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Sign of dangerous times...?

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auh said:
Just read a news today:

School girl shot in classroom by jilted lover who then killed himself | NDTV.com

This topic has been touched upon several times in several times, maybe. Perhaps due to the impact of cinema and its flagship plot of one-sided romance.

I just shudder to think of the times, say another 15 to 20 years, when girls, even inside school or at home, might be at high risk.

Worrying, to say the least.
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Don't worry. Changing times not only throw up problems but also their own solutions too. The girls will in course of time be carrying guns and will turn out to be real pistol vaalis -fast in drawing and shooting from the hip. Poor lovers-jilted or not- will have to run for cover.
 
I feel some Indian males have a problem taking NO for an answer.

What is so hard to move on to try for another chick if one chick rejects you?

I see some obsessive behavior of not being able to accept NO from a female..hence the rape and killing we see on the rise.

I feel many feel that there is only One True love for each person in their life..and get really dejected when they are rejected and their brains go into revenge mode.

It is high time people realize that one can fall in love many times at any time or stage in our live and it will always feel like the first time all over again!
 
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Dear Vaagmi

Your post # 2

You remind me of some horrible movies like "Gunfight Kanchana" , "Revolver Rita " & " Rocket Rani " !
[ don't worry, if you missed seeing them, you really haven't missed anything in life ].
And the bad girl made famous by Pran's favorite dialogue " Mona Darrrrling .... " .

But I think you are right, the way things are going, I can't but agree with you or auh - women, soon are
going to be in dire need of self-defense training and equipment. Laws are not enough and the law-enforcing
machinery is all warped.

Yay Yem
PS: I hope somebody comes up with some additive to common salt that will prevent spikes in hormone levels
- something like how Iodized Salts were made mandatory by Health Authorities to address problems
caused by Iodine deficiency.
 
Anand Manohar said:
Yay Yem
PS: I hope somebody comes up with some additive to common salt that will prevent spikes in hormone levels
- something like how Iodized Salts were made mandatory by Health Authorities to address problems
caused by Iodine deficiency.
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Yes..crystallized OCP(oral contraceptive) granules added to salt..males will become effeminate and females wont get pregnant by any hook of any crook!
 
I agree with the doctor, in her observations in #3. I tend to feel that Indians glorify a lot on "first love" being "true" love fulfilling conditions of "only" love and all that.
 
renuka said:
I feel some Indian males have a problem taking NO for an answer.

What is so hard to move on to try for another chick if one chick rejects you?

I see some obsessive behavior of not being able to accept NO from a female..hence the rape and killing we see on the rise.

I feel many feel that there is only One True love for each person in their life..and get really dejected when they are rejected and their brains go into revenge mode.

It is high time people realize that one can fall in love many times at any time or stage in our live and it will always feel like the first time all over again!
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I am not sure whether it is a simple 'no' right at the first move. It must be taking the guy all the way up in the garden path and then suddenly ditching him (giving halva in the language of common man) that creates this kind of a vengeance mind set. This is not justifying anything. Just a guess.
 
Vaagmi said:
I am not sure whether it is a simple 'no' right at the first move. It must be taking the guy all the way up in the garden path and then suddenly ditching him (giving halva in the language of common man) that creates this kind of a vengeance mind set. This is not justifying anything. Just a guess.
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I don't think so Sir! Our movies have spoiled the minds of many youngsters.

A tea supplier loving a college girl and a thug molesting a well educated girl are two examples.

One pretty girl in our family was chased by a thug while going to college and her father warned him to keep away.

The he had to escort her to the college nearly for a month, since he feared that the guy might harm the girl, may be
even throw an acid bottle on her face! :fear:
 
auh said:
I agree with the doctor, in her observations in #3. I tend to feel that Indians glorify a lot on "first love" being "true" love fulfilling conditions of "only" love and all that.
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Dear Auh Ji,

Yes Yes..you are right..

Thats why Kamal says it well here:

[video=youtube_share;En6hkViaDS4]http://youtu.be/En6hkViaDS4[/video]
 
Vaagmi said:
I am not sure whether it is a simple 'no' right at the first move. It must be taking the guy all the way up in the garden path and then suddenly ditching him (giving halva in the language of common man) that creates this kind of a vengeance mind set. This is not justifying anything. Just a guess.
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Dear Vaagmi ji,

Even marriages can end in divorce..so when in a relationship..the option for a break up is always there....so if it breaks..just lie low for as short while before next move....don't wait too long otherwise it will be difficult to get back in the "hunting" market.. then make the move for the next person or respond to others who might be interested in us.

Who asked anyone to get 100% involved with anyone??

Always view anyone with a slight suspicion so that there is always room in us to safe guard our feelings if the situation of a break up or divorce occurs.

One must lay their cards well and play them well so that both can play the game and enjoy the game at the same time be able to get out of the Chakravyuh..so in Love never be an Abhimanyu....always know how to get in and how to get out!
 
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I heard two separate incidents, from my colleagues, yesterday:

1) A brother killed his sister and her FIL, and attempted to kill his BIL wounding him seriously in the process, and in the end tried to kill himself. All this because of a property dispute wherein the sister had claimed her share (after getting the jewels that were supposedly not given to the brother) and had attempted to defame him by distributing notices of his attempt to cheat her. Both brother and sister were known as good and soft spoken people and had helped my colleague's aging mother on several occasions.

2) A doctor killed his wife and MIL and committed suicide, leaving behing a suicide note that says that his wife killed his 3 month baby and that was the reason for his act.

This might seem unrelated to the OP, but I am constrained to think that as a society, we have become more violent and intolerant, and where previously we used to limit our altercations with words, it has now stepped into deeds.

What could be the reasons? Is it only the effect of celluloid? or the gradual change in our lifestyle, a change in our simplistic attitude and the greed for more? or perhaps all of these and more...
 
auh said:
............. What could be the reasons? Is it only the effect of celluloid? or the gradual change in our lifestyle, a change in our simplistic attitude and the greed for more? or perhaps all of these and more...
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Not only celluloid but also the mega mahA serials on the T V channels.

Every other story is based on taking revenge. This surely corrupts the minds of people.

Human values are on the decline and money rules the world! :whip:
 
Raji Ram said:

Human values are on the decline and money rules the world! :whip:
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Dear RR ji,

I somehow do not think that human values is on the decline only now and yesteryear Purushas were all Uttamans!

It is just that there is media coverage now and those days we had no idea who did what and where.
 

Dear Renu,

Un-utthama purushas and un-utthama purushis existed all the time.

Now the percentage seems to be more and hence my conclusion! :decision:
 
Raji Ram said:

Dear Renu,

Un-utthama purushas and un-utthama purushis existed all the time.

Now the percentage seems to be more and hence my conclusion! :decision:
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Dear RR ji,

I still feel the number was almost the same cos if we observe relatives..older relatives in their younger days we not so give and take in policy..everything was a matter of gauravam and family prestige but these days most of us(mid 40's) are less bothered about Gauravam and give and take easily.

I have older relatives who have the proud feeling that they only give as in donations and do not take anything from anyone and hence avoid eating in house of others and avoid taking any gifts from anyone..but the younger ones do not mind giving and also being friendly with others and eat anywhere cos it is fun also to let others share their joy of giving to us too.
 
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Can the Indian male mindset towards women ever be changed?


From being stared and groped to attacked in even metro cities, women are facing ever more threats. A deep-seated mindset of treating women as objects or secondary citizens seems to be at work among many Indian males.
Speak Out - Home - The Times of India
 
Dear Renu,

I beg to differ! In the yesteryears, we could enter the kitchen of all our relatives and they were very happy to share

with us what ever they had prepared on that day. They did not need any prior notice! But now, we have to give a phone

call and make sure that they are free to receive us. In most of the houses, entry into the kitchen is banned!

And, I was mentioning that, in general, the good virtues in humans are on the decline. :sad:
 
prasad1 said:
Can the Indian male mindset towards women ever be changed?


From being stared and groped to attacked in even metro cities, women are facing ever more threats. A deep-seated mindset of treating women as objects or secondary citizens seems to be at work among many Indian males.
Speak Out - Home - The Times of India
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Dear Prasad ji,

I feel over all men regardless of race have the same thinking but it is just that the Indian male makes it more evident by criminalizing their actions.

There is a hot case going on here between a Bosnian man and his Asian(Non Indian wife) both fighting in court!

He is claiming that she made use of him for his sperm!

He said that he is European (Bosnian) and has superior genes and his wife married him just to improve her lineage with superior genes and then ditched him.

She is claiming that he physically abused her after marriage cos she thought no end of himself and he was a bigot and she could not stand life with him anymore and now she is claiming that her genes are better than his!

So you see..this rather plain looking Bosnian actually thought he has superior genes and abused his Asian wife.

Ahbabovic?s ex-girlfriend dismisses claims she wanted his sperm - Nation | The Star Online
 
Raji Ram said:
Dear Renu,

I beg to differ! In the yesteryears, we could enter the kitchen of all our relatives and they were very happy to share

with us what ever they had prepared on that day. They did not need any prior notice! But now, we have to give a phone

call and make sure that they are free to receive us. In most of the houses, entry into the kitchen is banned!

And, I was mentioning that, in general, the good virtues in humans are on the decline. :sad:
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This was the norm in our house earlier...My mother always used to keep some extra food so that in case any of the relatives come (They were close to us in Chennai in a radius of 4-5 kms) we can serve them

But nowadays as the female members are also employed couples prepare limited food as and when required Or else they prepare food and store the balance available in Fridge...Also there are no joint families...We have nuclear families...We also do not have so many relatives nearby who will troop in to ask Sowkiyama...We are all a phone call away...So they visit with prior appointment only

Assumptions have changed....So the kitchen has also changed
 
Raji Ram said:
In most of the houses, entry into the kitchen is banned!

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Dear RR ji,

But isn't this normal?? Not to enter anyone's kitchen?

I would feel extremely uncomfortable if anyone enters my kitchen sans permission.

Anyway I do not call anyone to my house so I seldom face this problem.
 

Dear Renu,

I am a bit different! I have a tiny bench in my kitchen for the visiting mAmis to sit and talk to me while I cook.

If they enter my house in a short notice, I prepare fresh puris and coconut 'thogaiyal' and serve the fast food! :D

In fact, one of our friend mAmAs bought a puri press for his better half, after seeing the speed in which puris were ready!

:gossip: That mAmA had to make the puri dough into circles when mAmi made puris. So he was happy to buy a puri press,

which saved him from struggling with the rolling pin!! :dance:
 
Dear Tmt RR

Now I know where I should sit when I come to your house - Pooris & Thogaiyal - Wow.

How are you placed this Sunday ? [ 8th Sept.] I will check with Dr Ross about his convenience
and see if it is ok with him we could bring him over too.

So h'bout ?

Yay Yem

PS - Please see if you could rope in Ravi & Dr Narayani too - we can each bring something and
share it at your place - thereby going 'dutch ' ? TVK too was somewhere here - near Tiruvanmiyur
if have his contact number, maybe I could call him and pick him up too. What say ?
 
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