Respected members of the forum,
Though i would like to address this post to all i have specifically
given replies to some of the posts by mentioning their names. Also, I
have liberally taken quotes from a few other members which I thought
were appropriate to explain my position. I thank everybody for this.
Thanks.
I also believe that it's my responsibility to the forum to explain my
recent absence. I tried to post a couple of times. But I restrained. I
thought that way I could listen more and speak less. Moreover, I was
busy with a few personal issues till yesterday. After going through
all that has happened in the last four days, I thought I ought to
reply now.
I would like to clarify to all that I am not a fake member with a fake
Id. My id is as good as it can be. I'm the true me. I'm R.
Parthasarathy with an id by the same name. I'm a true tamil brahmin
with my own views and opinions and an access to the internet to share
my views with fellow tamil brahmins and to contribute to this forum in
whatever way possible. I think that's sufficient to become a member of
this forum.Thanks again.
To take a quote from Shri.pannvalan Ji,
"Another important point I repeatedly underscore is, nobody shall
think or believe that he/she must have the last laugh on any
subject/topic. After having exhausted all one's arguments, it will be
a gentleman like behaviour to quit that thread permanently."
To quote from Shri.C. Ravi
"AISI BAANI BOLIYE, MANN KAA AAPA KHOI
AUROn KO SHEETAL MILEY, AAPHU SHEETAL HOI....
- Speak such language, that would make your worries vanish, such that,
others should feel soothing and you too, the same.
BOLI EK AMOL HAI, JO KOI BOLE JAANI
LIYE THARAZU THOLI KE, THAB MUKH BAAHAR AANI..
- Speech is precious, who ever speaks. Should be weighed and than to
be uttered."
To quote from Shri. ShivKC
"when he twisted the JaiHind post of sh.kunjuppu, a clarification
could have been given"
My answer to this, taken from Shri.KRS Ji's response again,
"We can do that easily, but most members agree that we are all adults
here and can fairly regulate our behavior. I remember an instance
where even yourself used some harsh words against Sri RR Ji and Sri
Kunjuppu Ji reminded you both to be civil. Why Sri Kunjuppu Ji left,
in my opinion has nothing to do with what Sri RP Ji said. Please go
back and read ALL the relevant postings and you will understand."
Quote from Shri.ShivKC,
"had some of those personal attacks of sh.partha targetting sh.nara
and kunjuppu been clipped we wouldnt have ended up in such a painful
situation. can we get him back. and even if he comesback, will he be
having the same enthusiasm.
Partha twisted kunjuppus words.
Partha did personal attacks
few innocent senior souls picked upon the twisted version of partha,
and picked back on kunjuppu.
all the three mistakes must have hurt sh.kunjuppu. whats the solution.
the answer starts with a question."
My response:
I decided to answer your post in spite of sufficient number of
explanations already given so that your misconceptions about me are
removed.
I never twisted Shri.Kunjuppu's words. I called a spade a spade. I saw
an attack on the entire tambrahm ancestry which I protested, though he
personally attacked my "JaiHind" signature as well.Even then I did
not venture into personal attacks against Shri.Kunjuppu sir. I just
conveyed my hurt and agony over his statements while expressing my
strong objections to some of the personal statements Shri.Nara Ji made
against me. Please reread those posts. My anger was towards Shri. Nara
Ji's tirade against me as I had addressed to both of them separately.
I would like to make it clear that I do not belong to the category of "An insane newcomer" to the forum.
Anyway enough explanations have been already given by people like
Shri.Sangom sir, Shri.Raghy sir and Shri. KRS sir. I don't have much
to add except to request you to read all the posts throughly to
understand whatever happened. If you still feel i was wrong, I cannot
do much about it.
To Shri. Raghy sir,
To Quote from Shri. Raghy's message
"
Sri. R.Parthasarathy Sir,
Greetings. Where are you? How come you are not posting any message
here? Did you come to this forum with a negative intent as
Sri.Kunjuppu suspects? If I were you, I would have posted many
messages, just to show I am for real. I am looking forward to hear
from you.
Cheers!"
My response :
Thanks Shri.Raghy Ji. I cannot forget the timely advice that you
offered to me when things were going wrong. I had alredy acknowledged
it in one of my earlier posts. I would again thank you for that. If at
all I showed any restraint for some of the personal attacks against
me, that's because of your reminder and advice to wait long enough
before posting. That gave me time to think. That gave me time to
decide not to take any personal attacks on me personally.
PS: But I cannot bear it when you also suspect my intentions for
joining this forum. I would like to make it clear that my intentions
for joining this forum were as good as one can have. I again reiterate
to all those who are concerned that I am not a fraudster or fake
member who join a forum to create trouble there. Thanks again for your
understanding Shri.Raghy Ji.
Taking a quote from Shri.Sangom Ji, (to explain my position)
"This is not clear to me. Where did you - or, for that matter, I - got
into "discussion on policy" in the Kunjuppu Vs RP issue? I stil feel
that Shri Kunjuppu, as a very senior member and also a senior person
in age (unless RP is elder to K - we don't know, but judging by RP's
sentiments he appears to me to be young), could have shown more
restraint on his part. I have been trying to tell that the use of the
words "your grandfather" in Kunjuppu's post was not in good taste at
all; on first reading, I was also astounded by this direct attack but
later convinced myself that this could be either the Canadian style of
English or a typo for "our"; either way it was not good because this
is a global forum and we have to be extra careful in writing. That is
why, in my view, RP got flared up because he felt K was directly
insulting RP's lineage itself. For example my family chart of more
than 9 generations is with most of my family members and if someone
were to tell me that my great grandfather or great grandmother was not
born to brahmin parents, I will definitely not relish it."
That sums up it all..!! That was my stand too.
I would like to reiterate again that I have my opinions as everybody
else. If I come to know that my opinions hurt somebody, I feel very
bad for it. I introspect. I ensure that I don't be a cause for
somebody's hurt. That's the way I work. I prefer working that way.
To Shri. Kunjuppu Ji,
I would like to make one last attempt to request Shri.Kunjuppu Ji to
return back posting in this forum if he's reading this. I, like many
other members , would like to hear from you more. We, as newcomers,
may not concur with you on all your opinions.But overtime, we may see
the kind of picture you or Shri. sangom Ji have seen.I had mentioned
this in one of my earliest posts. You might note that in all my posts,
I have addressed to you politely since I have high regards for you.
You suspected my credentials, mocked at my ancestry and my signature.
I had to convey my resentment.But i already had made it clear that my
attacks were against your statements, not against you. I have nothing
personal against you or Shri.Nara Ji. If at all you feel that I'm
responsible for your departure from this forum, I'm very sorry for
that. I'm trying to make one last attempt at convincing you. I did not
concur with you only on IC marriages. Otherwise, your views and
opinions are very valuable to the forum. Kindly reconsider your
decision to quit and reconsider contributing to the forums as
always.Thanks and Regards.
To all the members again,
I would like to very much continue as a member of this esteemed,
democratic forum. I'm very happy at the way this forum is run. I
would like to contribute to the discussions as always. Please note
that if somebody is absent for a period, it may be due to several
reasons. A member could be absent if he is ill, he is busy with other
engagements or for someother reasons. Even if a member is hurt by some
of the happenings in the forum, he can take time to contemplate,
introspect and recuperate. Once ready, he would be back to the forum
if his original intentions were genuine. So, please desist from making
any conclusions about his authenticity and about the genuiness of his
id.This is just a personal request to the members of the forum.
I continue to be a proud tamil brahmin and would like to continue as a member of this forum.
Finally, my apologies for a relatively lengthy post. I couldn't help it.
