dear vgane,
in my extended family, i know of only one - my paternal cousin's son who is pushing 30+ and i just heard a few days ago that his father is unable to find a bride. also, i was told that this cousin wants to start off each case with horoscope matching, and also his son is only a graduate (apparently graduate girls want post graduate guys).
i have been attending a lot of marriages of my nephews and nieces in the past 5 years, and all of them have been love marriage, albeit all of them within india, to fellow tambrams. outside of india, it is all over.
only one niece was arranged through the internet, and within hours of posting she got 250 responses (!) which surprised my sister who initiated this. the boys literally came begging, again a surprise as my niece was considered less than மான் நிறம் and not employed. this happened about 7 years ago i think.
it was only then that i had first hand experience about the situation re arranged marriage in tambram community, although i had heard hearsay of this earlier.
what has been happening now for about 10+ years, i think, cannot be stopped overnight. those 30+ bachelors need to find their own spouses, and in this context, loosen up their requirements as much as it would permit, to achieve the end result. or remain bachelors till the end of their lives.
i really dont know, what use there is in finding about the total number of 30+ bachelors unable to find a tambram spouse. each one is a world to himself, and i think, there is no way we can overnight produce girls to meet these needs. it is upto each to find a solution that is within their level of comfort. or just plain give up. what else to say?
anda:
