marriage
Dear S Bala-ji,
Am not sure if the story of Bhima, Yudhishtra and the moral of it is in anyway related to marriages. Each one has inherited his own karma and fate...what applies to one, cannot apply to another.
All i notice is that in goodtimes no one seems to bother abt religion or caste. In bad times such things gets 'used' as a part of the blame-game.
Ps: also please note that the meaning of shudra (diff meaning) is not inferior: inferior (Shudra). The context of the above verse is just that all are same at birth.
Shri HH,
We have so many books on so many things written by so many people and so many people comprehending in so many ways,ultimately there is a myriad versions of a singular truth,IMHO.
Therefore,the incident in MBH as mentioned by me,is alien news,to some.None of us inherit nothing when we are born nor do we take nothing when we leave our mortal coils.Karma & Fate,are theories based on science,followed by faith.But it is one of the most impressive,theory that i have ever come across in my life.So,i do believe in Karma,re-incarnation...etc as explained by Lord Krishna to Shri Arjuna in our Bhagavath Gita.Shri Sanjaya remotely visualises the conversation between Lord Krishna & Shri Arjuna,and explains verbatim to King Dhritashtra,who is blind physically as well as mentally!!
Bhramana,Kshatriya,Vaisyas,Shudras are personality traits inherent in every human being in the world.How this four types shape up ultimately designates one,in the above categories,is my own interpretation.I am at peace with this mode of thinking process.
Good and bad times,are states of mind only.Equanimity of mind at all times,is what is suggested by our Lord.By surrendering our own self to the Lord,in the state of "Sharanagathi" is the best mode for our Kali Yugam,as expressed by
various enlightened Avatars/Gurus of the past and present.
The context with marriage,as far our minority community Brahmin's ( Tamil,Telegu,Kannada,Kashmiri,USA.....etc) is,what i am practically witnessing as well as what i did in my personal life,when it came to marriage:
Our way of matching horoscopes between bride and bridegroom,is in actuality a very scientific methodology.As all over the world,Time is still divided using the celestial objects like Suryan,Chandran,Chevvai,Budhan,Gurum,Sukran,Shanieswaran.The various sub-sects within the Brahmin fold,allows us,an oppurtunity,to let younger generation mingle amongst themselves,with a sense of responsibility.Times are different,as both bride as well as bridegroom get the same quality of education,which propels them to be independent in economic matters,as well gives them a self-confidence in facing the trials and tribulations of the world scenario today.The education which is imparted is more or less,western conceptualised patterns.Obviously we cannot go back to the Gurukula style of Guru-Shisya Parampara for the majority of population,so in a way,Christian Terrorists who ruled Bharatham for 200 Years have won,so to speak.
What i am suggesting is,young people should be allowed to date within our Brahmin community.Mingle around.While pre-marital sex is prevalent in western world openly unlike in secrecy in Bharatham(minority cases) but thats how the world is being churned by dharmic as well as adharmic forces.
sb