Sri Raghy ji,
You have highlighted the fact....
Your son is correct...
I used to think on the same lines...I am also going through lots of sites desperately. But enjoying very much to see how the girls are dreaming...It's looking cute as well.
The girls who all are looking for a guy with higher qualification than theirs, seems to be accepting a guy of equal qualification at last as if she is getting into a great deal sacrificing her expectations and scrapping the bottom of the barrel.
This makes me feel pity for such girls.
I feel that girls should seek for a guy generally indicating her expectations as - "Qualified and well settled".
Whether a guy is over qualified or not, the basic selection process of a girl includes chatting with the guy and get to know much about him before marriage. A girl would not be marrying a guy just for his qualification and profession. To be happy in life, a girl needs a good husband as her life time the best friend.
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Dear Ms.Amala,
I feel that your claims are true to some extent. But the girls are not at the receiving end in terms of boys expectations.
The parents are forcing their daughters to go for higher education so that they can meet the expectations of boys parents. I reiterate.......to meet the expectations of boys PARENT.......
Highly educated daughters can get into highly paid jobs and can help parents accumulating substantial amount to look for a well to do alliance. Off course to see that their daughters are well married off to a high class family and she lives a rich life.
I feel parents should not pressurize their daughters to do MBBS, BE and any other higher professional studies just to compete with other girls in the society. Such studies can be their daughter's own choice as per her choice and capabilities.
An educated girl, loving to be a house wife and be a good home maker are the preferences of today's boys. A girl, who be a good wife and a good and responsible MOM would make the life of the boys meaningful. Girls education can be just a source of confidence, knowledge and job opportunities when the need arise. Or to look for a comfortable job to keep herself busy and earn some extra bucks provided she could manage herself.
So, I feel, girls who all are simply educated, be at home or working, and prefer to be a home maker need to be much proud of themselves and still can have a good husband who can be her best friend till the destiny.
"A highly qualified and professional guy necessarily can not be a good husband. As well a highly qualified and professional girl necessarily can not be a good wife"
I think girls education and career started out as something to fall back on and protect her in case her husband turns out to be an abuser, unrealiable and irresponsible.
You and RaghyJi are saying about girls expectation being high. Its the same with boys. You say its the boys parents that have the expecatation. I ask you, what is the difference whether it is the boys themselves, their parents or their grand uncles having high expectation about the girl? In an arranged marriage don't the boys always defer to their parents, relatives etc anyway?
In all those matri sites you mentioned I see the same thing with boys as well. If they are MBBS they only want MBBS girls. I agree that no one should be forced to study what they dont want, least of all for marriage purpose.
I'm quite turned off matri sites as I feel everybody is so shrewd and calculating and businesslike in their demands for girls and vice versa. I could never be happy being married to someone who wants me just for my career, education.