Suicide by Mahadevan, husband of singer Nityashree

[Subhalakshmi]

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Very sorry for Nithyashree's loss.. may her husband's soul be blessed.. I heard he has been very close to his mother and when he lost her he might have gone into severe depression... He may or may not be insecure.. he was caught up with too much sentiment for his mother.. Mothers also have a very strong bond and can dominate a child even through his married life, a lot of us have experienced this.. it is very unfortunate that someone decides to end his life, and I feel this is a extremely selfish act, if only he or she thinks for a moment what a world they will leave after they have gone and if they truly care for their family they would never do such a thing.. death is inevitable and can come to anyone at any time, but taking one's life without the concern for others is terribly wrong..

There is a huge number of army men who commit suicide because of the post war depression.. and even that is not justifiable.. they did their duty for the country but in their mind they keep blaming themselves .. one has to have a strong mind.. many of us have normal lives and can sit here and contemplate but what goes in the minds of such individuals no one will ever know.. it is very sad.

At different times, while visiting Madras and here in the US, I encountered younger generation who was quite seriously contemplating suicide, I told them about all the down side of what will happen to their family and also all the misery is because of visiting the negative place time and time makes them angry and sad, these folks realized their foolishness.. I was very happy that they have changed their minds and are normal again..

Men and women come from different background and when rich marry the poor it is always a challenge, the man or woman who is not that affluent should never develop insecurity that is what causes the rift and mostly it starts very harmless, unless the other spouse does not realize this and works towards dissipating the stress the other has, it will continue and manifest into a very unhappy marriage.. Both have to work for the marriage to be successful.. we all have our faults but if only we can learn not to sweat the small stuff it would be for the best..

Just felt like writing on whatever came to my mind on the subject.. I am not here to challenge anyone or say what is wrong or right, just my opinion or two cents if i may..

 

[tbs]

Very sorry for Nithyashree's loss.. may her husband's soul be blessed.. I heard he has been very close to his mother and when he lost her he might have gone into severe depression... He may or may not be insecure.. he was caught up with too much sentiment for his mother.. Mothers also have a very strong bond and can dominate a child even through his married life, a lot of us have experienced this.. it is very unfortunate that someone decides to end his life, and I feel this is a extremely selfish act, if only he or she thinks for a moment what a world they will leave after they have gone and if they truly care for their family they would never do such a thing.. death is inevitable and can come to anyone at any time, but taking one's life without the concern for others is terribly wrong..

There is a huge number of army men who commit suicide because of the post war depression.. and even that is not justifiable.. they did their duty for the country but in their mind they keep blaming themselves .. one has to have a strong mind.. many of us have normal lives and can sit here and contemplate but what goes in the minds of such individuals no one will ever know.. it is very sad.

At different times, while visiting Madras and here in the US, I encountered younger generation who was quite seriously contemplating suicide, I told them about all the down side of what will happen to their family and also all the misery is because of visiting the negative place time and time makes them angry and sad, these folks realized their foolishness.. I was very happy that they have changed their minds and are normal again..

Men and women come from different background and when rich marry the poor it is always a challenge, the man or woman who is not that affluent should never develop insecurity that is what causes the rift and mostly it starts very harmless, unless the other spouse does not realize this and works towards dissipating the stress the other has, it will continue and manifest into a very unhappy marriage.. Both have to work for the marriage to be successful.. we all have our faults but if only we can learn not to sweat the small stuff it would be for the best..

Just felt like writing on whatever came to my mind on the subject.. I am not here to challenge anyone or say what is wrong or right, just my opinion or two cents if i may..

hi
i agreed..im a an army vetran....we have PTSD PROBLEM in our daily life,,,,but suicide is not a sollution....its behavior

problem....mental health problem.....one day we have to die....but atleast family comes first....the children are most

vulnerable due to parents unjustified behavior....

 

[renuka]

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Vulture Stalking a Child

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In March 1993, photographer Kevin Carter made a trip to southern Sudan, where he took now iconic photo of a vulture preying upon an emaciated Sudanese toddler near the village of Ayod. Carter said he waited about 20 minutes, hoping that the vulture would spread its wings. It didn’t. Carter snapped the haunting photograph and chased the vulture away. (The parents of the girl were busy taking food from the same UN plane Carter took to Ayod).

The photograph was sold to The New York Times where it appeared for the first time on March 26, 1993 as ‘metaphor for Africa’s despair’. Practically overnight hundreds of people contacted the newspaper to ask whether the child had survived, leading the newspaper to run an unusual special editor’s note saying the girl had enough strength to walk away from the vulture, but that her ultimate fate was unknown.

Journalists in the Sudan were told not to touch the famine victims, because of the risk of transmitting disease, but Carter came under criticism for not helping the girl.

”The man adjusting his lens to take just the right frame of her suffering might just as well be a predator, another vulture on the scene,” read one editorial.Carter eventually won the Pulitzer Prize for this photo, but he couldn’t enjoy it. “I’m really, really sorry I didn’t pick the child up,” he confided in a friend. Consumed with the violence he’d witnessed, and haunted by the questions as to the little girl’s fate, he committed suicide three months later.

 

[vgane]

Renukaji,

What is the relevance of this photo to the thread?

 

[amala]

Maybe his mother was the only one he could offload his issues to. His wife was probably very busy putting food on the table and with concerts/ tv programmes and stuff. Its really very hard for both tbh. And now shes left to face the public alone...everyone wondering but maybe not saying aloud, what had she done for him to take the decision he had. Everytime we think the rich and famous have no worries, things like these remind us that even they have their demons to face.

 

[amala]

Renukaji,

What is the relevance of this photo to the thread?

I have no idea myself but perhaps the vulture is the public and the child is Smt Nityashree?!

 

[kunjuppu]

I have no idea myself but perhaps the vulture is the public and the child is Smt Nityashree?!

i was thinking the same.. though the vulture could be the newsmedia?

apparently, according to newsmedia, on hearing of her husband's suicide, nithyasree herself attempted something and was rushed to the hospital. only God knows..

 

[amala]

Yes i heard that she tried too but later in this forum or somewhere they said its a rumour and not true at all...so not sure.

 

[Subhalakshmi]

Iconic Photos

Famous, Infamous and Iconic Photos

Vulture Stalking a Child

with 241 comments

In March 1993, photographer Kevin Carter made a trip to southern Sudan, where he took now iconic photo of a vulture preying upon an emaciated Sudanese toddler near the village of Ayod. Carter said he waited about 20 minutes, hoping that the vulture would spread its wings. It didn’t. Carter snapped the haunting photograph and chased the vulture away. (The parents of the girl were busy taking food from the same UN plane Carter took to Ayod).

The photograph was sold to The New York Times where it appeared for the first time on March 26, 1993 as ‘metaphor for Africa’s despair’. Practically overnight hundreds of people contacted the newspaper to ask whether the child had survived, leading the newspaper to run an unusual special editor’s note saying the girl had enough strength to walk away from the vulture, but that her ultimate fate was unknown.

Journalists in the Sudan were told not to touch the famine victims, because of the risk of transmitting disease, but Carter came under criticism for not helping the girl.

”The man adjusting his lens to take just the right frame of her suffering might just as well be a predator, another vulture on the scene,” read one editorial.Carter eventually won the Pulitzer Prize for this photo, but he couldn’t enjoy it. “I’m really, really sorry I didn’t pick the child up,” he confided in a friend. Consumed with the violence he’d witnessed, and haunted by the questions as to the little girl’s fate, he committed suicide three months later.

I did read about this also, I can fully understand his anguish and pain, questioning himself why he had not tried to help that child.. Again, he became the victim of public opinion and since he was always in the public eye, no matter what he did, might have been criticized.. He should have been stronger, it is very sad that he did commit suicide.. it is not easy for someone who is traumatized after witnessing horrific scenes of violence to go on the deep end.. still it is very sad very sad.. You see the world lost another caring photographer and his family perhaps is regretting his death so much ...

 

[Subhalakshmi]

Dear All, Theirs, especially that of D.K. Pattammal;s genius / inherited by this Grand Daughter


, well knit We all feel extremely SAD, God should give the much needed strength of mind & for
titude , We should wait for the day she comes out & ensure proper treatment in the society
Rishikesan

Was the husband related in some way to Madurai Mani Iyer??? I may be wrong, but vaguely remember hearing that..

As for Nithyashree, we all have to wait and pray for her to bear this tragedy and god give her peace and solace, I hope that the media would let her be for some time, until SHE IS READY TO FACE THE PUBLIC. Paavam..

 

[renuka]

Renukaji,

What is the relevance of this photo to the thread?

My dear..the thread is about suicide..Subbu Ji and TBS garu were speaking about post traumatic stress syndrome that affect even army men..so I put this story here about a man who commited suicide becos he felt guilty that he did not help the child.

Suicide is a complex situation and multi factorial..a lot of people sometimes feel guilty to be alive when they have seen suffering in front of their eyes.

Ex army men who watch their friends die in front of their eye sometime feel they should have died too.
Watch National Geographic interviews of WW2 veterans and they relate how they feel guilty to be alive.

I hope you understand the relevance of the pic now.

 

[renuka]

I did read about this also, I can fully understand his anguish and pain, questioning himself why he had not tried to help that child.. Again, he became the victim of public opinion and since he was always in the public eye, no matter what he did, might have been criticized.. He should have been stronger, it is very sad that he did commit suicide.. it is not easy for someone who is traumatized after witnessing horrific scenes of violence to go on the deep end.. still it is very sad very sad.. You see the world lost another caring photographer and his family perhaps is regretting his death so much ...

Dear Subbu ji,

I am glad at least you understood the relevance of the pic I put in this thread.

Suicide as I said in my earlier post in multi factoral...it is actually not even a selfish act.

The mind of a person contemplating suicide has lost its judgement and sees death as a relieve to their current situation.

Everyone seeks happiness..for the suicidal mind death brings happiness..end of their suffering.

 

[kunjuppu]

Was the husband related in some way to Madurai Mani Iyer??? I may be wrong, but vaguely remember hearing that..

As for Nithyashree, we all have to wait and pray for her to bear this tragedy and god give her peace and solace, I hope that the media would let her be for some time, until SHE IS READY TO FACE THE PUBLIC. Paavam..

palghat mani iyer.

nityasree mother, mani daughter, married to, pattammal son.

 

[Raji Ram]

palghat mani iyer.

nityasree mother, mani daughter, married to, pattammal son.

Yes! Smt N S's parents are Smt. Lalitha, Sri. Palghat Mani Iyer's daughter

and Sri. I. Sivakumar, Smt. D. K. Pattammal's son.

 

[Raghy]

Greetings.

For some reason Madhavan was blamed for committing suicide in this thread by few members. For some members it seems it would be always man's fault... a policy which can be very judgmental.

Mahadevan was a victim too. We don't really know the ghosts he was fighting. He succumbed to them; that's all we know now.

It is so hard to understand human mind... my latest client is a fresh faced youngsters. All bright and charming.. I started preparing his presentation paperwork... found out in the past the youngster was charged with attempted murder, caught with the proposed murder weapon in hand and with the intentions. Very lucky for the youngster, the police didn't shoot down. By the way, that youngster was going to kill the parents.

We don't know the human mind. If I am not wrong, that youngster would be anxious about a dark skinned total stranger named Raghy going through the deepest of his closets. That would be my first concern when I think in his shoes.

People are readily judgmental about strangers since they readily distance themselves from such strangers and start doling out judgments and opinions against them; the same may not be true about their dear and near.

Suicide is a highly traumatic situation for any family. In my opinion, it is best for the strangers not to pass judgment or opinions about any of the affected members of that family that includes the person passed away.

Cheers!

 

[Raji Ram]

......... Suicide is a highly traumatic situation for any family. In my opinion, it is best for the strangers not to pass judgment or opinions about any of the affected members of that family that includes the person passed away. ...

This was posted on the so called dooms day, 21 - 12 - 12 as post # 13!

Dear friends,

The unfortunate decision and death of Sri. Mahadevan will be a good topic of discussion for the 'rumor spreaders'.

Let us not go into the details of what lead to his suicide but ONLY pray the Almighty to give enough strength to the

highly talented singer Smt. Nithyasree, to bear the loss and continue her career as a successful musician.

வெறும் வாயையே மெல்லும் 'மீடியா'வுக்கு ஒரு பிடி அவல் கிடைத்துள்ளது! இந்த இணையதளத்தில்

நாம் அது போன்று 'மெல்லாது' இருப்போம்! நன்றி! :gossip: . . :nono:

 

[kunjuppu]

i tend to agree in principle with posts #116, #117.

normally, if it someone whom we dont know, and we read about it in the papers, we shrug, and do not even spend an extra second on it.

but then NM was a public figure, atleast among the CM circles. for those involved in the same, there is a sense of affection, protection, in addition, to feeling of ethnic kinship - all this surfaces, knowingly or otherwise, and hence not only are we distressed, but tend to discourage any discussion whatsoever of such an incident.

on the other hand, let us say a similar thing happens to someone in our central government or seats of power, or even in DMK, would we be so retiscient?

everything is relative isn't it?

one man's feast is another man's pois(s)on?

 

[Raghy]

Greetings.

For some reason Madhavan was blamed for committing suicide in this thread by few members. For some members it seems it would be always man's fault... a policy which can be very judgmental.


Let us not dissect the life story of the dead person.
Let us not fling mud and dirt on his memory.
Let us not misspell and mutilate his name.
He has suffered enough already - while alive and after death!

This is mud slinging. I edited my message #115 at 6.15 PM. Mud slinging is done at 8.40 PM. that is 2 hours and 25 minutes later.

In that same post #115 I wrote this too

Suicide is a highly traumatic situation for any family. In my opinion, it is best for the strangers not to pass judgment or opinions about any of the affected members of that family that includes the person passed away.

If required I will respond in kind to the mud slinging.

Raghy.

 

[Raghy]

Greetings.

I made a honest mistake of mentioning Mahadevan as 'Madhavan' in two places in post #115. I noticed it and edited that, but edited only in one place. Overlooked the other place.

Someone wants to put that mistake under microscope and wants to blow it huge. I just like to mind my own friggin business. I am not offending anyone any where.

I don't want to be dragged in mud slinging. But I can play the same game very well. I will not resort to inneundos either. I will be direct. I will not spare personal attacks either. When I am attacked, I see no reason to be a gentleman. I will take that fight to any thread I choose.

This message I have to write well ahead so that forum members will know I am not starting any fight with anybody. Someone wants to drag me in a conflict as mentioned in post #118.

Cheers!