I do understand that.. what I was trying to tell my MIL was all people are the same, you are not in the same position when you were able to move mountains and if it were in India, I would be the one caring 100% for you, but since we all have to work, this is a compromise, in fact I had opted to quit my job and take care of her, but I was very strongly advised not to by her son, so I had no choice but let her be taken care of by nurses during the day, but at night I took care of her and had with me a baby monitor, in case she needed me since her room was a bit on the other side, but I don't think I used it ever, since I was there the moment I felt I heard something, and very quickly i moved to be n her room and my younger daughter used to take over on Friday and Saturday nights. but the weekends, my children and I took care of her.. it was not all that difficult, once you care for someone, it is not a chore.. she was a great grandmother and a great mother for her boys..
I lived with her for 25 years..