied by tradition and follow the rituals and beliefs enunciated by their predecessors. In the initial stages they are compelled to follow the tradition strictly, but as they grow older some of them shed off their inhibitions and liberate themselves from the blinkers which had narrowed their views.

It is the same with us also. When I look at the changes that had taken place from the times of my grand mother and my grand daughters, I could see the vast difference.

This is a separate subject and I wish some one takes up the same under a new thread if need be.

Regards,
Brahmanyan,
Bangalore.

Brahmanyam Sir

You are right, this is turning to other subjects like other threads.
There is no need to prolong this tread anymore.
 
However, it is not offered to widows or given by widows to other married women for the simple reason; their giving might be viewed as a curse rather than as blessings.
P J Sir,

Most of the diabetic patients will have a strong desire to eat sweets. Similarly, when something is denied for someone, the

desire to get it will be more! If the widows are allowed to keep flowers and kumkum they will never have any jealousy towards

the other 'sumangalis' wearing those! So, I think at least from this generation onwards, we should change. But, I see the change

in the other way round. Ladies let their hair loose, and don't wish to wear flowers or kumkum!! Is it good or bad? :noidea:
 

I think the thread starter can just let the thread take any direction OR request the moderator to close it, if he is unhappy! :lock1:
 
P J Sir,

Ladies let their hair loose, and don't wish to wear flowers or kumkum!! Is it good or bad? :noidea:

Raji Madam

My distant Widowed relative used to have Kumkumam, wear flower etc as she was working in office; no one objected to it.
It all depends upon that person's conviction.

Shall i tell you one thing , If a well to do lady does, it becomes a trend and if a poor widower lady does it , it is an arrogant move; that is how it is.

Yes, The moderator can close this thread if he thinks it is time to close it.
 
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If a well to do lady does, it becomes a trend and if a poor widower lady does it , it is an arrogant move; that is how it is.
I want this change from everyone in our society. It should not be like, "Show me the woman; I'll show the law".

P.S: "Show me the man and I'll show you the law." - Scottish Proverb.
 
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