Relevant portion from the cited post:
RP had to twist and turn Krunjuppu's words to take offense that his parentage was being questioned. In what ensued, it was repeatedly argued that RP didn't have to twist anything, that was the plain meaning of what K had written.
Now, I hear not a whimper from anyone. This odious Tarpana mantra, as explained by Shri Sangom himself, without any need for anything that can even be remotely construed as twisting, makes each TB performing Tarpanam say that his own mother, not some unknown ancestor beyond grandparents, could have have been an adulterous woman, just can't be sure!!!
Why is nobody taking offense? Given nobody is taking offense to this blatantly offensive mantra, why was RP justified in cursing K with impunity?
This hypocrisy calls desperately out for some sarcasm, but, I have no way of knowing what sarcasm are permitted in this fourm and what are not.
I don't expect any reasonable response to this -- there is probably going to be more arguments and justifications. I am really sorry, I have lost stomach for this kind of open double standard and pliable logic.
Dear Shri Nara,
I feel you are trying to mix two different viewpoints in order to prove .. what, I don't know.
We have to believe that either all of us (tambrams) know well about the actual meaning of this Sraaddha mantra and each one of us lives with a perennial and never-ending doubt not only about mother, grandmother, greatgrandmother, but, by implication, about wife as well. Or, we may take the realistic position that not many people know the meaning of this mantra even if they perform Sraaddha; those who have not yet have to perform Sraaddha do not know about this mantra at all. Even those who are aware of this mantra do not hold it as a guide in leading their day to day life.
If the former case applies, Shri Kunjuppu, in the first place, should not have had to advocate the mixing of blood therapy for genetic cleansing because he ought to have known about this mantra and the scenario it envisages. Your stand will thus be valid only if it is granted that K was not obliged to know about this (and could, therefore, go ahead with his suggestion) but RP should have known about this mantra and so he should not have cursed K. Alternatively others should have known this mantra and hence not objected to K's wording of his post. Is this your stand?
The second scenario - which to me was the reality - tells us that neither K nor RP, nor many others knew about this, and even people like me, who have awareness of this mantra, do not live with the permanent distrust about womenfolk as a religious following of this mantra would entail. If we accept this, what happened between K and RP as well as subsequently, had nothing to do with the existence of this mantra or its meaning.
It is, however, a surprise to me that you chose an argument like this to come to the defence of your friend and attack the rest of the members of this forum!
Finally what do you want this forum to do about this mantra? What if we take offence? Pl. tell us what action we can and should do? If, however, you are hinting at my giving a wrong interpretation of the mantra, I am always willling to be corrected and to apologize for my mistake. But kindly let us know where the mistake is.