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Brahmin Girls Marrying (Attracted towards) NB Boys

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Mula-Dhara Reason is Moola :)

Why Brahmins girls go for non-brahmin as Mates :(

sb

Steve Moxon (Author of The Woman Racket: The new science explaining how the sexes relate at work, at play and in society. Extracts/info at www.imprint-academic.com/moxon)

From The Sunday Times
January 18, 2009

Wealthy men give women more orgasms
Jonathan Leake, Science and Environment Editor
Scientists have found that the pleasure women get from making love is
directly linked to the size of their partner's bank balance.

They found that the wealthier a man is, the more frequently his partner
has orgasms.

"Women's orgasm frequency increases with the income of their partner,"
said Dr Thomas Pollet, the Newcastle University psychologist behind the
research.

He believes the phenomenon is an "evolutionary adaptation" that is
hard-wired into women, driving them to select men on the basis of their
perceived quality.

The study is certain to prove controversial, suggesting that women are
inherently programmed to be gold-diggers.
However, it fits into a wider body of research known as evolutionary
psychology which suggests that both men and women are genetically
predisposed to ruthlessly exploit each other to achieve the best chances
of survival for their genes.

The female orgasm is the focus of much research because it appears to
have no reproductive purpose. Women can become pregnant whatever their
pleasure levels.

Pollet, and Professor Daniel Nettle, his co-author, believed, however,
that the female orgasm is an evolutionary adaptation that drives women
to choose and retain high-quality partners.

He and Nettle tested that idea using data gathered in one of the world's
biggest lifestyle studies. The Chinese Health and Family Life Survey
targeted 5,000 people across China for in-depth interviews about their
personal lives, including questions about their sex lives, income and
other factors. Among these were 1,534 women with male partners whose
data was the basis for the study.

They found that 121 of these women always had orgasms during sex, while
408 more had them "often". Another 762 "sometimes" orgasmed while 243
had them rarely or never. Such figures are similar to those for western
countries.

There were of course, several factors involved in such differences but,
said Pollet, money was one of the main ones.

He said: "Increasing partner income had a highly positive effect on
women's self-reported frequency of orgasm. More desirable mates cause
women to experience more orgasms."

This is not an effect limited to Chinese women. Previous research in
Germany and America has looked at attributes such as body symmetry and
attractiveness, finding that these are also linked with orgasm
frequency. Money, however, seems even more important.

David Buss, professor of psychology at the University of Texas, Austin,
who raised this question in his book The Evolution of Desire believes
female orgasms have several possible purposes.

"They could promote emotional bonding with a high-quality male or they
could serve as a signal that women are highly sexually satisfied, and
hence unlikely to seek sex with other men," he said. "What those orgasms
are saying is 'I'm extremely loyal, so you should invest in me and my
children'."
 
1. pl do not generalise that all brahmin girls are like Ram's SIL
2. If the father in law practiced his brahmnic ways and values to his daughter, then there is no need to regret now.
3. Ask him to analyse his actions - including getting/demanding dhakshinas for his duties as apriest
4. He was the one to expose the daughter to world outside Chidhambaram, did he choose the right place for his child?
5. If you still want to maintain the same tradition, then this poor girl should have married to BB when she was 12 or 13?
6. Mr Ram do not blame the girl or the father - you are also part of the problem - did you ever guide this girl?
7. You guys are worst than indian muslims - when it suits go and hide behind the tradition.
8. There is a possibility that the boy and his future generation might be better than you.
9. Look at what is happening with our BB and BG's once they are overseas - eating meat, even beef, drinking alcohol, night club, smoking etc..etc.., no vadanams done in the morning or evening. Pop cut, ticket pottu, maamees and thalee - does not suit with the costume.
10. I understand the parent's feelings - time will heal. Lord Siva never let anyone down. 11. All the way through father would have been praying for a good boy for his lovely young daughter, forgot to mention kulam and Gothrams.
10. My heart felt wishes to the girl and the family

Kind regards
Ilango
 
Shri Illango

>>You guys are worst than indian muslims - when it suits go and hide behind the tradition.<<

I assume you are not Tamil Brahmin or are you one?If you are not one of us,plz enlighten me as to,where you come from?To compare us with Islam,is blasphemy for some conservative atmas.Very provocative indeed.Even though personally i am not provoked,as i love Shirdi Sai Baba.

sb
 
recently convention of brahmins all over india speaking various languages was called for. The great gaisal guruji, who runs a ved patashala, calededbhavan ws the convenor. The convention was attended by prominent branhmin leaders from all the parts of india.

This issue of Brahmin girls marrying non brahmin boys was thrashed out
and resoluton passed by more than 3 lakhs persons who attendedthe meeting
that this tendency is detrimental to the societ5y hence should not be encouraged.
 
Shri Prabhakaran

>>This issue of Brahmin girls marrying non brahmin boys was thrashed out
and resoluton passed by more than 3 lakhs persons who attendedthe meeting
that this tendency is detrimental to the societ5y hence should not be encouraged.<<

Girls or boys marrying outside of the brahmin community,is still a minority case.More often than not,both men and women,prefer marrying within their own community.Its a practical thing to do.

sb
 
Prabhakaranji,
It is heartening to hear about the convention held by Gaisal Guruji. Eye opener for all parents. The responsibility lies with the repspective parents of the children to enlighten them from their young age about the drawbacks in brahmins marrying non brahmins. Parents should be a standing example before their children in good deeds. Automatically children will abide wherever they go and whatever be their position.
 
I agree with Krishnakumar.In my close relatives 4 girls married other caste boys--2 girls are now Senior Govrnment Officers ,whereas their spouses are only clerks.Parents of Non-brahmin boys are not willing to marry Brahmin girls.One of the 4 girls was accepted only as a Non-legal wife after the boy married a girl of their own caste.That poor girl of a very orthodox family is daily cooking meat for her ?husband?-Abject poverty of most of the Brahmins is the reason. Many N.B.boys have ditched their brahmin girl friends ,when there was hectic resistance from their parents.More often than not the resistance from Brahmin parents are meagre,pales to nothing-because of their naive behavior.One lady from a rich buisiness community(NB)-our neighbour and good friend-knowing very well that we are Brahmins) told us,when she can get a very rich girl of their caste with a cash dowry(7digit amount),why her Engineer son should marry his Brahmin girl-friend whose faher can not earn that amount in 4 or 5 births(Janmam).(quote)"What is there in that brahmin girl except a fair skin ?"(en-quote).As Krishna kuamr says,we have to educate our girls and boys (more or less constantly advice them) from 7 to 8 years of age onwards,our "Samskaarams" and indirectly through Epics tell them the advantages of marrying boys of our clusters.Only meaningful education will help, than lasst minute futile "fire-works".Our boys don't do that(even though they are goaded by their other caste girl-friends) because they have no nerves.Only " Constant Advice" is the solution.Mothers of girls should do this effectively.
 
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When poor brahmin girls love and marry N.B.boys,the society(both Brahmins and N.Bs in the neighbourhood) redicule their families.When rich poople do that,it is considered as "Revolutionary".srimathi.Rukmani Devi,from a very orthodox Brahmin family married an Irish,Mr.Arundale.srimathi Rukmani Arundale was persuaded by Prime minister sri.Morarji Desai to contest for President of India post.The attempt fell through,because Congressmen were Not enthusiastic.srimathi Rukamani Arundale's niece srimathi.Radha married Mr.Burnier,another Irish.Awe inspired by Mahathma Gandi's teachings Dr.Soundaram,M.B.B.S.,(Gandhi Graamam)daughter of late-sri.T.V.Sundaram Iyengar(TVS).of a very orthodox Iyengar family from Tirukkarungudi(Tirunelvely) married Mr.Ramachandran(Not a brahmin).Mrs Hema Malini,a Srirangam Iyengar,married Dharmendra.

Scriptures predict "Varna Sangraham" in Kali Yugam.There is nothing to be perturbed.We can not attempt to correct the Society.Our attempt should be to help poor brahmin boys and girls,who are in need.
 
>>Scriptures predict "Varna Sangraham" in Kali Yugam.There is nothing to be perturbed.We can not attempt to correct the Society.Our attempt should be to help poor brahmin boys and girls,who are in need.<<

You mean Jathi Brahmins,Somayaji.
Yes.We should help all who are needy,in any way we can help,regardless of caste distinctions.

sb
 
Girls Freedom !

It makes me think that Girls being given so much freedom have started misusing it. As Chanakya said in Chankaya Nithi liberation and broad thinking is a double edged sword.
 
Girls are girls,whether Iyer,Iyengar,Hare Krishnas,Christians,Muslims,Jews,.....:)

sb
 
007 bala:-(quote) "we can help,regardless of caste distinctions."

I think we are interacting in Tamil Brahmins Forum--NOT in any International Charity forum--Charity starts at home-"Lokhaa Samastha Sukino Bhavanthu"
 
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007 bala:-(quote) "we can help,regardless of caste distinctions."

I think we are interacting in Tamil Brahmins Forum--NOT in any International Charity forum--Charity starts at home-"Lokhaa Samastha Sukino Bhavanthu"

somayaji

my home is usa.and there aren't very many tamil brahmins in my home.so i help without caste distinction.which sort of coincides with your loka samasthas sukhino bhavanthu isn't it?even in india,i am tambrahm from bangalore,technically speaking,though i completed schooling ,college,partly in chennai.so sort of love chennai.i want bengluris and chennaites to be happy from usa :)

sb
 
sb

i dont understand your point. though somyaji sounds right to me atleast, this is basically a forum for tam brahmins and i do not know in what ways it is relevant to bring girls of other community into this thread.
 
I am also in USA (Permanent Resident)for 4 years now and prior to that about 21 yeras in New Delhi,3 years in Gujarat & 2 years in Maharashtra and in between about 17 years at Chennai in two spells. At the age of 21,I left for Maharashtra. But my roots and my heart are still in Tamil Nadu; I was associated with Tamil Associations(active in Tamil Cultural Activities in all the places in India) at every place of my stay. Hence I am in Tamil Brahmins forum now. Due to old age,(71) & failing health, I am now confined only to Internet
 
sb, I perfectly agree with Shri Somayaji... we are on a particular forum... for brahmins... I choose this because I wanted to do something for our community... even though I am limited to discussions now... the intent is there...

One should first take care of the self, then family, community, society... this is not happening now and that is the reason for frustrations to creep into the mind...

Swasthi prajabya paripala yantham, nyayena margena mahim mahesam,
Gho brahmanebyo subamasthu nithyam, lokha samastha sukhino bavanthu...
 
sb, I perfectly agree with Shri Somayaji... we are on a particular forum... for brahmins... I choose this because I wanted to do something for our community... even though I am limited to discussions now... the intent is there...

One should first take care of the self, then family, community, society... this is not happening now and that is the reason for frustrations to creep into the mind...

Swasthi prajabya paripala yantham, nyayena margena mahim mahesam,
Gho brahmanebyo subamasthu nithyam, lokha samastha sukhino bavanthu...
hi S S sir,
now adays im more srotha than vaktha.........mounena kalaho nasthi
we have more egos than anybody in the world.......i heard that
jewish community and south indian brahmins(tamil brahmins) most
genious and highly prejudice in the world.....we can see a lot
of examples in this forum....

regards
 
shri tbs,

nambo pesanum... mounama irukaradhu sila samayam sila vishayangalukku nalladha irukkum... pesumbodhu ego theiryum... but adhu svabavam thaane... ego illena bedham yedhu...

ella vishayathuleyum nambo philosophy paarka koodathu.. at least in this stage where we need to revive our community materialisticaly...

ellorum sustain panradhukku vazhi pannina, nambo shastrathuleyum, vedathuleyum nambikkai varum...
 
I am a Moorkaha amongst Gajahas,plz forgive :(.My intention is to convey,i really do not have Tamil Brahmins to help here in USA except in participating in activities,and in these activities i see,Indian Americans have carved out a niche already.But we help other communities.I help thru Kanchi Mutt whom i trust and love.I help thru Sathya Sai Baba trust....etc.I am sure Tamil Brahmins will be helped by these trusts.When Mahswamigal asked my periamma to donate thirumangalyam to a poor tambram,she did...like this we do,thats all.I did not mean to hurt anyone.

sb
 
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I am also in USA (Permanent Resident)for 4 years now and prior to that about 21 yeras in New Delhi,3 years in Gujarat & 2 years in Maharashtra and in between about 17 years at Chennai in two spells. At the age of 21,I left for Maharashtra. But my roots and my heart are still in Tamil Nadu; I was associated with Tamil Associations(active in Tamil Cultural Activities in all the places in India) at every place of my stay. Hence I am in Tamil Brahmins forum now. Due to old age,(71) & failing health, I am now confined only to Internet

Somayaji

Age has nothing to do with being confined to internet,as per my life.As an individual,i believe that Sanathana Dharma,is all inclusive of all Dharmas in the world today.For me all religions are included.That is why i profess,the ninth avataram,as Lord Abraham who is only our Lord Brahmaa,as in my mind,the Lord Krishna's message to Shri Arjuna,is actually happened in the Jewish lands of Israel.The Jewish peoples religion Judaism also,is very similiar,with no single originator,like in Sanathana Dharma aka Hinduism.Only from Judaism,Christanity is born.Only from Judaism is Islam born.Only from Hinduism ,Judaism is born.Therefore we all are spiritually one and the same.

Its not coincidence for me to see and read,Lord Brahmaa & Devi Saraswathi being called as Lord Abraham & Lady Sara.In the Jewish lands many names are anagrammed as very similiar to olden days India culture.

When Lord Buddha promoted Buddhism,our Hinduism underwent a radical change in cultural structure.I am convinced,many of our habits as Tamil Brahmins also underwent multitude of changes,just as we are forced to adapt & adopt many changes in lifestyles.

That is why i bring in this.I am the only one in earth,who has this view,i guess.

sb
 
Somayaji

Age has nothing to do with being confined to internet,as per my life.As an individual,i believe that Sanathana Dharma,is all inclusive of all Dharmas in the world today.For me all religions are included.That is why i profess,the ninth avataram,as Lord Abraham who is only our Lord Brahmaa,as in my mind,the Lord Krishna's message to Shri Arjuna,is actually happened in the Jewish lands of Israel.The Jewish peoples religion Judaism also,is very similiar,with no single originator,like in Sanathana Dharma aka Hinduism.Only from Judaism,Christanity is born.Only from Judaism is Islam born.Only from Hinduism ,Judaism is born.Therefore we all are spiritually one and the same.

Its not coincidence for me to see and read,Lord Brahmaa & Devi Saraswathi being called as Lord Abraham & Lady Sara.In the Jewish lands many names are anagrammed as very similiar to olden days India culture.

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I am really worried.whether I am in a Real or Virtual Tamil Brahmin forum--& is it worthwhile to continue--are we going to discuss Tamil Brahmins' issues or dissipate our energies in Jalpam and Vidhanta.
 
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