swami,
i will let the honourable member answer you somewhat indirect reference to him, provided, who he is and who he thinks you mean, are one and the same person.
but i am somewhat surprised, at the call to throw him out of the forum, just on the basis that he promotes intercaste marriage. it appears to me that this is somewhat of a parochial attitude, and i hope those members who encouraged you along these lines identify themselves, so as to give the gentleman a fair field to play. that is only fair, i think.
i have several stories of parents mocking others for intercaste or absolutely refusing to talk with parents whose children married out of religion..... till.... such time, as their own loved one chose to do the same. overnight, one heard all the calls for brotherly love among religions and all gods are the same eventually. made me puke, when i heard such nonsense coming from those type of folks. pure hypocrites, who change their colour, to suit the minute.
on the other hand, there are several, including myself, who see certain events as the way the world is going. maybe we cannot control or avoid it, but definitely if it impacts our children, we can probably try give them parameters, so that in the ultimate, the children are happily married and live a contented life.
life has too many uncertainties to think, preach and swear in terms of absolutes. if one leaves a door open, atleast then, one can honourably withdraw from those rigidness, to one of graceful acceptance - after all these are our children, whom we brought into and up in this world. we cannot wish our child into banishment just because they marry someone whom we do not like. it can happen to anyone's child. the loss is to the parents. i know of a few, of those bitter ones. my remarks about them, is that the parents brought and wallow in their own self pity and sorrows, with ever present relatives and friends, ever ready with the kiNNaarams.
having said that, i agree with you on two other points. it is heartening to see more membership. i will accept your note that these are from the inlands of tamil nadu. i am hoping more participation from them, in terms of postings and viewpoints
also, marriage as such is fraught with tensions and misunderstandings. in my own case, with my view so close to us in practice and tradition, it has eased us of many situations. but most of the hassles of the marriage comes from the interference on in laws and i confess that i too have had more than my deserved share. even in case of closest caste porutham, i think, a word of advice from person of eminence, to the in laws, to leave the couple alone and let them find themselves together, is a worthwhile exercise.
re saudi, i think it is a society which does not deserve any acknowledgement in this forum, even from setting a bad example. it is beyond that.
